Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

My son is almost 27 & never had a relationship, I worry he's going to end up lonely

304 replies

Onthecarpet2002 · 11/10/2024 00:22

Just this. I know some of you are going to say it's nothing to do with me but I think it's natural to worry about your ds. He's good looking & very fit, a nice lad but probably a bit shy. He's in the RAF & comes home most weekends as most of them do. He goes out occasionally at home but his friends are starting to settle down a bit & to the gym.
The only holiday he's had with mates this year is a RAF work trip to Cyprus where he had a few days free before he had to come back again.
There's so many ladies on munsnet asking where the good men are - there's one right here at the weekends! I know from a friends daughter that he's been on Tinder, obviously had no luck there. He seems happy enough with his life, says he is, but I don't know if deep down he might want a partner.
I do worry that as he gets older he's going to end up being a lonely man.

OP posts:
JHound · 14/10/2024 09:58

Onthecarpet2002 · 14/10/2024 03:45

@Skybluepinky your comment does not make sense. Why would they be avoiding him now because of me when they have not even met me or are even aware of my existence.

It’s possible he is seeing somebody and you just haven’t met her.

fashionqueen0123 · 16/10/2024 16:55

Onthecarpet2002 · 11/10/2024 17:28

@OCDmama why on earth would you question a person's motives for joining up? I'm sure you'd have a different view if we needed the armed forces to protect our own shores. Where would we have been without our military force in WW2? I've never heard anything so ridiculous & disrespectful to those that have served 🙄
He's learned a trade, travelled to different countries, gets 6 weeks annual leave. He even competes in his sports for the RAF & doesn't have to use annual leave to do it.
Yes, being a military wife is very hard, & I wouldn't want any future grandchildren (if any come along) to be uprooted throughout their childhood because of parents being in the military.

The RAF is a fantastic career. Some end up as commercial pilots later on - without the debt!

Toomanyemails · 16/10/2024 17:27

The important thing IMO is encouraging/supporting him to build up a social circle or community so he has social ties that fit his needs and lifestyle - staying in touch with friends, supporting friends when they need it, joining activity groups and so on. If a relationship is something he wants to pursue, those things put him in a good position to find it organically or intentionally seek it out (doesn't have to be online, in cities at least there are loads of dating events that my single friends in late 20s/early 30s have enjoyed). If he's already happy and has a good circle of people in his life, he's doing great!

redtrain123 · 16/10/2024 21:13

I don’t think op would be an interfering mil. I think she’s just watching from afar, and wants her son to be happy.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread