To have unfriended this person?

[unfriender]

I was friends on social media with someone I knew reasonably well when our DC were younger. Now they are grown up, I've not seen her for years but we would interact occasionally on SM. I always thought she was a nice person.

A couple of weeks ago, she posted that her elderly mother had died. I offered my condolences which she thanked me for. The funeral isn't for a couple more weeks and she posted the other day that she was abroad on holiday. What triggered me was that she chose to post a photo of her, her DH & DC drinking in a bar, clearly having a fun time. It seemed crass & inappropriate to me so soon after the loss so I unfriended her on the spot.

For context, I lost my own mother a few years ago, I was devastated and still am. I wouldn't have dreamt of going off abroad so soon after her death, before we'd even had the funeral, leaving my siblings to grieve without me and sort everything out.

I mentioned it to my sister (who is also friends with her) expecting her to feel the same as me but she just shrugged and said each to their own. She says she doesn't want to unfriend her as she likes reading her posts and seeing how the DC are getting on now they're older (so did I tbh).

While I stand by how I feel about her actions, I'm left wondering if I overreacted? Would others have done the same?

OP. I'm sorry for your loss and I think your reaction to this friend's posts were more about the fact that you are still grieving yourself. It affects everyone differently. I hope you can find someone in RL to talk it through with.

You have over reacted majorly!!! Just because she was on holiday drinking, does not mean she is nor grieving. She could have gone away to help with the pain , cheer her children up or have something positive going on in a place where it's full of darkness. I know a guy who lost his wife , left behind 3 children , he took them on holiday. Nothing wrong with it at all. People deal with grief differently.

OP I am embarrassed for you

OP can you add her back as a friend? For all she knows it could be a facebook glitch or been hacked.
If you can, I would.

You were obviously massively unreasonable and recognise that now but its not too take to salvage the friendship.

I recently lost an aunt (a brief illness) and her sons (who had lost their father at a young age) organised everything ie the funeral etc. They were clearly distraught and loved their mum dearly. One week after the funeral they both went on a couple of Stag does around Europe and I saw photos on Social media of them enjoying themselves.

All I could think was good for them and was happy to see them smiling after such a torrid time. Pretty sure its what their mum would have wanted to. It doesnt take away the fact I know they were devastated.

What makes you think that OP is remorseful, far from it from the two posts she’s put up.

She’s stated she’s not adding her again as a friend, that’s best for the other person I think.

Your'e quite right. I just read the part where she realised she was wrong and apologised but have now seen that she wont be trying to correct her error and more.

So really, OP is completey wrong and its probably best the friendship is over.