To think that 5 children growing up motherless because their Mum wanted cosmetic surgery is absolutely tragic *edited by MNHQ

[AngeloMysterioso]

And actually a damning indictment of the state our society and the pressure placed on women to conform to increasingly ridiculous and unattainable standards of “beauty”??

A woman in her early-30’s has just died after having a Brazilian butt lift procedure in Gloucestershire, leaving 5 children who will now grow up without their mother. She’s not even the first woman to die after this procedure, which is known to be the most dangerous cosmetic surgery procedure commonly available- just the first to die after having it done in the UK.

What the fuck is going on?? Why are women literally putting their lives on the line trying to mimic some cartoonish Kardashian aesthetic? Is it that we place so little value on our own lives or so much value on appearance? Is it that these surgeries and treatments which were once the preserve of the rich and famous, are now available to pretty much anybody and can be performed by people with next to no qualifications?

I feel so angry for that woman, and desperately sad for her children.

Looking at her social media feed, she was performing "liquid nose jobs", skinny jabs, botox and lip fillers on other women too.

There really does need to be a massive crackdown on people offering these sorts of "procedures" without any medical training whatsoever.

If anyone walks into a salon and sees two practitioners with the botched asthethic that the owner and their assistant had, then my advice would be to RUN. Honestly they looked like Frankenstein’s monster’s family.

Medicine is complicated. Especially human medicine. Takes weeks to learn.

Plus it's likely that any qualified practitioner wouldn't touch a job like this with a bargepole.

But it's your choice and responsibility to yourself at the end of the day.

I used to have a nice peachy bum. Over the years it’s got flatter but never have I been tempted or pressured by anyone to have a Brazilian bum lift.

I agree, what on earth was she (not) thinking! Was the size of her arse really more important than her children. How the heck do you even have time to think about these things when you’re raising five kids. I didn’t even have time to shower having two children.

Her poor kids, I’d be feeling pretty angry as I got older that my mother put vanity before everything else.

I'm also fed up of people setting up GoFund Me pages for everything.

Granted that you don't have to contribute but someone dying from unnecessary plastic surgery doesn't seem a worthy cause. Lots of people lose family members in tragic circumstances but don't get the begging bowl out to fund a fancy funeral or whatever.

All surgery is risky and why people shouldn't do it unless absolutely necessary I know 2 people who died from gastric band surgery. Both left behind young children

About 2000.

Because you were brought up in a society where shaving is a social norm. That's social pressure to look a certain way. You're denying the concept of social pressure while conforming to it. And don't make up excuses about how it was a personal choice you just happened to discover one day; it's expected that you'll shave and you capitulated.

It’s incredibly sad there is a quite a group of women who want to look like this lady. And there is no stopping them, she was unrecognisable from her early photos. It’s so so sad. Those poor kids.

Of course it's driven by the male gaze. You're naive in the extreme if you can't see this.

We can blame society, but in the end as adults we are responsible for our own decisions. This woman did something very stupid indeed and society cannot be blamed for the stupidity of individuals. Every procedure comes with risk it is up to us to decide if that risk is worth it just to have a bigger arse. SMH

I agree with you.
But we will be flamed probably.

So you know your wants but this woman didn’t?

I see you have linked to the article yet ignored the plea in it from the bereaved husband for people not to engage in public conversations like this about his wife out of respect for the feelings of the five children who have lost their mother.

You must know the sort of comments you will attract starting this conversation on here. Couldn't you have just chatted in RL to people you know, where no-one but you and them will ever hear your words, rather than leave all the comments incited by this post as a permanent public record on a site available to literally anyone in the world?

Exactly

@poppyzbrite4 I didn't shave until I was probably 18 or 19. I never have my legs out as I'm mostly at work or at home in gym leggings (because I choose to workout for my health, not for men), and work I'm either in trousers or long, floaty skirts.

Is it not a bit sexist to say I, as a woman, can't have a preference about my own body without it being down to men?

I was responding to a poster who doesn't agree that there's such a thing as social pressure to look a certain way. Women are expected to shave their body hair in the UK. There is social pressure on women to shave and to deny that is disengenuous.

Having read about this I suspected that the woman may have been from the traveller community where an additional pressure on women and girls exists to look a certain cosmetically enhanced way.

• I am basing my assumption on my lived professional experience.

So she wanted to look good for men, or for her man? Because any man worth his salt cares not how plastic a womans face looks or how fat her bum is.

Do you have a link? I can’t find anything beyond 2 people were arrested for manslaughter.

Sure - but men don’t seem to be dying from BBLs in the same way. Why’s that?

you say this thread is about women but you brought men on the thread by your own question to begin with.

She’s already covered this upthread.

Strangely I don't know one man who finds the Kardashian arse attractive, same with lip fillers and botox. I a man and have a wide circle of friends from 22 to 75....whenever it comes up we all agree it's not an attractive look.
Sadly it's the cosmetics industry and women's own insecurities putting them at risk

If all those posters performatively weeping their crocodile tears for those children actually gave one shit about them they would not be slagging off their mother on a public site.

Shame on all of you who have done this.