Twins should not be dressed the same

[Mokel]

My friend has identical twin girls - aged 3, She has never put them in the same clothing. Sometimes when buying a multipack of babygrows, t-shirts - each one wears one of these from the same pack. She is often criticised by people that she should dress them the same. First its none of their business and secondly, they may be identical in appearance but not in personality. People need to treat twins individually.

I have twin boys, they are in their twenties now, but I never dressed them the same. However, they took every opportunity to dress the same as each other when they started to choose their own clothes. Can't win!! 😆

I dress my boy and girl (not twins) the same sometimes mainly so if I lose one I can say "help! It's dressed the same as this one!"

However twin mums can make their own choices. Any twin mum who can persuade two 3yos to make the same choices over clothing at the same time should really be running the country.

I have 4 year old boy/girl twins but if they had been 2 girls or 2 boys, I don't think I would have dressed them the same all the time. But that's mainly down to logistics for me because I just know I would really struggle to find all the bits in my house to match them head to toe in exactly the same outfit every day 😂 I have ADHD and can't keep up with laundry and whatnot as it is. I have co-ordinated their outfits quite often and sometimes my girl twin will wear the same dress as their little sister which can be cute.

Would definitely like to add: "No twins, no opinion". I also recommend your friend uses that line to whomever is telling her how to dress her family. When you're a twin parent, it comes in handy.

That last sentence made me laugh 😆

A friend of mine dressed their identical twins the same when they were small. It made us learn to tell them apart, without relying on what they were wearing.

Twin toddler mum here (2 girls); we often dress them the same but not always. It’s usually easier and simpler to just pick out one outfit- plus we actually think it’s quite cute, it’s our prerogative as their parents to dress them how we choose. I’ve always found it wild the level to which people feel entitled to comment on twins, and give unsolicited opinions and advice on how you should be parenting them.. yeah ok, come back when you have a clue.

For me it's the negative comments like "Rather you than me", "I don't know how you do it" or people actually saying "I would kill myself if I was told I was having twins" Really? Do people actually not consider how awful those types of comments are? Sad thing is it's mostly people who are already parents who say them. I've also been tempted to say things like "Oh, you only have one? How boring!" Just so they understand how rude they're being commenting on our family dynamic in such a shitty way 😂 Don't even get me started on the ones who were visibly shocked when we announced we were having another baby. "But you already have TWINS!?!"

I feel you! I’d be here all night listing the rude comments I’ve had, often from complete strangers.. it’s crazy isn’t it?! We were over the moon when we found out we were having twins! I’m definitely in the ‘no twins, no opinion’ camp 😂

People just always seem to want to put a negative spin on it like they can't think of anything worse than having twins which I find really sad. Then there's the odd folk who will say that it's actually just the same as having one because you're already doing the same task so it's not really double the work to do it twice 🤨 Or that they'll entertain each other 😂😂

I personally think being a twin parent is amazing and wouldn't change it for anything. In fact, I was a little disappointed that it wasn't twins the second time round but of course I repeatedly got "Oh I bet you're hoping it's just one this time/bet you're glad it's just one!" The same now that we're expecting our 4th actually. People now just act like we've completely lost the plot.

Never forget - "Double trouble."

People need to mind their business and not worry about how others are dressing their kids

This. This. And more this.

As a twin mum, unless you are another twin mum, or a triplet mum (who should be frankly awarded an MBE in the delivery suite) then indeed, your opinion on what we should be doing with our multiples, can fuck off.

Mine aren't identical. But they have the same of virtually everything. Because then no one has the "better" thing.

It’s a complete non issue…..my GDs are 3 years apart….my DD often puts them in the same outfits….doesn’t mean they are not treated as individuals

I have never dressed my identical girls the same, they are 16 now. To be honest, the whole ID thing creeped me out when I heard that's what they were going to be.
I wanted them to be treated as individuals and referred to them as "the girls" not "the twins".

They get lumped together enough by teachers even although they aren't really all that identical for identical!( funnily enough pupils can tell them apart easily).

Where I live there are identical twins in their 60s. Identical clothes, hair, specs, shoes. It looks a bit odd. People stare. They are single, I suspect there were never partners.
I find it ever so sad, a life half lived. I hope my girls are always close, but not that close.

😂😂 "double trouble"

"Do they run in the family?" (Oh, hello random stranger)

"Did you have IVF?" (Wow, fuck right off)

"Oh, I would never want twins, it must be awful" (only ever said out loud by jealous people)

"My nextdoor neighbour's cousin's aunt's pigeon's nephew's sister has twins" (what exactly do you want me to do with this information)

"Are they identical?" (Not from the waist down dear)

"Ooooohhhh!! Twins" (No, triplets, I leave the ugly one in the car)

Bring back any memories?

"Did you have IVF?" (Wow, fuck right off)

What's wrong with ivf?

My identical DD twins sometimes chose to dress the same but mostly dress differently. when they were babies/younger they dressed differently or matched with their sister who is 20 months older.

Nothing. You miss the point.

Do you think it's ok to interrogate random women as to if they conceived naturally or went through (potentially many cycles of) IVF?

Because people genuinely think they can ask and are quite entitled you need to answer them when you've got twins. Like you're all a novelty that needs to be explained.

I think there’s a difference between dressing twin babies who have no idea about clothes the same, and insisting that 10 year old twins with different styles dress the same just because they’re twins. If the children themselves aren’t bothered about dressing the same then I don’t see the issue. Parents should do whatever is easiest for them.

It’s asking how they were conceived. I prefer “reverse cowgirl”.

Part of me thinks each to their own, BUT I know a mum who would never buy anything for one if she couldn't get exactly the same for the other of her twin DDs. We got caught in a torrential rain shower once whilst away with a group, went into a local outdoor shop to get some coats but wouldn't buy any coats unless there were two exactly the same (the girls did not care). IMO it was verging on obsessive (and rather twee)...she was very much majoring on the "look I have twins!!! Two exactly the same!! Look at me, I have twins!!!"

mine would fight to the death if there was anything different. And shout “my want a HE has!” So most things really did have to be the same. It was a pain in the arse.

Ohhh the ‘double trouble’.. I can guarantee to hear that at least once on every outing 😂

The ‘in a way it’s easier for you as they entertain each other’ or ‘it’s not quite twice as much work is it though’ comments are genuinely eye-rolling 🙈

My uncle’s ex wife used dress their two sons (22 months apart in age) in the same clothes so people would think they were twins. She loved the attention.

My mother said it was because we always wanted what the other was wearing so we wore the same. Plus we had twin cousins so had their hand me downs.