Things DP said to me while on holiday

[noodlewoo]

Commented on what I was wearing to the airport. He said “you could have made more of an effort. “look at all these girls wearing trendy clothes. You need to start wearing clothes like that” I mean we literally had just got to the airport to go on holiday. Not a great start

Then when we got there he continued to point out what other women were wearing. “I like those gym leggings and sets” Don’t you wish you could wear stuff like that”

Continued to remind me that when we get home I need to get back on my diet. Maybe this is where I’m being sensitive because he said “for your sake not mine”

Then he asked if he thought people would put us together. Wasn’t sure what he meant so I asked him. He said well do you think people would think either of us were punching.

I sometimes have trouble with my back where it “goes” We were on a boat trip and when it was time to get off and stand up I said ouch and told him my back had a little twinge. He said “don’t start”

Then on the morning we were due to go home I came on my period and said I was “angin” for people who don’t know what that means it basically means disgusting

I’ve come home feeling a bit shitty and unloved but I’m not sure if I’m being over sensitive. Seems like he possibly doesn’t find me attractive which if that’s the case then fair enough but how would this make others feel?

He's doing this for you to leave. He's resentful of you not working.

I don't agree with what he's done I think he should be straight with you.

You should've said to him yes, you are definitely punching because you're an absolute cunt and women don't appreciate that.
Why on earth are you with him?

@Peaceandquietandacuppa I’m reading every reply and taking into account everything everyone is saying. I just expected for people to be saying it’s my fault and that I’m being over sensitive

What a massive fuck nugget of a manbaby. Put it in the bin immediately.

I read your other thread OP and your DH is a massive arsehole.

He sounds awful and it doesn't sound that he likes you nevermind love or respect you.
Honestly it is better to be alone rather than in a relationship like this. It is easier on your own as you get rebuild your sf-esteem

This current boyfriend sounds very resentful that you aren't contributing to the family income. Why haven't you wanted to get married to him? Not working is very unwise in a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship especially for the woman.

Take this from an old dear who knows her stuff. He is the one who has insecurities and massive ones at that. The person who belittles another person is actually the one who is at fault. As your partner, she should be accepting you completely. Are you hoping to grow old with this creature? If you are, I would seriously think it through as the older you get the more you depend on each other both emotionally and physically. Get yourself someone who loves you for you. He sounds like a shallow individual.

OP, this is the type of human who gives arseholes a bad name. But the fact of the matter is that arseholes have a purpose and we can't live without them. This collosal waste of skin and oxygen? Not so much.
My DH only ever comments on my appearance out of concern when I'm ill or to say I look beautiful. The world where he would speak to me or anyone else like you've been spoken to just doesn't exist.
You deserve better OP. Put the rubbish in the bin.

OP find some paid work immediately (avoid any MLM crap).

Sort out your paperwork.

Find somewhere for you and your DC to live. Even if temporarily.

Move out with your DC.

Tell him it's over. Calmly. "This relationship isn't for me anymore".

You're 29. Is this what you want forever? Fuck that shit.

Do not marry or have another child with this absolute excuse of a man. Free yourself!

Obviously as bad as all of that is, I think the period thing is bizarre.. like we can help it 😂😂😂😂

The good news, the really great news, is even with children you don’t need to end up together. Goals board op: how to plan my single life free of a pathetic loser who is only able to feel validated by intentionally setting out to make his partner and the mother of his children feel shit. Start planning.

Sounds like he's "punching" to me and he knows it which is why he's trying to keep you in your box.

This is the same man who doesn't believe your son has additional needs even though you get £1000 DLA and are in the process of an EHCP, and had refused to have any part in the choices regarding his child's schooling.
WTF OP

Open the lid of your bin
Put this man in the bin
Close lid of bin
Live happily ever after without disrespectful man
The end.

I'd start snooping, OP. Unfortunately this sounds like the groundwork for the script, not just dickhead behaviour.

I’ve come home feeling a bit shitty and unloved but I’m not sure if I’m being over sensitive. Seems like he possibly doesn’t find me attractive which if that’s the case then fair enough but how would this make others feel

How would it make me feel? Hmmm. Like punching him probably.

And no his behaviour isn’t “fair enough”

What does 'punching ' mean in this context? But I can't see why you stay with someone who makes you feel unloved.

Anyone else think Speedmop would be an appropriate partner for this man? A match made in heaven.

He wouldn't be my DP for long after that. My first thought was the contrast between this and the lady from NZ who wrote a thread last week about the lovely things her husband still says after decades of marriage.
This is what you deserve to be aiming for @noodlewoo not what you're putting up with. He sounds plain nasty.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5178954-to-think-i-have-the-loveliest-dh-in-the-world?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

That’s horrible. You don’t need this man in your life.

@noodlewoo I'm sorry your DP is treating you like this, it is not on. What would you like to happen?

Punching above your weight, I assume.