My son is almost 27 & never had a relationship, I worry he's going to end up lonely

[Onthecarpet2002]

Just this. I know some of you are going to say it's nothing to do with me but I think it's natural to worry about your ds. He's good looking & very fit, a nice lad but probably a bit shy. He's in the RAF & comes home most weekends as most of them do. He goes out occasionally at home but his friends are starting to settle down a bit & to the gym.
The only holiday he's had with mates this year is a RAF work trip to Cyprus where he had a few days free before he had to come back again.
There's so many ladies on munsnet asking where the good men are - there's one right here at the weekends! I know from a friends daughter that he's been on Tinder, obviously had no luck there. He seems happy enough with his life, says he is, but I don't know if deep down he might want a partner.
I do worry that as he gets older he's going to end up being a lonely man.

Why is falling in love the only route to happiness? Read a few of the threads on MN and see just how happy some people in relationships are! Believe it or not there are quite a few people who are happy without a partner.

People who presume nobody can be happy unless coupled up have a really narrow mindset.

This is a stupid thread.

@Augustus40 did you get out of bed the wrong side this morning?
You've nothing to add so why bother commenting. If you don't like what you read just scroll on by 🙄

It's subjective isn't it ,I spent most of my 20,s single ,I wa lonely despite lots of friends no relationship is perfect
But I'm far happier being in one .

As somebody who struggles to live with men (I don’t like people in my space or bed full time) I maybe should have searched for a military man.

Somebody who is away for months at a time would be PERFECT! 😄

@JHound
Not funny

Whut?!

I know of two people who have been in long term relationships (one case over 20 years) who had no wish to have a family and each live in their own house. So whilst I think your view is not one I share, a relationship need not involve co-habiting.

What the OP is worrying about is very different, and I hope even if her DS is single long-term, I don't think should be concerned.

Oh I agree. I was making a side comment. (Although I did want children (which is what I think you mean by family) but still do my like the idea of living with a man fully one so no idea how that would have worked.)
I think OP worrying is normal. I am 43 and my mom still worries about my dating life.

But she cannot possibly know about if her son is dating or not or how he feels about long term companionship. She may actually be worrying about nothing.

One of my sons doesn't have a partner. I do worry more about him more than his siblings. He seems happy, he goes out with friends every week. Has a job and his own home but no one to share it with. I have noticed his close friends have gradually all now got partners. He goes out for meals and drinks, games of pool with friends but if they go on to a nightclub he never goes, just goes home. He's off on holiday with some friends the end of this month I just wish he'd find a partner as I think he might want one but too shy to ask anyone out. He's kind, thoughtful but a bit shy with people he doesn't know.

I know of a young man (now early 30s) but when he was younger he had no girlfriends or none that his family knew about. He’s good looking but a certain type (bright blond wavy natural hair and pale skin, over 6ft tall). He eventually met his current girlfriend and they’ve been together 2 years now.

The other older and younger people I know who aren’t dating it’s either deliberate or they haven’t met the right person. This includes me.

@JHound it's really hard being in a relationship with someone in the military.

I was eternally single through all my late 20s and early 30s!! Not really pick as such, I just didn’t feel the need to be in a relationship so didn’t settle for someone just so I was part of a couple. I was quite happy with my own company and friends and family.
I got married last week at the grand age of 37 and wouldn’t change the way I did any of it.

My comment was tongue in cheek.

I was merely joking about the part of being in a relationship with somebody who is away for months at a time which is my preferred relationship model. It was a light hearted joke.

I know it was a joke. That's why I said it wasn't funny.

🙄

Ok. You have your preferred relationship model. And I shall continue to have mine.

What a nasty comment

Op l didn't settle down wil my mid 30's - plenty of time if that's what he wants x

Take your own usernames advice ffs

Bore off.

I knew you meant this tongue- in-cheek.

😂 jeez

@redtrain123 as did I

I used to know a couple of guys like this. Nice-looking, good jobs etc, but shy. Both met partners in their 30s, when I think more confident. I’m sure your son will find his companion eventually. Worrying about our adult children never ends, does it!

Mayb he isn’t interested in women or has one that he isn’t telling u about.
sounds like u would be an interfering mil so they would avoid him.

@Skybluepinky your comment does not make sense. Why would they be avoiding him now because of me when they have not even met me or are even aware of my existence.