To think that 5 children growing up motherless because their Mum wanted cosmetic surgery is absolutely tragic *edited by MNHQ

[AngeloMysterioso]

And actually a damning indictment of the state our society and the pressure placed on women to conform to increasingly ridiculous and unattainable standards of “beauty”??

A woman in her early-30’s has just died after having a Brazilian butt lift procedure in Gloucestershire, leaving 5 children who will now grow up without their mother. She’s not even the first woman to die after this procedure, which is known to be the most dangerous cosmetic surgery procedure commonly available- just the first to die after having it done in the UK.

What the fuck is going on?? Why are women literally putting their lives on the line trying to mimic some cartoonish Kardashian aesthetic? Is it that we place so little value on our own lives or so much value on appearance? Is it that these surgeries and treatments which were once the preserve of the rich and famous, are now available to pretty much anybody and can be performed by people with next to no qualifications?

I feel so angry for that woman, and desperately sad for her children.

Point proven.

@poppyzbrite4 because I have a physical preference for how my own skin feels?

I've shaved under my arms since I first discovered hair there, I didn't like it, nothing to do with the male gaze.

However, I don't see why women have to shave their legs, but have done it since I was about 17. That is societal pressure. BUT there's a very significant difference between shaving and having unnecessary surgery or injecting unnecessary chemicals into our bodies.

Two people have been arrested after this death. Although described on the news as an "operation" that infers hospital, anaesthetic, doctors/nurses, but this BBL thing appears to involve injections. So many women are buying into this "fake" aesthetic of lip fillers, implants in their bum or breasts, botox and the rest of it, and are quite happy to cut costs by allowing some random "beauty therapist" loose on them with syringes.

Absolute madness and if there is found to be negligence I hope the people involved in mutilating women's bodies in this manner without proper medical training are locked up for a long time.

@Function because maybe men aren't that stupid. Millions and millions of women don't feel the need to do that, so don't blame it on 'society' and social media. We are all responsible for our choices.

Victim blaming. What a load of old tosh.

This woman knew the risks and went ahead with it anyway, completely disregarding her 5 children.

It's the children I feel sorry for, not her.

Personally, I'd happily ban all cosmetic surgery and see any doctor or surgeon practising it struck off, if not imprisoned.

But that would simply trigger a backlash of "it's my body, blah-di-blahs", and that isn't really worth the hassle.

Interesting you can have enough filler to float a battleship legally injected by a butcher, but take one puff on a spliff and it's the big house for you.

I don’t think this is true. You can go back further than 50 years and find women developing extreme eating disorders, having ribs removed, swallowing tapeworms…

There definitely is pressure on women to have ‘slim thicc’ bodies, full lips, smooth skin (Botox).

One of my friend’s daughters has 9 A* grades for GCSEs and got anorexia.

No one is immune.

Honestly not sure I agree that we can blame men on the mental health/image obsession that might prompt someone to get these procedures - I think this is more of a social media and cosmetic industry issue, just women going down a rabbit hole and then probably lots of targeted ads to push users closer and closer to booking a procedure in.

In real life men partner up with women with a wide range of body types. I'm not especially gorgeous but I'm happily married and my husband has never made me feel bad about my appearance - if I've ever felt bad it's been myself comparing my looks to other women/adverts or other women making shitty comments to me. I think it's a really complicated issue that can't be boiled down to just men.

Yes but the average woman isn't in the public eye. No excuse for blaming pressure from society.

I dont think its men at all. Its competing against other women. Do you think her wrong'un of a boyfriend wanted an arse full of filler?

As do women. It's not the same thing at all.

Yes this! When I was that woman's age I wished I had a smaller behind. Well actually by the time I was that age I had long since accepted that it is what it is, but when I was much younger I would have loved a smaller, flatter arse rather than the more rounded, sticky out one that seems to be what I inherited.

When did times change?

Men probably aren't as stupid as to do it!

I don't understand why any woman wants a mahoosive arse!! For most of my life, women have wanted smaller ones!

I’m really confused as to how this has happened. They’ve injected liquid into her bottom, presumably she wasn’t knocked out, they haven’t cut her. She died within hours of it being done. I wouldn’t have thought necrosis would be that quick. Did they inject into a vein or something?
She’s been stupid to have it done by someone obviously unqualified but there does need to be a crack down on these non medics performing procedures

@5foot5 the kardashians (bar Kendall) all had BBLs and that kicked it off

you have to go down a very particular social media rabbit hole to think a ludicrously misshapen arse will transform your life

Do you think? I am quite shocked by the images I see on Instagram - I follow a lot of athletes and even they pose away from the track in a way that makes their arses look as big as possible. I think it goes way beyond a particular rabbit hole. Goodness knows why they think it's attractive.

Cross posted! Exactly!!

Exactly!

Maybe right maybe it's lack of common sense intelligence instead. I mean would any of you trust a service who is run by this man to do work on your body? I certainly wouldn't.

She had a 3 year old and she didn't want him to be teased at school for having a fat Mum, and now he has no Mum.

That‘s absolutely heartbreaking.

I wasn't talking about only about women in the public eye. I also talked about the pressure on women through social media. There is a lot of pressure on women to look good. The beauty industry is a trillion dollar business. I'm surprised you've never encountered this concept.

How very tragic. Just read about this on the BBC site. And she was absolutely beautiful!

@poppyzbrite4 yes. But because I want too. Not for any other reason. I don't care what other people think of my looks.