Am I bu to feel that this is an inappropriate thing to say to a parent who's lost lost their child?

[EnfysHeulenEira]

Lost my son Isaac six moths ago to neroblastoma; it was absolutely the worst Time or our lives.

At the time we go so many people comment. Post or text

oh that's so, I'll give my littles a extra big squeeze tonight: I don't think I'd still be here if I was you, I'd have killed myself

I mean thanks I guess, I've got 2 year old and I am 39 weeks pregnant.I can't give up, my babies need me.

I saw a woman who used to be good friends with me before Isaac died and then dropped me when he died, said to me yesterday. Oh wow you look glowing! I'm so glad you were able to move on and replace Isaac, you know when that sorry thing happened I just couldn't stop crying thinking about my own babies dying I just hug them a little tight now

First of all there is no replacing Isaac! Second of all you knew I was pregnant when we lost him and lastly fuck out about the holding your babies tighter. Someone wrote in a card that was attacked to flowers we got '
sleep well Isaac, will give my baby a big hug tonight'

If you're one of those people who say that, please stop

Not appropriate in the title 🤦‍♀️

Those all sound awful things to say.

Yep - completely inappropriate.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Christ almighty what the fuck is wrong with these people 😡.

So sorry OP.

I’m really sorry for your loss and I agree that those comments were insensitive

its very hard to know what to say to someone when something so tragic has happened as words just aren’t enough but I think the basic is to not make it about you (which talking about what you would do or about hugging your own kids tighter is)

I'm so sorry for the loss of your Isaac.

I'm honestly shocked that anyone would say those things to you? That seems so obviously tactless and heartless.

I think some people just lack emotional intelligence and social awareness.

Good grief what awful things to say to you. Hugely inappropriate @EnfysHeulenEira so sorry xx

Totally inappropriate of people to say. My condolences OP 💜

That’s awful I cannot believe people actually thought that was acceptable! Sorry for your loss

I am so sorry. That’s awful op 💐💐💐

I’m really sorry OP

I’m so sorry for your loss, I cannot imagine who in their right mind would think that’s an acceptable thing to say to a grieving mother.

God, that's dreadful. I'm so sorry people are such arseholes.

I know people sometimes don't know what to say when something this tragic happens, but that's beyond tactless.

Omg. So sorry. I struggle to know what to say sometimes (I suspect ASD) but that is absolutely thoughtless.

Jesus Christ.

I know people struggle to know what to say, but really? You're not a learning experience for them. Do you have a mutual friend who could maybe run interference or tell people they're being inappropriate? I appreciate you may just want to avoid the drama of responding.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you have other people you can surround yourself with. And I hope you have a safe and straightforward delivery with your third child.

Oh my goodness. I can’t believe people are so crass and insensitive. These are all
absolutely horrendous things to say.

I am so sorry for the loss of your gorgeous boy xx

Jesus some people, what awful things to say to you.
I hate the “if it was me…” brigade after a massive bereavement. Comparing their completely hypothetical projection of feelings to your real ones. Like having to get on with living means you don’t feel your loss acutely.

Very inappropriate, I'm very sorry for your loss
I'm.absolutly not comparing , but i have a severely disabled child and I also get lots of inappropriate comments about how others couldn't cope in my situation,
I think sometimes people try to be kind but just don't think what impact there words will have.

In these circumstances I might suggest looking at the intention rather than the actual words but in this case, no, she is a thick heartless horrid person. I would cut her off and never have anything else to do with them.

Fucking hell those comments are awful. People are so thoughtless.

Not on the same level as your loss, but I had five miscarriages and got very depressed as a result, and someone asked me how I was. I said I wasn't doing very well, and they replied "but are you winning?". I had no idea what to say so I just stared at them and they SAID IT AGAIN.

People are thoughtless fuckwits.

Fucking hell. No, you’re not remotely unreasonable.
I am so sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry for your loss and yes they are staggering insensitive and, frankly, cruel things to say to you

Sadly, far too many people love to centre themselves in other people's tragedies

Oh look at me look how awful I feel about this thing let's make it about my feelings so everyone can see how it's affected me and give me some sympathy and attention for this thing that didn't fucking happen to me and isn't bloody well about me or anything to do with me.

Twats

I'm so sorry.

I think some people think empathy is putting themselves in your shoes and just thinking about them.

My eldest child died and I too have lost friends who just can't cope with it.

You will find others though, who will be some of the best people.

Sending you enormous love.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I had similarly awful comments when my son died. I was very young - the worst I got was "maybe it's for the best - you can enjoy yourself for a few years and try again when you're older".I get that people don't know what to say but surely some things bloody obviously shouldn't be said.

When my friends 3 week old baby was in hospital with a brain hemorrhage someone private messaged her on fb and asked to stop posting updates as it was making her stressed!!

People are thoughtless knobs.

It must have been an awful time, I'm so sorry you lost your boy xx