Things DP said to me while on holiday

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Commented on what I was wearing to the airport. He said “you could have made more of an effort. “look at all these girls wearing trendy clothes. You need to start wearing clothes like that” I mean we literally had just got to the airport to go on holiday. Not a great start

Then when we got there he continued to point out what other women were wearing. “I like those gym leggings and sets” Don’t you wish you could wear stuff like that”

Continued to remind me that when we get home I need to get back on my diet. Maybe this is where I’m being sensitive because he said “for your sake not mine”

Then he asked if he thought people would put us together. Wasn’t sure what he meant so I asked him. He said well do you think people would think either of us were punching.

I sometimes have trouble with my back where it “goes” We were on a boat trip and when it was time to get off and stand up I said ouch and told him my back had a little twinge. He said “don’t start”

Then on the morning we were due to go home I came on my period and said I was “angin” for people who don’t know what that means it basically means disgusting

I’ve come home feeling a bit shitty and unloved but I’m not sure if I’m being over sensitive. Seems like he possibly doesn’t find me attractive which if that’s the case then fair enough but how would this make others feel?

Leave him.

Total cunt. Leave him right away.

I’m screaming at my phone “tell him to F off”

Hi OP I hope you're ok....please gather your courage and strength and walk away from this so called relationship.I know it's easier said than done! You have to be brave and strong!
You're not being loved.... you're being mistreated mentally and emotionally.
I hope you realise this will eventually break down your self esteem,self belief,make you so insecure you'll lose your ability to be strong and stable.
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Why is he not "EX-DP"? You need to start giving him a taste of his own medicine. Comment on any good looking, buff guy you see. Make a verbal note, when he's within earshot, of how other men look so good in their clothes and why can't he look like that? If he's got a beer belly, comment on that, if he's skinny, mention his lack of muscles. After a few weeks of that, tell him to sling his hook because you've realised how "angin" he is! You deserve someone who appreciates you for YOU! He'll soon realise, far too late, that he's not the every woman's dream, and realise what he's lost.

Hi am so sorry he spoke to you and made you feel this way.
You are not being too oversensitive

I am so sorry he spoke to you like this and made you feel so bad in your holiday. You are not being over sensitive

He sounds like those misogynist men in the USA who make videos saying they don't want women, but instead of doing what they say by leaving women alone, they then spend their time on the video comments trying to make women feel bad about themselves and promoting others abuse women.

Forgive me as I haven't read the full thread yet, but how long has he been saying things like this to you? Is this new behaviour or has he always been a gaslighting, horrible person?

Does he normally speak to you like that.Have you put on a lot of weight if so perhaps you can look at healthier lifestyle together ? He needs to apologise for his behaviour though .

You think it's that simple? You can't take that approach with an unreasonable gaslighting bully.

@gingerlions , you'd probably be better off starting your own thread, but the talk of meat does seem excessive unless your new workplace is in a meat-focussed area.

What on earth is a meat-focussed area? Maybe it's North Wales

North Wales? 😆I was thinking something like a restaurant specialising in game, a butchers, a charcuterie, a farm shop, Waitrose meat counter ...

Maybe he needs to be told he's not every woman's dream himself.