Husband upset about teachers saying ' boys can wear make up ' and taking about transgender people to our DD

[chocolatehu]

Before I start, this isn't meant to be inflammatory in any way.

I very much belief in ' live and let live '.

My husband also generally believes that but he also believes that our DD is very young and that talk around the kinds of things mentioned in my title - is too soon.

We have a son too and sometimes when he wants to put on makeup etc, my DH will say ' boys don't wear makeup '. My DD has come home several times, correcting us saying that her teacher told her that boys do wear makeup.

Yesterday my son was trying to wear hair clips and again, someone said ' those are for girls '. My DD answered that her teacher had told her that it was ok for boys to do those things and that her friend ( who's a boy ) is now getting married as a girl.

My husband feels it's too soon and confusing for a 4 year old to be told about this.

I think it's a sign we need to have some conversations with my DD, so she hears from us about this stuff.

My in laws and parents think it's completely inappropriate for teachers to be saying this sort of stuff and are wondering if the same sort of things would be said in a catholic school setting.

I think we should buy a book which explains homosexuality/ transgender issues in a child friendly way.

Please can someone who's been here, help me navigate ? Thank you. Again, I don't want to offend anyone.

There have always been people, including children, who are gender non conforming.

Little boys who like pink sparkly stuff and little girls who refuse to wear dresses. We've had lots of names for these children over the years. Sissies, tomboys, probably others I can't think of right now. But because a group of adult males wanted access to women's spaces and knew that the general public wouldn't be particularly sympathetic to them, these perfectly normal, healthy children have now been rebranded "trans kids" in order to create a vulnerable group which most people feel sorry for, who must be treated as though they are the opposite sex. And if some people must be treated as though they are the opposite sex, anyone who demands it can be treated as though they are the opposite sex. Because there's no purity test, and we've now accepted that "trans people" are the most vulnerable in society.

Thanks for clearing that up.
Absolutely ridiculous, it makes as much sense as men who would never let their boys play with dolls because it might make them gay

That was my reply to the person who quoted and correct me.

It's definitely there. I'm not sure what else you want me to say 😳