Who is bu regarding lifts?

[Nostalgianostalgic]

There are two people. Gordon and Billy.

Billy is giving Gordon a lift regularly. That's fine and Billy doesn't mind at all under the circumstances. Without going into it all it's a reasonably arrangement.

But when Billy goes to pick Gordon up Billy texts Gordon just as he's leaving to say "on way". It's a 2 minute drive away.

When Billy arrives, he's having to wait several minutes for Gordon to come out to the car and is getting annoyed.

Gordon says that Billy should text again to say that he's there, but Billy thinks as he's helping Gordon, that Gordon should be ready and waiting at the door.

Who is bu?

So if Gordon wants a lift.. he better not annoy Bill and be ready on time.. even if that means to wait for him.

Gordon is a massive CF.

I was trying to post in a neutral way initially to get honest opinions so I did end up leaving a lot of the details out.

It is all relevant but I just wanted to verify that if someone is picking you up and has let you know they're on the way you should be ready not leave them waiting for several minutes.

Gordon.

I always fell my kids if someone is giving you a lift home make sure you are ready and straight out to the car as soon as they arrive.

@Nostalgianostalgic "It is all relevant but I just wanted to verify that if someone is picking you up and has let you know they're on the way you should be ready not leave them waiting for several minutes."

How many minutes is several?

Gordon is totally unreasonable.
I was Billy once and my Gordon did the same and texted them when I was leaving my house, also about 2 mins drive . I told them if they weren’t there when I arrived I wasn’t waiting. Amazingly they were then able to get out of the door in 2 mins!

If it’s the same time for every lift, Billy should tell Gordon he’s not texting him anymore he needs him to be waiting outside or he will not stop & only text if he is going to be unreasonably late.

I couldn't get ready to leave the house with 2 min notice - find my wallet/phone, go to the toilet, put shoes on etc. And that is even if I saw the text. Get ready for a certain time yes, otherwise no

Great. Sort your own
travel then.

If it is the same time every day /pick up then your dh billy is nice even sending the same text every time

I would literally say be outside waiting for me at 7pm or else I won't detour and pick you up again

Gordon is obv an old fart as no one under 50 is called Gordon

Well hope they aren't 😂

Erm, then sort your own travel arrangements.

Honestly 🙄

But Gordon knows that Billy will be picking him up at 7pm, or as near as damn as. Because they have arranged that, and that's what time Billy always picks him up. Gordon should not need a text message. And if it's after work for Gordon too, he should have changed including putting shoes on as soon as he got home from work so that he could be ready and waiting for the two movie text message, grab his coat and lock the door behind himself and be stood at the end of his drive ready to be picked up.

Only thought, is Gordon in his 70s+? Retired old men do seem to lose ability to understand timeliness, or at least my father definitely has!

Between 5-10 minutes.

The point is, Billy doesn't want to or have time to be waiting around outside then have to text Gordon saying he's there.

@ThatAgileGoldMoose exactly. Gordon already knows Billy is coming at a certain time. Plus he gets the heads up that Billy is leaving so has enough time to get out the door or at least be ready.

Gordon expects Billy to text once he's arrived so that HE doesn't have to wait.

I think the one doing the favour should be the one who doesn't have to wait.

If a friend is giving me a lift I am outside waiting for them when they drive up. You don’t make the driver wait when they’re the one doing the favour.

Shoes and coat on, bag in hand, brolly as needed, ready to get in as they pull up.

@ThatAgileGoldMoose "Only thought, is Gordon in his 70s+? Retired old men do seem to lose ability to understand timeliness, or at least my father definitely has"

Ageist bollocks.

@Nostalgianostalgic Oh, I thought you meant 2/3 minutes! 10 is definitely taking the piss. He should say very simply and clearly that from now on he will wait 2 minutes then go without any more warning. I'd give 2 minutes grace because I would probably suddenly need a pee.....

Gordon needs to appreciate Billy more. Perhaps a period of catching the bus might help him to be grateful and learn some manners.

No, Gordon should be waiting on the doorstep

Absolutely not ageist bollocks. Just my personal experience of men of that age group.

@ThanksHunPenneys completely off topic but deadly name 😁

And Gordon is being unreasonable OP

Any minutes keeping Billy waiting is bang out of order.

Gordon doesn't get lifts anymore. Gordon has to be on time of or the bus because the bus doesn't wait.