DH said my job isnt a real job

[Mrsisolated]

I work in HR so my days are spent mopping up other people’s problems and dealing with very difficult situations.

I earn a decent salary which I feel is about right as the emotional weight I carry is exhausting day in day out. It caused me terrible anxiety for many years but managed to come out the other side. However I have seen many HR professionals leave because it can be exhausting.

DH says all I do is sit at home all day and send emails. I’m absolutely fuming in side.

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Keep it non verbal.

Send an email to your solicitor and initiate a divorce

I put up with that bollocks from the outside workers at work. But like fuck would I put up with it at home. LTB and take your salary with you.

My DH said all I do is copy and paste all day. I earn more than he does in his very stressful physical job so who’s the fool.

So what’s his job then?

Why isn't he working in HR then if it's so easy?

Sounds jealous to me. Do you out-earn him?

Hmm

I guess he has a 'big' job and does nothing around the house??

And I assume he designs rockets with one hand and performs heart surgery with the other? Why would he say something like this? Did you ask him - shock horror- to do his share at home?

My dh referred to my job as a ‘little part- time job’ once. I’m still fuming!

Tell him the money they pay you isn't real, so he will need to cover all the bills.

Course it's a real job.

What job does he do?

As someone who works in HR, I'm also enraged.

LTB!

So by extension the money you earn isn't real money ? So you can keep all your non-earnings for yourself ?

It may not be a job he would want to do, but we're all different thank god, so as long as you're doing your bit to keep the family housed and fed, he's got nothing to complain about.

As my Granny used to say - if you can't say something nice about someone, don't say anything. The sad thing is - this is your DH, so it's not nice. What else does he criticise about you.

And don't fume inside - get that out there

I work in the pharmaceutical industry. My DH likes to tell people I make drugs. He wasn't so happy when I said he plays with computers (he's a software engineer).

Describe your DHs job in offensive terms and see how he likes that.

Just tell him to fuck off.

What very important job does he do?

My ex was a civil engineer. One of his projects was the bridge/tunnel between Denmark and Sweden (which is where I met him ). I work in banking (6 figure salary) in a senior role. He used to say to me "...but you don't actually make anything" (patronising twonk that he was). I just looked at him with disdain and replied "I make money". He soon shut up.

As long as you are earning, why should it matter to him. Seems an odd attitude.

And I suppose your husband is a fire fighter-cum-coal miner? No, he’s a bellend.

He works part time at Tesco as a supervisor! He is a trained scaffolder but he would never go back because he’s become too lazy.

He took a part time job so I could go back to work and he stayed at home with DS before he went to nursery. But now ds is at nursery and the kids are at school all day he still hasn’t upped his hours or found a full time job.

So I was right then, jealousy/inadequacy. LTB OP, he sounds really awful.

He's the one with the fake job then, isn't he?

He has no idea! I own a restaurant and by far the hardest part of the job, the one that keeps me up at night, is all the HR stuff I have to deal with. It's so draining, I feel for you.

I'm speechless. With his attitude I assumed he must at least have been the Secretary-General of the UN.

Ah ... well maybe the money you earn is not real either .... so keep it all to yourself!!