to be disappointed in this newborn present?

[mysticalgardens]

Friends of ours had their 1st baby a couple of months ago around the same time we had our 3rd baby.

Because it was their first child, I put great effort in buying them an amazing gift. I spent well over 100 pounds and put gifts in the box for the baby as well as the new mom and dad (think of nice tea, hot chocolate and soap and glory stuff for her)

I didn't expect them to reciprocate this, I know not everyone has the money available to spend so much time on a gift.

However, when they came over, she gave
me a bag from Shein. When I opened it it had the most disgusting plastic polyester smell. It contained a pink towel and a pink body suit for my baby girl that were made out of really cheap polyester material.

It smelled so bad that I threw it away after they had left.

My sister is due to have her 3rd child at the end of November. She already has a lot, but I bought her some nice socks, body suits and trousers for the baby from Asda (George). The stuff is really lovely and was inexpensive.

So I know that nice baby clothes don't have to cost a lot at all.

AIBU to be a bit disappointed that they made 0 effort when choosing their present?

Tesco is going to start selling clothing on its website again, according to the business section of the Times.

You wouldn't but many will, I see many people in my day job. Who can not even afford charity shop items so when Shein give huge discounts they are happy to have something new for their child. You and a good few others on here sound like snobs to be honest. And why would you throw it away Surly there is a baby bank or homeless charity close by who would have taken it

I would have kept it, washed it, took a photo in it and the said it got stained. I certainly wouldn't have binned it but that's your choice.

You don't know they did not take trouble, you just didn't like the gift - though throwing it away was a bit extreme; you must have money to burn. You probably embarrassed her with such a large gift as you gave, too. Never have I either given or received such a large present between friends for any occasion. You sound snobbish and as if you only give to receive and weigh gifts by what they cost, not why they were given. You don't sound a very nice person, I'm afraid.
NB What you give your sister is miles away from what you might expect from a friend - bit cheap, going to George though (in your apparent terms)!

You could have given it to a charity. Many people cannot even afford the prices in charity shops, or Georget etc. and would be grateful for something new for their baby. Don't be so snobby.

Get over it, with a first baby maybe getting out and buying a gift was just too much and ordering something from SHEIN was all she could manage?
It's the thought that counts, also surely you could have washed the items and donated them if you weren't going to use them? Very wasteful to throw them out.

Why have you started a thread on this?

Urgh

That I agree with, that Shein sweats. But perhaps you are happy to drive an electric car despite the child (slave) labour used in the Democratic Republic of Congo to mine cobalt? I won't have an electric car, they are monstrously bad for the environment long term (and short -term bad for kids in the DRC).

If you don't give to receive then why are you disappointed.

Yanbu, I'd never gift someone something from Shein. Also hate the mentality of not gifting for a third baby or gifting less. I gift to the child not the parents and wouldn't deprive them from a thoughtful gift the same as their siblings just because they are the youngest. I'd of likely just washed it to be honest though so at least it had got some use and not been a total waste.

Shein stuff is potentially dangerous. Baby clothes from there should go into the bin.

https://www.cbc.ca/news/business/marketplace-fast-fashion-chemicals-1.6193385

I would never buy from Shein and wouldn't put my baby in it. I thought everyone knew by now it was awful.

I can't believe people saying they wouldn't buy anything for a 3rd baby

Oh fuck! I never got any of my friends or family presents for their babies. Luckily they still speak to me years later.

Not ever having bought anything from Shien, I would not know. Are they inflammable or something? If not, then some people don't have the choice of liking things - better on someone's baby that has nothing new, than in the bin, say I.

I’d put it down to inexperience as new patents. Asda baby clothes range is lovely but i didn’t know that until I became a mum.

Maybe they bought stuff on Shein due to convenience - in my first few months of being a new mum, I really struggled to make time for anything let alone gift shopping. They may also be a little strapped for cash at the moment.

I would also be annoyed with the inadequate gifts, but then i’ll try to remember that maybe finances and time are tight for them at the moment, and try not dwell on the negative.

Just to add.. I’m not keen on Shein clothes, particularly for babies, but I did receive an outfit or two as gifts. It’s the thought that counts. I did dress my kid in them and took pictures for the gifter as I did with all gift outfits.. I just felt so happy and blessed to have people in my kid’s life who made the effort. I’m financially well off, which was not always the case so I’m super sensitive to other people’s challenges and all the more grateful for any gift. OP, just try focus on the positive and enjoy your third musketeer ❤️

If people can't afford charity shops but can afford new from Shein then how would it help if I donated it to charity shops? Surely by your point it would be cheaper for them to buy on shein then what they pay in charity shop 🤔
I'm not snobby at all, my other friend got me a beautiful jumper in the charity shop for my little boy and I was delighted with it. I know this family will have spent a lot more and I really appreciate the thought and effort they went to- my point was that I don't feel Shein clothing was safe for my kid to wear. But nice to know people can judge who you are based on one small comment 😄

Well, I wasn't saying that the people who can't afford charity shops can afford to shop with Shien, but that they would be glad of something donated even if it came from Shien. I buy a lot of my clothes in charity shops as does my DD, who earns something in 6 figures afaik, so not poor.

It’s a bit shit to be honest but my biggest concern with ordering anything from there is does it adhere to our level of safety standards? I bought some xmas bits for kids from somewhere like that, and they had bits glued on. It wasn’t safe for babies and wouldn’t have been sold in our shops. I was clever enough to realise that but I bet some people wouldn’t even think about stuff like that.

I’d also be concerned about the chemicals used in the clothing. People should be more aware.

I also shop regularly in charity shops. I also donate regularly, but I won't donate something that I don't think is safe. I actually give my baby clothes to a mother in direct provision who has a son a few months younger than mine, but I wouldn't give her something I wouldn't put on my own child. I'm far from earning what your daughter earns but again my comment is not about money or snobbery it was about safety.

This ^^

I voted yanbu. I'd have binned it too and it's not snobby like some have said. Shein clothes are just awful, I'd never put a newborn in them.