To not like being called by forename by kids

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I don't know but somehow it feels odd when sons friends year 6 age range calling me by my forename. I haven't said anything but part of me feels I would prefer Mr surname or "sons name - dad".

I haven't said anything, that's partly why came here, wasn't sure if it's old fashioned stuff left over from my folks. They were older parents and I'm also an older parent

im mid 47

I mean, fucking hell, me too. We were teens in Grunge and Britpop and ‘lad culture’ and the rest right. Not the 1950s

I'm glad to be called by my first name by dc's friends, and not just addressed as 'dc's mum'. It reminds me I have my own identity beyond being mum.
Dc & friends think they're being hilarious though.

I used be a visiting teacher at a school where, without consultation with me, pupils were given my first name, apparently because I teach a specialist subject. Normally schools would not behave like this. It was confusing for pupils who needed to understand that I was there to teach them.

I think it's ridiculous to feel the need to enforce perceived respect in this way.
We had to refer to our line managers in my first job by their title and I couldn't have had less respect for the arrogant fools if I'd tried.

She was about 94 and most of her friends were dead, sadly.

😂

Maybe slip into a 1950's house dress while you demand outstanding manners and serve up stewed veg/sadness in a pan.

No. Get a grip.

I'm 48 and neither I nor any of my friends ever called each other's parents 'Mr/Mrs/Miss Surname'. We always used first names.

When I was little, family friends/neighbours were usually 'Auntie/Uncle Firstname' which was the norm for working class Londoners at the time. (I actually still have a couple of Aunties and Uncles who are really no relation to me whatsoever but I can't think of them as anything else!)

School friends' parents were always just Firstname.

The only adults we called Mr/Mrs/Miss Surname were teachers.

I don’t like the idea of only some people being good enough to be allowed to call you by your first name.

Well the reality is we have different relationships with different people. Some of them we are closer to than others.

To be perfectly honest it’s these sorts of subtle distancing signals that help reinforce other personal boundaries.

Indeed we were.

Mid 50s, personally, and I grew up calling all my parents’s friends by their first name. My children’s friends all called me by my first name; a more formal form of address would feel weird from children playing in my garden.

i am torn on this issue. my asian heritage has meant even now i still call my mother’s friends as aunty or uncle (i was once told off my grandmother for not calling on friend in specific aunty because she was never introduced as aunty to me so i just called her by the name i had always been told to call her). i do realise aunty and uncle is out of fashion now and i can understand why in some situations mr/mrs/ms might be overly formal so i am not sure what i would want dc to call adults once he is old enough to talk… it does seem weird to me for a child to directly call a adult by their first name

"I think it's ridiculous to feel the need to enforce perceived respect in this way.
We had to refer to our line managers in my first job by their title and I couldn't have had less respect for the arrogant fools if I'd tried."

In a school situation it's pretty normal - just defining roles.
Between adults I can imagine it could be annoying not being allowed to use forename.

Get a life 🤣

Do people really do that?

It was generally not considered polite in the 80s though. If you didn't do Mr/Mrs you used auntie and uncle before the name.

Oh is it? Is that another thing MN considers common?
My friends' children still call me aunty Gwen although I've told them they don't have to use the formal pronoun we have in Welsh.

And who is exactly?
Only sibling of parent? What about that person's spouse? What about your great aunts and uncles? It includes quite a few people.

Not a western view either really. A modern one maybe.

Yes, but British people also use uncle and aunt for parents' friends, just that it seems to be in decline and some MNers don't like it.

I didn't call my friend's parents Mr or Mrs in the 80s! Are you REALLY old as this is like something from the 1950s

The title is not official though, it's not on the birth certificate, just a courtesy.

That explains the use of 'forename' for first name.

Nah, it's fine and I don't much like titles anyway. The less they get used, the better as far as I'm concerned.