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To have expected them to swap DD’s tombola prize?

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LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 14:07

DD had a go on a family tombola this morning in a family pub/restaurant style place. She won and it was bottle of wine. I asked if she could swap it for one of the more child friendly prizes or one of the teddies but they refused. So she’s won a bottle of wine that she can’t even have! AIBU to have excepted them to swap DD’s prize?

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Auburngal · 30/09/2024 18:14

I have been to events where the tombola had different colour tickets for booze, kids (sweets, toys) and general (chocolate, toiletries, boxes of shortbread etc) and the tickets were in a different bucket. So you could select tickets from one bucket, 2 or all three.

I remember going to the village (where I lived at the time) brass band's Christmas event aged about 10 and bought a £1 of tickets - 5 or 6 and won on every ticket - all booze! Plus were decent bottles of wine and brandy. The lady of the tombola stall recognised me as I was in the school choir and choir and brass band together did concerts. Had to wait til DM to take them.

Also this could happen in raffles.

Grammarnut · 30/09/2024 18:17

So you've got a bottle of wine. Lucky you. Buy her a suitable replacement. Honestly!

Mumoftwochildrenand6furkids · 30/09/2024 18:23

Drink the wine or gift it and treat your daughter to an treat or something she would enjoy dont have to cost an lot, problem solved.

JustMeAndTheFish · 30/09/2024 18:28

I won with a raffle ticket at a pony club gala thing and sent my daughters off across the arena saying “get the gin!” They returned with a 50p pack of horses stickers 🙄

Islandgirl68 · 30/09/2024 18:29

I see your point, that is why at school fairs, we had kids and adults tombola, and this would not happen. And we also kept a few things back just in case something like this happened and you needed to do a swop.

Miserytubs1993 · 30/09/2024 18:40

I won a bottle of whiskey in a raffle when I was about 9.. my dad bought it off me for £5 and I bought myself some treats with the fiver 😂

Pumpkinsoup24 · 30/09/2024 18:50

They are breaking the law as you can't give children alcohol....and as mich fun as it is, children arnt actually allowed to gamble or take part in tombolas. It's not a family tombola if it is offering wine.
And before anyone jumps in with...children can, it's my job to know the law. Most people don't even realise that if your child picks the number for the scratch cards, then the cashier is supposed to refuse the sale and if caught going along with it will lose their job and a heft fine to the cashier and company and possible lose their licence.
You could have reported it if it was a pub, om sure he'd love to swap it for you than get a 38,000 fine.

Single50something · 30/09/2024 18:59

I'd 'buy'.the wine from my child and they can get something they like at the.shop
Easy :)

TulipinUK · 30/09/2024 19:25

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Username197 · 30/09/2024 19:25

😂😂😂😂 this has to be up there with one of MN’s finest!

It’s a tombola. It’s fun. It’s a game. You get what you win or you lose. You got a bottle of wine for £1. You seem to think this is a first world problem.

Please avoid all events/games in future. Hook a duck, raffles, lucky dips… and never ever go to a bongos bingo event 🙈

Beautifulweeds · 30/09/2024 19:35

I would be quite happy with that and get her a little something instead lol 😆

Toooldtopretend · 30/09/2024 19:36

FFS. Child may have handed over the pound but she clearly wasn’t alone, adults were there. She won, great, get on with it. If she won a prize she didn’t like (say a dinosaur toy but she wanted a colouring book) would you also expect to swap? If you want to choose, go in a shop and buy it!

Arran2024 · 30/09/2024 19:39

sugarplum33 · 29/09/2024 14:11

Pretty sure it's illegal to have kids playing for alcohol prizes.

I agree. At our school there was a separate tombola for alcohol and kids couldn't enter.

Toooldtopretend · 30/09/2024 19:41

ThatAgileGoldMoose · 29/09/2024 14:34

TBF they shouldn't have allowed an under 18 year old to have purchased a ticket if there was alcohol as prizes. It's more usual to divide it into two if kids are expected to want to buy tickets.

OP just take her to tesco and buy her a bag of sweets that she wants and swap it with her for the booze. Then have a large glass for yourself!

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It really isn’t - have you ever been to a school fair? Kids win alcohol but you only hand it over to an adult with them.

justfornow1 · 30/09/2024 20:02

My DS 8 at the time won a tin of value new potatoes. She was lucky 😂

Thwart · 30/09/2024 20:07

My 10 year old was most pleased with the bottle of Laphroaig of the same age he won at the village fete this year.

Bowies · 30/09/2024 20:09

By rights she should not have been allowed to enter, but it happened to me in the ‘olden days’ and sat in a cupboard for years. It was quite a novelty!
No-one would have asked for or expected a swap.

I don’t think you should expect to have it both ways OP. You could have just had a laugh about it and offered to buy her a teddy in exchange,

JudgeJ · 30/09/2024 20:23

ToNiceWithSpice · 29/09/2024 19:32

Bloody hell, this is how tombolas have worked forever , do people really have to moan about everything these days?

You would not believe some of the whining we get at the Christmas event, even adults saying 'Can I swap this for that?' and sulking when told No.

JudgeJ · 30/09/2024 20:25

Thwart · 30/09/2024 20:07

My 10 year old was most pleased with the bottle of Laphroaig of the same age he won at the village fete this year.

If that had been my tombola he would have won it quite late on, I keep the best tickets in my pocket for the first half!

kierenthecommunity · 30/09/2024 20:37

LionMummy8 · 29/09/2024 14:36

You just swap the numbers on the prize, that’s all. It takes 2 seconds.

so if you give her a child friendly prize. You take the number off the child prize and then put it on the bottle of wine, sorted.

This would be the easiest thing to do after a child had won alcohol.

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I’ve been thinking about this so much to make sure I’ve got this right 😂

but…wouldn’t swapping the ticket also involve rummaging around in the tub of tickets to find and dispose of the actual teddy prize ticket? 🤔

so not actually all that easy 😂

kierenthecommunity · 30/09/2024 20:39

My DSs old year 6 teacher asked for tombola prizes for a school fair. I asked if they were allowed to accept alcohol so I could get rid of the bottles of jammy red the MIL insists on inflicting on us because I’m generous like that. She replied that was great as they had a separate bottle tombola.

Which sounds like my sort of fete event I will be honest 😂

SerenityNowSerenityNow · 30/09/2024 20:50

My DS would have been chuffed to win a bottle of wine for me 😂😂

I can't believe you went back OP!

2dogsandabudgie · 30/09/2024 20:54

kierenthecommunity · 30/09/2024 20:37

I’ve been thinking about this so much to make sure I’ve got this right 😂

but…wouldn’t swapping the ticket also involve rummaging around in the tub of tickets to find and dispose of the actual teddy prize ticket? 🤔

so not actually all that easy 😂

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If the OP's daughter say had ticket no. 150 and the teddy was say no. 300, they just swap the tickets over so now ticket no. 300 is on the wine and 150 is on the teddy. The other ticket with 300 on it is still in the drum.

Hope I've explained that somewhat clearly 😁

MrsLighthouse · 30/09/2024 21:00

Annoying and as others have pointed out alcohol should be only given to over 18’s … but honestly it’s a non problem.

TickingAlongNicely · 30/09/2024 21:08

They didn't give the wine to the child though, they gave it directly to an adult.