DH said my job isnt a real job

[Mrsisolated]

I work in HR so my days are spent mopping up other people’s problems and dealing with very difficult situations.

I earn a decent salary which I feel is about right as the emotional weight I carry is exhausting day in day out. It caused me terrible anxiety for many years but managed to come out the other side. However I have seen many HR professionals leave because it can be exhausting.

DH says all I do is sit at home all day and send emails. I’m absolutely fuming in side.

& there may be a lot of copying and pasting, but the high salaries are generally for knowing the right bits to copy and paste 😂

What a dick, I'd defo be ending it with him. See how he gets on then with his part time "real" job. Bet you do most of the stuff in the house and for the kids too.

My dh does a physical job but mine is similar to yours and it's mentally and emotionally draining dealing with angry/upset people with issues all day long. He certainly never minimises my career. You deserve better.

I just knew he'd be in a job, rather than a career.

He's trying to belittle you because he feels inadequate and/or emasculated. This situation never ends well (ask me how I know lol).

Eh? I make complicated budgeting plans, write financial reports, forecast earnings and expenditure.
And for sure i send a lot of that information to the people who need it by mail, or talk about it with people on teams meetings.

Those emails / meetings / reports require a LOT of work.

Your job may be mindless shite, but mine isn't.

He’s jealous that you have a better job and get to WFH.

Why is it so difficult to separate?

Are you living in his house?
Do you have kids?

Ooh having needed the help of people like you over difficult workplace situations I know your job is SO real. What idiocy.

Sounds like he’s jealous… every job feels real to the people who are doing it. Absolute twatish thing to say, your earning money so why does he care….unless he’s jealous.

Ask your hubby if my job is a real job.

I spend all day sending emails. Those emails are to arrange site visits to ensure machine compliance on machines he will drive and fly in

He knows you're too good for him so he's trying to bring you down a peg or two instead of bothering to improve himself. Get your ducks in a row.

He's jealous and doesn't like it that you have a job that's more important than his.
Reading between the not very blurred lines, I'm guessing you're generally unhappy in this relationship

No you don't.

What an incredibly arrogant way to think.

I'm a former teacher myself and would never think this way.

Do HR people not have access to supervision, like counsellors do?

Well yes, you are in a role that facilitates the running of a business, and mainly do use emails to communicate. So do most CEOs.

Does he want you to be an orthopedic surgeon, a circus clown, a lift access window cleaner who uses a harness to work at 70 storeys?

What a pathetic thing to say. It's a desk based job with admin and paperwork and communication by email about sensitive subjects.

What on earth is wrong with that? Presumably he knows all about employment law and could do your job standing on his head?

I thought you were going to say he was a brickie/plumber/ scaffolder - stuff that involves getting your hands dirty because of the men I know they are the only ones I've known who ever comment on 'real jobs' - he's got some cheek!!

Think hard. He's lazy, can't stick to a career and wants to put you down to make himself seem better. (It's not working.)

Get rid and find someone who deserves you.

Mine did a physical job. I was in marketing with targets. Had to work evenings as well schmoozing.

But because his job was physically active, he worked harder. Prat 🙄

Sorry but he's jealous ! I'm more qualified and earn way more than my DH and he's supportive - supporting each other is part of being a couple ... don't really want to split? Have you had a serious convo about this?

I think if you're better educated than your other half it can cause friction.

Tell him all he does is sit in Tesco's part of the day watching other people work, so he can't have a real job either.

People actually end marriages over flippant comments that were probably said in jest? I tell my husband all the time how all he does is sits and chats all day (he's actually an engineer who is leading meetings on whatever it is they engineer)

My DH once said to me "I know you think you work hard but I do work hard". I was an academic and he was an engineer. I was the higher earner.
Moron.

He's Jealous

I honestly can’t understand why someone would say this to anyone about their job, let alone to their partner.

So technically he is the house husband. He is jealous of you op.

Do it sooner rather than later...

every month you re paying into savings and pensions that this dick is going to be able to claim 50% of.