DH said my job isnt a real job

[Mrsisolated]

I work in HR so my days are spent mopping up other people’s problems and dealing with very difficult situations.

I earn a decent salary which I feel is about right as the emotional weight I carry is exhausting day in day out. It caused me terrible anxiety for many years but managed to come out the other side. However I have seen many HR professionals leave because it can be exhausting.

DH says all I do is sit at home all day and send emails. I’m absolutely fuming in side.

Of course your job is a real job, do you work full time? He really needs to change his attitude on that.

He sounds like a lazy ungrateful dickhead.

Ask him if he would like you to get a 'real' job like his. Or would he prefer to keep his stupid opinions to himself and cary on living off your salary.

Christ! He sounds like a right lazy knobber.
I'm a civil servant who WFH 3 days a week - I get a lot of stick for "doing nothing all day" but there is no way i'd be putting up with anyone saying it's not a real job.

You're going to have the "money's money, my job is stressful" crowd, and you're going to have the "unless you come home dirty and sweaty, you haven't put in a full day's work" crowd.

Neither are wrong.

Why on earth do you care what he thinks?

Tell him to get a real job and you might start taking his views into account 😂😂

Then tell him to shut the fuck up.

i suspect he feels inadequate. And there’s some reverse snobbery’s maybe snobbery isn’t the right word.

But I have come across plenty of people who don’t think it’s real work unless you are on your feet all day doing something manual. Funny though because I bet a lot of them would be running to HR if they didn’t like something that was happening in their own job.

Then it would be a real job.

Oh right... so yeah the money you earn from it isn't real either... keep that, spend it on cake and tell him he can pay the bills with his 'real job'.

I talk to people about their puppies, write about dogs and colour in for a living! Bet he'd take the piss out of that too... but I love 'going' to work (from my desk in my living room!) every day!

Not everyone can have, nor wants to have, a job where they are doing life and death stuff or physically labouring (hilarious that your 'D' H does neither!) - theres millions of jobs that need doing and some are harder than others. I couldn't work in HR for the life of me!

What a lazy git I hope he's doing all the housework

Does your username reflect your life OP

i can completely understand, in my previous role i was field based then i covered in the office , and got some of the other team members going its ok for you your just talking or on the computer etc, soon as they got to do the same duties they soon realised how mentally tasking it is doing different activities.

Hi OP, are you WFH fulltime? Husband was probably comparing your role to a physical one although I agree that his description is inaccurate and lacks insight into your responsibilities. Being a scaffolder is an extremely physically demanding job and I would think that being a Tesco supervisor brings alot of challenges.
Would you benefit from having an open conversation ? It seems reasonable that your husband should increase his hours (unless he has responsibility for school/nursery pick ups etc).

Most office jobs are focused around sending emails and sitting on Teams calls though

What a hero he is. Feels shit about himself so puts down his wife. Nice one.

Works p/t at Tesco?

Tell him Every little helps

I’d be keeping all my salary from my non-job if I was you. As it’s not a proper job and all.

Jeez.. put him on a performance improvement program..?

Time to manage him out, I think.

Ha…. That explains it.

Another man that feels emasculated by his dwife doing better than him then.

Any good qualities?

Your point being?

Absolutely none!

just trying to figure out how I kick him out but not cause too much chaos in my life.

Ah so he’s a lazy jealous arsehole

why Do I suspect he’s never ever going to get a full time job

I was a highly qualified nurse on the burns unit back in the 1990s and my exH referred to me as a "stupid nurse". He wanted me to be an sir hostess. Twat. So I divorced him. I suggest you tell your husband to shut up if he still wants a wife.

In that case, he’s projecting. Making sure you know that you’re on a par with him, the man who works part time despite not having kids to look after. You’re not, btw. He just wants to feel better about his own job.

There's something else he can do with one hand when (hopefully) OP ditches the ungrateful dickhead.