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AIBU to feel uncomfortable about sharing pronouns?

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Oodiks · 16/10/2024 22:52

I am on the interview panel for a junior position in my office and have been given a sample set of interview questions to amend as necessary for the advertised post. It's a 2-person panel and the other person is happy to share their pronouns but I'd rather not. Also, the first question invites them to tell us a little bit about themselves, where they are from, what their interests are, and what their pronouns are.

It seems to me that if the other person on the panel shares their pronouns and I don't then it shows that sharing is optional, and I'd like to change the interview question to tell them they are welcome to share their pronouns if they choose rather than straight out ask them.

Am I being unreasonable to feel uncomfortable about sharing pronouns or not?

Thoughts?

OP posts:
TeabySea · 25/10/2024 15:35

itsgettingweird · 18/10/2024 16:49

I wouldn't be happy about sharing my pronouns either.

Purely because for the first 40 years of my life people managed to look at me and get them right!

The fact my name is unisex and much more common for males in the 80's made non facial contact and pronoun use interesting 😂

Actually even last month I went to an appointment and had been put down as Mr despite the fact I'm sure the referral must have had my name on and miss 🧐

I put mine in written correspondence because my name is unisex.
If people get it wrong in the first place, that's usually fine, but it I include the information for clarity. I don't disclose my marital status in the majority of interactions as it is usually irrelevant.
I have noticed a difference in how people initially approach me if they don't know what sex I am - almost always more helpful and direct when they think they're dealing with a man.

Itsallfunngamesuntil · 25/10/2024 15:39

What a load of claptrap

If I got asked that at interview stage I'd prob back out n decide the company isn't for me

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