Really upset with family’s reaction

[Autumnhedgehog]

I have recently won my pip mandatory reconsideration for both PMDD and ADHD. Also generalised anxiety and depression.
I am currently unable to work as I’m not well enough.

I’m really upset as my parents and my brother think I’m taking the piss with getting pip it seems. My brother called it a ‘pisstake’ when he found out and my mum thinks that he’s right to feel that way as he’s working a full week and in her words I’m “sitting about at home, getting free money”
I’m feeling really down about it, as I thought they’d be pleased for me. It’s taken a lot of strength to get through the assessment processes and the stress of it made me feel very ill at times.

I’m now starting to question the decision and I feel like a bit of a fraud or something.

Absolutely agree. Whenever I comment on MN I always take the OP comments at face value. I've never needed pip or had to deal with a chronic health problem, so I can only accept the word from those who do. I'm sure that some people with similar conditions are able to cope in different ways, but that's irrelevant if the OP says she can't and needs pip.

Her issue is with unkind and unsupportive family, and that's what we're supposed to be addressing here. How on earth is piling the responsibilities of the country's economy and social care bill on her shoulders appropriate here? Honestly those people need to be on another forum if they want to discuss that.

I’m a GP, and a human being, and I can assure you all doctors have opinions on patients, or “judge” them, if you choose to use that word. We still treat them equally. But we can’t help having opinions.
And as for proving people on forums are what they say they are, of course that isn’t possible. OP could have made the whole thing up. She might be a male multi millionaire premier league footballer for all we know!

I believe your a gp by how judgemental you are

You're

Anyone who thinks GP's. Nurses, Dr's or anyone who works in healthcare, don't have opinions or make judgements, then you're very sorely mistaken.

We do judge and we do make comments

Is it right to judge, no of course, but can you all honestly say in your jobs, you don't judge anyone, honestly, can you?

I think people forget we are human.

No I don't judge anyone at work or in life why would I, I don't know their life, their story and I definitely don't think im better or above anyone so why would I judge them

Really

Well you're a better person than the majority of us.

Clearly

It's selfish and narrow minded to be resentful not human nature.

Congratulations on getting through the assessment and being successful! I’m off sick with a chronic condition and have not managed to garner up the energy to attempt applying as it’s pretty brutal! For my condition, over 90% of applications are turned down first time and so those who have got it have been through appeal too. So don’t feel any guilt because as you’ve passed, it’s warranted!

I'll ask again, has the OP ever worked?

Is there any need to correct, typo’s do happen, once comments are made, they can’t be edited.

No not at all, just very unprofessional.All information is supposed to be confidential, and the ‘professional’ is paid to be impartial.
It’s very strange to then go onto an anonymous forum, saying you’re a medical professional.

Do people only deserve social care and support if they have paid? So children? The disabled? They don't deserve the help as they've not paid in? I really hope you never find yourself or any of your loved ones in need of help.

The information is confidential. No one is spreading any information.

Do you think teachers talk about pupils and parents?
Bar staff about customers?
Retail staff about customers?
Hotel staff about customers?
Police Officers?
Staff in food banks?

It is human nature. Weather it is right or wrong it is human nature.

It's one thing to say it's human nature it's quite something else to be wearing it as some sort of badge of honour and repeatedly asking if OP has worked or not. Certain professions should be protected from people just like you.

I have asked twice if the OP is working.

Hardly repeatedly.

I am not wearing any badge of honour, just pointing out the realities of working in Healthcare/SS.

Posters making out they don't judge make me laugh, we have all done it. Maybe I am just more honest than others.

Not honest no, heartless sure.
Definition of repeat: to say something you've already said.
OP quickly realised MN is full of more judgemental people like you and their family and won't be back, so who exactly youre asking that to/for is a mystery.

You’ve just corrected someone for making a spelling mistake, you’ve just done the same, weather, instead of whether.So no, l’m not interested or taking your comments seriously.
You’re just completely missing the point, working in a bar, or retail, is not comparable Claiming to be a medical professional, on an anonymous forum is just trying to justify a comment.

Yes wrong use of whether, am also looking at holidays, my bad.

I am that bothered if you take my comments seriously or not, doesn't matter to me.

Jfc some of you guys need to re evaluate your lives, this is just pathetic. MN should remove all of these irrelevant posts.

I am glad to hear you are going to get some therapy OP. Your mums response makes me wonder if your difficulties are, in some ways, linked to your early life. If she is this invalidating now I’m wondering how your emotions were received when you were little. You deserve the money so that you can heal and work on building yourself up. Good luck with that process.

That's horrible, I know id much rather be working than be on a lower income, staying at home all day. In other words, I'm really sorry your brother feels somehow marginalised by this and your mum is taking his side and ganging up on you. There's nothing. You can do to help them understand, sadly. I hope you can start to work through things and get to a place where you're feeling well enough to work.

It’s just a shame you didn’t take the same attitude, when you decided to correct someone else.