to expect dd to open up and explain her ways /odd behaviours

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DD 15 wonderful in many ways I guess however some of her lifestyle habits concern me a little.

I understand we are all unique. She is nothing like I was at her age which of course is not a bad thing however I do worry that everything is okay. She is quiet by nature and probably the opposite to typical 15 year old girl in that she has zero interest in shopping, clothes, girly things, boys, makeup e.t.c. for me she actually spends an UNHEALTHY amount of time studying/doing homework. Along with this she has what I would say are quite unusual interests for a 15 year old girl. She is obsessed with certain topics such as biology, history and geography. She watches documentaries on these topics on a daily basis in her room with a notepad taking notes. She is also really into what I can only describe as strange programs that involve midwifery/nursing/human biology/baby making/ all things to do pregnancy. She also watches documentaries on deprived areas and troubled youths.

Maybe I'm overthinking things but I just really don't understand where these interests come from and why she spends so much of her time studying these topics. I am just a little concerned that's all. I would image most 15 year old girls spend their time out with their friends and stuff doing teenage activities.

I was like your daughter, and coincidentally I was also interested in biology, and am now a midwife. Would love to chat with her!

My mum was like you. Did not understand me at all, spent her whole life calling me "weird" and making me feel odd.

Youir daughter is smart, intelligent, bright... it sounds that, like myself, those gifts didn't come from her mum.

Now I live an amazing life where I've had the chance to develop my interests and have travelled around the world. My mum has ended a miserable sod, isolated from friends and family because she is, honestly, not a very nice person.

Just leaving this here.

One of you is behaving very oddly.

It's not her.

Is it an interest or is it becoming an obsession? Because that's when it gets concerning.

My DC were both like this - not interested in hanging out with the 'populars', very academic, highly specialised interests, mixed friendship groups. They're now 21 and 23. Both autistic but living happy independent lives. Your DD is not odd. She's fine, she's just not a stereotypical 15 year old.

Your daughter sounds like a dream OP. She’s not causing any trouble and has a strong enough mind that she pursues her interests without following the crowd.
You remind me of a woman I did a course with (her reaction to her children reminds me of what you are saying, rather than her character IYSWIM). The woman was a bit of a rebel and like a teenager trapped in a middle aged body (like a character out of Absolutely Fabulous), and her teenagers were both studious and sensible (complete opposite of her). We would go to her house and she would literally complain that they weren’t having parties or drinking like ‘normal teenagers’. Her children turned into great adults.
Enjoy and accept your child for who she is.

I can’t see an issue. Your DD sounds perfectly happy as she is.