MIL and her emotional support dog

[Moreacatperson]

AIBU to not let MIL come round with her dog? She apparently can’t/won’t go anywhere without him (this has been the case for 10 months now) and it is causing tension.

I am terrified of dogs and also very allergic. I hate the smell and the hair and just don’t want one in the house. We were meant to host Christmas this year but after MIL told me ‘it’s not down to you - it’s down to MY son and he will override you on this and you can take antihistamines ‘ I cancelled it and let everyone know on the family WhatsApp that they all need to make alternative arrangements this year.

DH agrees with me as MIL only lives nearby so can easily leave the dog at home she just doesn’t like it as it’s not trained and is destructive when left alone and doesn’t have a crate. It’s more of a spoilt fur baby that she labels an emotional support dog (she just purchased the little vest it isn’t officially recognised as any kind of trained support dog)

I’ve told her not to bother me anymore if she wants to see DH / DC contact them directly and see them at her house or out

Oh what is this law? Doesn’t apply in our house. Pets are a luxury, a way of life for many people. TBH I won’t have MIL’s dog in my house because he’s a bitey little shit, but I do make time for her and I’m not a complete bitch…..

(PS it’s not about the dog, not in this case.)

My kind friend wanted to be the You Can Bring Your Precious Pooch To My House No Problem friend.. .. I tried to say it was fine dpuppy can stay home with dh.
Dutifully took dpuppy round. She had a huge poo on her new rug...
Oddly she didn't insist we keep up the joint visits!!

Yes lovey, I did read your post and realised that it would involve MIL trying to foist her pooch onto other family events. My comment still stands, the OP can decide not to include her and the pooch on other celebrations and get togethers, it isn't petty at all not to invite her.

What an awful thing to say. There’s only one person at fault in this whole situation and it isn’t OP

What an awful thing to say. There’s only one person at fault in this whole situation and it isn’t OP
While it is an awful thing to say we don’t know who the person at fault is for sure- we don’t know what the conversation or tone of conversation leading to all of this was. It’s the old three sides to every story thing.

I know, it’s odd how horrid people can be. So that poster is effectively saying she hopes the op is on her own in Christmas Day in relation to direct family ( I don’t count mils as direct family) and that her husband and child refuse to spend the day with her. I wonder if the poster really does mean that?

I think some posters say the kind of thing you'd mutter under your breath having come in from a stressful day, but they forget another human will read it

You are not being unreasonable and I say that as someone with two dogs. We know that people don't want them in their houses and that's fair enough.

🧐 Brenda are you on MN ?

(If this isn’t my MIL I’d be surprised after the message she sent last night to dh inviting him and dc to hers over Christmas 😂)

Best post of the thread!

😂

She’s got a bloody cheek, Hope she has a very happy Christmas with her dog (poor creature).

It’s his mother for god sake. If he wants to see her Christmas Day he damn well should and I hope he does.

OP isn’t exactly covering herself in glory, very petty.

Ha ha ha! That was my first thought too.

good luck with Brenda, she sounds nuts.

@Moreacatperson What was your DH and DC response to her invitation? Im hoping your DH said no thank you and your DC something less polite, just for comedic effect!

“AIBU to not let MIL come round with her dog?”

First line is the question, then the story/issue. Surely people respond by saying if OP is unreasonable or not 🤷‍♀️

Please tell us he declined?!?

You have allergies so of course YANBU to not want a dog round. The only thing you shouldn’t of done was tell everyone in the group chat it’s cancelled you should of got your DH to let them know just to prove he won’t override you and bow down to his mum

OP is not stopping her husband or her kids going to see his mother. She has literally said that they can contact MIL and vice versa and she is not going to be involved either way.

You and other posters sure are going out of their way to ignore OP’s severe dog allergy.

Well done OP, your MIL sounds like a nasty, self-centered arsehole.

Are you for real?

It's petty for someone with both a dog allergy and phobia to not want someone to bring a dog into their home?

My mil hated ddogs and we had one. Caught her in several occasions locking the poor thing outside.. Wish we had locked that old bat out....

He’s going to pop round with the dc on Xmas eve for few hours which I have no issue with at all it’s his mum after all and the dc nanny. It just won’t be the whole Xmas period like she wants

@RickyGervaislovesdogs

Hypocrite much? You won't have your MIL's dog in your house because he bites, but an OP with a severe allergy is in the wrong?

And good for you for seeing your MIL still. OP might see hers if MIL and dog didn't always come as a package deal wherever they were.

So you want to punish OP by hoping she spends Christmas on her own while her DH proves that his priority is his mum?

I thought all these support dogs were trained? Obviously not.

If not, then, no don’t let it in your home. I wouldn’t want some smelly, out of control dog in my home either. 🤷‍♀️