To think DH should pay for DSC school fees

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Just wanted to get your thoughts on this: would you expect your husband to pay school fees for your children / his step children?

If yes, would you expect his to continue to pay school fees if you separated?

My response would be yes to both.

Youre a family, and therefore everything should be shared equally. If you did separate, you should continue to pay the fees the same way you would for your biological children.

Edit: the same would apply if the genders were reversed.

No. That's a parents job, not a step parents job

No! No to both!

No to both as well.

No. He not their dad. Yabu here. Ask the bio dad or pay yourself

No, I wouldn't.

If he wants to pay while you're together, great. But that's a bonus and I wouldn't put them into a school that I couldn't afford myself.

A parent can never stop being a parent, but a step parent can stop being one.

Absolutely not to both. Cf of the highest order to expect that

No to both here as well.

Reverse?

I don’t understand why the are father has any obligation or responsibility for paying the school fees of another child that presumably has two parents that are responsible for that?

No to both. Lovely if it’s possible and it’s offered, but I certainly wouldn’t expect it, especially after divorcing.

This.

Hard no.

What utter craziness is this?

Absolutely not. Pay for your own children. Or get their actual dad too.

Seriously? I don't thing there should be a distinction between parent and step parent.

You are a family and you should treat all the children equally.

Everything should probably be shared equally while married, and then you can spend your half on your kids' fees. It might mean going without a lot of other things though.

The parents or legal guardians of the child pay the child's school fees.

I think it depends on what you decide as a couple and a family.

Well there very much is. My dsc would be so confused if I started parenting them

Has he been paying your kids fees and now you’re splitting?

Time for one of my favourite MN games: Reverse or batshit crazy?

no. If a parent wants their kid to go to private school then they pay for it. As if you’d expect a step parent to when the child presumably has 2 parents of its own who should pay

What contribution is the children’s father making?

No way. Why should a step parent pay when the actual parents get away with it?

Of course there's a distinction.

Most women wouldn't be happy at all ex's new partner proclaiming herself to be the children's mother!

Immediately I think the very idea is ridiculous. Certainly for step children. Even his own children, in so much as surely finances would have to be considered? If he can continue to pay AND support an independent home and all of his needs then yes, of course. If continuing to pay leaves him in shared accommodation without decent wifi? Obviously no.

I can only imagine a man continuing to pay step children fees if he were very kind, very very rich and unusually understanding.

nope... if you want your DC to go to private school, its on you and their bio parent!

if your DH left.. absolutely they should not continue to pay...

who's decision was it to send them to private school?