To think stay-at-home parents have it easier than they let on?

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I'm tired of hearing stay-at-home parents complain about how hard their day is. AIBU to think that working parents have it harder since they have to juggle work and home life?

Cool.

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I spent 4 months between jobs technically as a SAHM. Hardest 4 months of my life, and I only have 1 child! 😂

Who do you hear complaining?

I would say it depends on the home life and the work/job in question, surely?

No, l have been both, the working bit was so much easier, an hours commute to read my book and chill out, lunch in peace a whole hour to do what l wanted. Even factoring my ex who was a sahd, did bugger all in the house and l still had to do all the cleaning and life admin, working was still easier than staying at home.

I feel like you're taking the mick.. but I can say I've done both and being a stay at home parent is much harder.

At work I know what I'm meant to be doing, I'm not thinking about any of my kids needs, I get a break..

On my day off I struggle to entertain my toddler, as he's used to being at nursery 10 hours a day. I also have to think about his meals, and house work and everything else that goes with being at home

Depends on the child/ren surely? Complex needs will require more intensive input, those without such needs should in theory, be easier.
But 'worms, can and opened' spring to mind with your post

Ridiculous, goady post. Impossible to generalise. No two people are the same. And I speak as a single parent who works FT.

It’s not a competition.

Oh bore off.

But you don't work and parent at the same time. I think it really depends on a person, but for me, being at home is much harder. No lunch break, no coffee break, no going to the loo alone.

My work is pretty relaxed and predictable. My toddler is not! I am at home now and enjoying this time I have with my DC, but it's in no way easier than working!

Hmm in the earlier years it was really fucking trying tbh, I would have much rather have been at work, I was tired regardless but maybe I would have been able to finish a cup of tea and had a conversation with an adult.

Depends if children are at home all the time (and as such very young) or whether they’re at school.

Once they’re at school, then it obviously is easier to be a SAHM than, for example, a single working parent who has to work a full day AND do everything a SAHM has to do, but in less time.

Depends on job, depends on children, depends on personality, depends on support network either paid for or otherwise.

Depends on the parent, depends on the child(ren).

Original. Well done OP.

I'd much rather be working than a sahp. It is soul destroying and utterly miserable being a sahp, that's my experience anyway.

I think it depends on the job, the child/ren, any extra care responsbilities (eg elderly parents), your support system and the person.

I left working to become a sahm and yes I found it easier. Perhaps if I was working in an office rather than teaching and not having to bring home work every night, had a sleeping NT typical child, grandparent who could occasionally help out rather than needing lots of help maybe it would have been different.

Definitely, but you´ll get roasted.

Was just thinking that.

What's become of Mumsnet? All these idiotic posts everywhere, all the time.

You can't compare peoples lives. Children are different, jobs are different, circumstances are different.

Massively disagree based on my own experience but it totally depends on your personality type / your child / your job. Personally my days at work are so much easier. I am currently trying to increase my hours to full time, as the one full day a week I have solo parenting DC is absolutely killing me.

Should say my job is interesting and relatively easy and one of my DC is severely disabled. But even with abled DC I would enjoy work more.

Love doing childcare along with DH / family but find it such a mind-numbing drudge by myself. Endless respect for full-time SAHP!

I've done both and being a SAHM was much easier apart from the boredom. I could plan my day how I wanted, go out, stay home, it was up to me.

This again. 🥱

Depends. My friend is a SAHM, when they were babies / toddlers at home Jesus I didn’t envy her at all, I loved the peace and quiet of work. But her kids are all at school now so she has 9-3 to herself and I get quite jealous! It really isn’t a competition though. It depends on a zillion things.