DH said my job isnt a real job

[Mrsisolated]

I work in HR so my days are spent mopping up other people’s problems and dealing with very difficult situations.

I earn a decent salary which I feel is about right as the emotional weight I carry is exhausting day in day out. It caused me terrible anxiety for many years but managed to come out the other side. However I have seen many HR professionals leave because it can be exhausting.

DH says all I do is sit at home all day and send emails. I’m absolutely fuming in side.

My (obviously) ex once told me that I shouldn't be exhausted after a day in the classroom; after all, all I did was stand in front of kids and talk. When I was too tired to go on a weekend away, he said he didn't get married to "have a millstone around his neck."

Now I know back searching a poster isn’t really the done thing, but I thought I’d seen a very similar post before about this. However the only posting history you have is contemplating a 4th child only two days ago. Now you’re saying you’re trying to figure out how to kick him out? Hmm.

Suggest the real money it brings remains yours. ;)

My ex waste of space used to say he could do my job standing on his head. I used to say "of course you could, dear" when I was still interested in staying together. Then it was "go on, they're recruiting". But it took me 25 years to get around to LTB. We had 4 DC too. The way to think about it is I wouldn't have had them, and the world would be deprived of 4 lovely people, if I'd got round to booting him out earlier.

My husband just does colouring in at his job, he's a professional 4 year old and I take the piss all the time. It's all in good humour though.

I think I'd be telling him I'll get a part-time proper job too then if that's the case. I'm sure he wouldn't want you to leave your job and doesn't mind your "real" full-time money. Has he given a reason as to why he doesn't want to go back to full time?

You tell him that's something a real husband would never think of and say to his wife...

There's a lot of really unpleasant elitist comments here about people working in Tesco. The OP is right to feel aggrieved if her DH has indeed made the comments she claims, and there's no reason for us to doubt that, but the unkind posts really are wholly unnecessary. MN is a strange place; this same post could be made tomorrow and everyone would be piling on and agreeing that HR is a "nothing" job.

I’m fairly impressed you’re only internally fuming. I’d be fuming in a very external way.

People seem to have an utter lack of understanding regarding HR actually do.

It’s much like people who think they know better than teachers because they went to school as children.

I’m a carer. My oh is on his last strike of referring to my job as ‘wiping arses’. I’m not even sure whether my reaction will be to kick him out or literally slap him. I know mn will always be to blame the person committing physical violence, but I don’t care at this point

In the words of Edina Monsoon - you only work in a shop you know!

It's always the stupid lazy fuckers who say stuff like this.

Maybe he should retrain to be an HR professional if Tesco does that kind of training plus go to night school or whatever.

Then he could also do nothing all day but cut and pasting.

But he won't want to. And why not. Because he's not smart enough to work out he's being a fool.

Yup I'd not be having sex with him again....

I’m intrigued - what’s your job? My job is largely copy and paste too!

Your job sounds pretty wfh/slacker's charter easy but he is in no position to judge with his. I thought you were going to say he was a nurse or something.

Is he doing school and nursery drop off and pick ups?
Maybe that's why he works PT?

Is he doing school and nursery drop off and pick ups?
Maybe that's why he works PT?

Give him this.

I’ve been told this before. My reply (as a teacher) is I make all of you. 😊

Unfair comment. No one is a fool

It earns real money though, that he’s happy to have access to and spend.

He’s such a hypocrite. And actually if you manage to earn real spendable money from a pretend job- would that not make him the fool having a do proper days work.

sounds like it's not a "real" marriage - tell him to push off

Spot on!

Howling 🤣 what a comment

DH says all I do is sit at home all day and send emails. I’m absolutely fuming in side.

i hope he's not spending any money that comes from your "fake" job. In your shoes I'd be insisting that he ups his hours and pulls his weight.