To have told DD she has to come to family day out regardless of how she feels?

[Dawevi]

For years DD15 was massively into Harry Potter and was desperate to go to the HP experience. DS10 is quite a few years younger than her and is now into HP and they have played HP games together, DD has dressed DS up, read him the books, etc, and so we decided to book to go as a family. We gave them the tickets months ago as a surprise and DD seemed underwhelmed but wouldn't talk to us about it. She's autistic so we thought she might just be overwhelmed.

It's now in a few weeks and she told me tonight she doesn't want to go. She hasn't really said why and won't talk about it.

AIBU to have told her that we are going and that's it? It's expensive, I'm pretty sure she will enjoy it or at least bits of it once there, and sometimes we just have to do stuff we aren't so keen on, in my opinion. I personally have never read or watched any HP and nor has DH, but I imagine we will find things to enjoy.

AIBU?

Squash her morals? In what way am I doing that? You have no idea how much support I give her in knowing how to make decisions.

JK hasn't done anything bad. Ugh kids these days are being brainwashed 😑

You’d think it was a question of MeToo accusations or using sweatshop labor, not voicing a view that aspects of trans activism conflict with the rights of biological women.

OP, I just want to say that I think it’s really open-minded of you to let your kids get into Harry Potter even though you have religious beliefs that are adamantly opposed to magic and witchcraft. You sound like a great parent who pays a lot of attention to her kids’ inner lives.

I didn’t say you were. Only there are a lot of people on this thread saying she should be forced to go and schooled that JKR is a hero not a villain. I’m advising against taking this advice.

Just because someone has different values to you doesn’t mean they have been “brainwashed”.

It'll be the terf thing.

As PP have said, one parent goes with your son and you also take two of his friends. As for your daughter, this battle is not worth fighting.

I'd certainly challenge my dcs to produce the evidence on what JK said - these kids are brainwashed.

Despite googling, I have not managed to find where a sum of money is offered to produce anything transphobic that JKR has said.

Does anyone have a link please? I would LOVE to pass it on to my children and get them to actually have to read what she says. Thanks

Is this the one? Distance Magazine offered £1m

www.thedistancemag.com/p/we-will-award-steve-wardlaw-1-million?r=uglk

Thanks @Catoo will have a read 👍👍

Ok so having now been, I think it's actually pitched much more at older people. It's all about the sets, the costumes, the prosthetics etc, and while younger kids definitely enjoy running round looking at the sets, you get much more from them if you're older and can appreciate the work and detail.

DS enjoyed it a lot but he didn't appreciate it in the way that we did (I love costumes so spent ages looking at those, DD really likes the prosthetics room). We were there five hours, which you definitely couldn't do with a younger child, we saw people with toddlers who frankly must have been bored stiff. It's not a theme park, it's basically a museum with a few, not many, interactive bits.

In fact at times DS was a bit bored because it's a lot of looking at things and he wanted to move on while we were still looking. He liked the actors they had (playing death eaters) and the green screen broomstick riding.

I'm glad you all enjoyed it apart from DS being a bit bored. We all went as adults and thoroughly enjoyed it. Even got to open the big doors as it was a big birthday treat for me and DH