To not like being called by forename by kids

[BreakingDad77]

I don't know but somehow it feels odd when sons friends year 6 age range calling me by my forename. I haven't said anything but part of me feels I would prefer Mr surname or "sons name - dad".

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Same, except they only wore gowns on prize day (speech day as it was called).

The headmaster used to wish us for eg "happy Christmas" at the end of the last assembly of the term, and the 900 or so pupils used to chorus in unison, "and the same to you sir!"

I have teenagers, none of them or their friends or even other kids in their large school (that they’re aware of) use Facebook. I work with a lot of people in their 20s and early 30s, none of them use it either and have told me “no-one” their age uses it. Some of the older ones have accounts from when they were younger but aren’t active users. We’re clearly not having the same experience!

I am 55 and called adults Mr and Mrs Whatever when I was a child, but it was quite an old fashioned approach even then. It never occurred to me that my children and their friends (now young adults) should do the same. The world has moved on - it’s less formal now and friendlier, more open, relationships are now the norm.

Kids here aren't encouraged to give any adult not closely related to them in school! It can easily be misconstrued, sadly.

If their own parent isn't present? Surely that's pretty obvious?!

That's complete nonsense.

I'd never have done that! My kids coped. They could tell the difference. I might have referred to my dad as, "your grandad" to my children.

No it is not

No it isn't
But clearly you are setting a delightful example to kids

That’s exactly how I took your meaning and exactly what I was meaning in my response: it isn’t rubbish that the concept of respect has evolved and is redolent of a human rights type interpretation.

If they're in the OP's home, she's in charge because she's the adult. And if the visiting child is the offspring of a Mumsnetter, OP will certainly be expected to be responsible for her/him while s/he is on the OP's premises.

She hasn't said anywhere how old the children are, where she most regularly sees them or whether the parents are present or not.

In her own home, she has some authority to set rules and look after them.

In any other location, she does not.

I'm mid 47 and at the state school I was at there was a few new teachers who were happy to be called by first name but that wasn't seen as being too informal.

From the comments guess we were just bit behind.

I’m only in my forties so I’m not that out of date with my upbringing. God anyone would think I’ve received my letter from the King.

Ha ha it took me about 20 years for me to dare to address my MIL by her first name! It's a good tip to tell people to do that.

Well we're talking Year 6 children here aren't we.

She absolutely has authority to set rules and look after them, in any location where she is in loco parentis!

It absolutely is and you are actually very rude!

@MereDintofPandiculation "I call my father by his first name. It was too confusing to continue to call him "Dad" when DC knew DH as "Dad"."

Did you not notice that every other child you met managed to negotiate this issue without confusion?

I’m also 40’s and the first name basis for adults is new to me with my Dc.

lol

Does anyone read posts anymore? Like I said in my original post. It’s of a time and dependant of where you grew up. Obviously you didn’t grow up in the same area as myself.

OP, I don’t like it either. I had it drummed into me as a child that calling adults by their first name was very rude, unless you were specifically told to do so.

I still find myself ever so slightly wincing internally if a child calls me by my first name, but times have moved on and although I much prefer aunty Who by children who are close to me, I bite my tongue, smile and respond, knowing that it isn’t meant with any sort of rudeness at all.

Um … wasn’t I backing you up/ agreeing with you?

I think I read your post properly - apologies if not - but maybe you misread mine?

OK, thanks!