What is a reasonable consequence for this behaviour?

[Mamabear04]

DP picks DD up from school, she's a month shy of 5 years old. It's cold and she comes out with no jumper or jacket on. DP says she needs to put at least one on for the walk home. DD screams in an all out tantrum, throws bag on the ground, goes to kick the bag but kicks DP hand instead then continues with meltdown. Toddler is screaming now in buggy and DP speaks quietly but firmly, helps her on with jacket and then gets both kids home. DP works from home and has gone back to work (into a meeting). What would you give is a consequence to this behaviour? For context DD was upset about having to put on jacket/jumper but also because DP picked her up and not me (I'm having problems with my asthma and he took a break from work to help me get a rest as I've been looking after our sick toddler all day). I feel so incredibly embarrassed that the whole school saw how she behaved.

She's exhausted from school. I'd give empathy and love and and understanding, not consequences. She's far too young to get the connection anyway between behaviour after school and some later consequences.

You're completely incorrect about viruses and being cold btw. That's nonsense.

That souds far more sensible to me. A cuddle and a treat after acting out like that? She'll be doing it every day using those tactics. I dob't dsagree with 'gentle parenting ' but even in this brave new world, obeying parents is to be expected, not requested.

I don’t think there needs to be consequences at all for this, the consequence was she eventually put her coat on. She’s so young and kids this age are exhausted after school and so tantrums are normal. I wouldn’t be embarrassed

Your husband dealt with it at the time so no need for any punishment. You could have a quiet chat with her explaining that Daddy picked her up to help you as you didn't feel very well & he wanted her to put her coat or jumper on so she didn't get cold or get wet. it's because he loves her not because he wants to upset her. It's a long day at school for a nearly 5 year old & she's probably just been tired. Don't feel embarrassed. I bet other parents were just thankful it wasn't their child kicking off for a change & didn't bat an eyelid as most little ones are aggy after school.