To be scared to have another baby after DH poor show last time.

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I had an emergency section with DD, extremely traumatic - block didn’t go high enough, baby high up, swabs lost inside. Put to sleep as could feel it all and screaming in agony on the table.

Post section I was really unwell, related to issues that cropped up, MW gave a private room so DH could help and gave him orders to let me sleep. He slept all night whilst I agonizingly tried to look after baby and when they came in he’d pretend he’d been caring for us both.

When we came home from hospital I was still having a lot of pain, and begged for some help and he took himself to the spare room. I went in and begged and cried for help and he called me a physcopath and shut the door on me.

He says this is because men aren’t made to handle lack of sleep, but I’m too scared for a repeat.

AIBU to say no more.

Don’t have another baby with him

He’s an absolute cunt.
Get rid of this disgusting man and enjoy life with your DD.

Honestly, every woman on earth deserves someone far better than him.

Do not get pregnant to him again.
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How are you doing personally? Do not get pregnant, but do get planning. I so hope this is a troll post.

How did he ask? Why did he ask?

Good really. He works away more days in the month than not. I have a job that I love and a great set up that isn’t reliant on him as he’s not been around enough anyway.

I am in the fortunate position where I solely own my home too.

He is beyond awful. You need to leave him. Get a good lawyer. Good luck .

Why are you still with him? He's vile.

Definitely don't have another baby with him.

Do not get pregnant again with this man. Do not rely on him for contraception.

WTF?!

I have read some appalling things, and suffered some appalling things at my exhusbands hands but this has even me wondering how the hell you havent put him under the patio.

Get the piece of cruel useless shit out of your house but do be prepared for utter bafflement when he simply cannot see why you are doing it.

Leave him!

Do not raise your daughter in a house with that psycho.

Your baby is in danger with him in the house. There will be lots of challenging times from here onwards. It will get worse unless you leave.

Look out for the safety of your baby and yourself. Please stay elsewhere and kick that excuse of a man out of your house.

Please leave him and make a good life for you and your wee one. What an awful person you're married to!
If by some miracle you're having sex with him make sure you've got contraception very much sorted...

well then go girl go!! good luck to you and your baby. Don't look back and don't ever settle for anything like him again,

How long have you been together? Assuming you’re in the UK, if you’ve been together for 5 years (including dating before marriage) then that house, while solely in your name, will still be a marital asset and will be part of the financial pot in any divorce settlement.

If you are close to the 5 year mark get the wheels in motion to split soon so that you can likely keep your assets.

All the best getting free from him - he sounds absolutely vile.

I wouldn't be having any more children unless they are with another, better, partner. Don't even consider it, he sounds awful. I don't say this lightly, but LTB.

Interesting how you can hate a stranger on the basis of one post but here we are. I really hope this isn’t real.

This is awful. I would have left after the first baby and definitely wouldn't be considering doing it all again.

You begged for help post c-section and he called you a psychopath and shut the door? He's not a good husband or a father, he is vile.

He's an absolute bastard from hell, a total cunt of an individual! That it utterly unforgiveable! Do not have another child with him, and in fact, get rid of the arsehole!!

I can't understand why you are still with him, let alone considering having another child.

You know you need to divorce him deep down. Time to get rid now.

Oh my god, I’m so sorry you’ve been treated so appallingly 😞💐

That is absolutely unforgivable. You and your DD will be soooo much better without him in your lives. He does not deserve to be a father.

Please do not have anymore children with this evil waste of space. Leave him. Divorce. As soon as you possibly can. You’re probably a lot more stronger than you think x

Are you not legally married or did you in some way protect your interest in your house? I think you need legal advice because he's going to claim half the house given half the chance.

There is no coming back from your husband saying he wishes you'd killed yourself when you had depression during pregnancy - just before you go in to have the baby. He is vile and you certainly should not have another child with him. You could get better DNA from a sperm donor on the sheer law of averages and it would be a similar level of help ie none at all.

Good God! That's actually quite disturbing. He's a vile individual and you should leave him asap. Have you told anyone IRL about his shocking behaviour? How long ago did this happen?

Ex husband surely? If he doesn’t understand why, show him this thread and these women’s responses to his diabolical behaviour. It won’t get better.