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Female nurses have to get changed with a male. They are told to go to another room. The man keeps the female changing room to himself. Wtaf is going on?

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TealTraybake · 24/09/2024 17:22

Female nurses ‘forced out of changing rooms’ after complaining about trans colleague

NHS whistleblowers dubbed ‘Darlington Five’ say they feel ‘humiliated and dehumanised’

Read in The Telegraph: https://apple.news/AC7RGaXTPTYe2J4CAixEvDw

Female nurses ‘forced out of changing rooms’ after complaining about trans colleague — The Telegraph

NHS whistleblowers dubbed ‘Darlington Five’ say they feel ‘humiliated and dehumanised’

https://apple.news/AC7RGaXTPTYe2J4CAixEvDw

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Jumpingthruhoops · 25/09/2024 11:04

Opentooffers · 24/09/2024 17:49

There's a simple solution, no changing room at all, wear uniform to work. It's what we do now. It's not seen as a requirement to provide at all for either sex.

Isn't it rather unsanitary commuting to work in a uniform intended for a supposedly sterile environment?

Then travelling home, possibly even visiting supermarkets, in clothing that's spent the day in a hospital setting?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/09/2024 11:04

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 11:00

I think it's a much lower priority than protecting the safety of women and girls, to be honest.

How can protecting the safety and dignity of any person be less important than protecting the safety and dignity of any other person? Are all people not born free and equal in dignity and rights?

Or do you consider trans people as a group to be sub human or of lesser moral worth than other people?

Because if you prioritise the women and girls you are protecting a hundred people and if you prioritise the trans woman you are protecting one person.

You could protect them all if the trans person would accept a solution which didn't involve compromising the safety and dignity of a hundred women and girls, but if they can't do that and they reject reasonable alternative solutions such as a third space then quite frankly I feel that we have done our bit to try and help them and if that's not good enough then they can fucking lump it.

Totallymessed · 25/09/2024 11:05

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 09:53

There is no response I could possibly give you that would invite anything but hostility. I have learned this through experience.

i am here to understand what other people think, not to share my own knowledge which will only fall on very deaf and very angry ears.

So basically, you're on the thread expecting people to engage with your disingenuous questions while refusing to offer even the most basic explanation of your own opinions. It's a tad narcissistic, don't you think?

ChungKing · 25/09/2024 11:05

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 11:03

You don’t think being outed as trans is a violation of a trans persons privacy? Or that this could compromise their safety?

So not being outed is more important than the privacy and dignity of women? Maybe they should embrace who they are! To be honest, it's obvious most of the time anyway.

Fluufer · 25/09/2024 11:06

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 11:03

You don’t think being outed as trans is a violation of a trans persons privacy? Or that this could compromise their safety?

I don't believe the vast majority of trans people are in any danger of being "outed" anyway, much as we must all pretend.
Women are not obliged to keep men safe at the expense of their own safety. It's that simple.

Willyoujustbequiet · 25/09/2024 11:07

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 10:48

Again- can you think of any possible reasons why requiring trans people to use “third space” facilities might not protect the safety and dignity of trans people?

What do you think the issues might be if there are any?

Are you even willing to consider this, or is it simply that , in the words of a pp, you couldn’t give a fuck about the safety and dignity of trans people? that the truth is - , despite claims that you agree trans people deserve respect and safety- you actually don’t think their dignity and safety is worthy of consideration at all?

Of course they are worthy of respect and consideration.

But not at the expense of women. They have no business being in women's changing rooms or toilets.

streamy · 25/09/2024 11:07

StellaGreen · 24/09/2024 17:55

But even if he is trying to get his wife pregnant and walks about in his undies with visible manhood on show, it doesn’t matter because he is a vulnerable trans woman.
It is Bigoted to think otherwise and women should really reframe their thinking.

who or what is this vulnerable trans woman vulnerable to/from?

Interesting that you write
he is trying to get his wife pregnant.... walks about in his undies with visible manhood..... he is a vulnerable trans woman.

lifeturnsonadime · 25/09/2024 11:08

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 11:00

I think it's a much lower priority than protecting the safety of women and girls, to be honest.

How can protecting the safety and dignity of any person be less important than protecting the safety and dignity of any other person? Are all people not born free and equal in dignity and rights?

Or do you consider trans people as a group to be sub human or of lesser moral worth than other people?

No one is saying anything other than they are not women.

If they insist on being in places which are single sex for the safety & dignity of women in the knowledge that this is without consent, makes women uncomfortable and unsafe and excludes women who can’t share spaces with males for any reason, then I’d think they were acting with typical male privilege & displaying predatory behaviours.

Plenty of trans women respect women’s boundaries , I don’t think much of ones who don’t. It’s a choice not to.

ChungKing · 25/09/2024 11:08

I'm noticing a pattern that trans people's privacy, safety and dignity must be protected at all costs, at every turn, no matter what, but women's privacy, safety and dignity is fine and dandy to be sacrificed if it suits males, and we should just suck it up for "the greater good."

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 11:08

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/09/2024 11:04

Because if you prioritise the women and girls you are protecting a hundred people and if you prioritise the trans woman you are protecting one person.

You could protect them all if the trans person would accept a solution which didn't involve compromising the safety and dignity of a hundred women and girls, but if they can't do that and they reject reasonable alternative solutions such as a third space then quite frankly I feel that we have done our bit to try and help them and if that's not good enough then they can fucking lump it.

Because if you prioritise the women and girls you are protecting a hundred people and if you prioritise the trans woman you are protecting one person.

So their safety and dignity isn’t as important as other people because they are a minority group?

they can fucking lump it

So their safety and dignity doesn’t matter to you after all? They can just “fucking lump it”?

ChungKing · 25/09/2024 11:09

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 11:08

Because if you prioritise the women and girls you are protecting a hundred people and if you prioritise the trans woman you are protecting one person.

So their safety and dignity isn’t as important as other people because they are a minority group?

they can fucking lump it

So their safety and dignity doesn’t matter to you after all? They can just “fucking lump it”?

Does women's safety and dignity matter to you at all?

Zahariel · 25/09/2024 11:10

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 11:08

Because if you prioritise the women and girls you are protecting a hundred people and if you prioritise the trans woman you are protecting one person.

So their safety and dignity isn’t as important as other people because they are a minority group?

they can fucking lump it

So their safety and dignity doesn’t matter to you after all? They can just “fucking lump it”?

Stop deflecting
what is a trans woman?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/09/2024 11:10

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 11:08

Because if you prioritise the women and girls you are protecting a hundred people and if you prioritise the trans woman you are protecting one person.

So their safety and dignity isn’t as important as other people because they are a minority group?

they can fucking lump it

So their safety and dignity doesn’t matter to you after all? They can just “fucking lump it”?

WHY DOES RESPECTING THEIR SAFETY AND DIGNITY REQUIRE THEM TO HAVE ACCESS TO UNCONSENTING NAKED WOMEN?

Fluufer · 25/09/2024 11:10

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 11:08

Because if you prioritise the women and girls you are protecting a hundred people and if you prioritise the trans woman you are protecting one person.

So their safety and dignity isn’t as important as other people because they are a minority group?

they can fucking lump it

So their safety and dignity doesn’t matter to you after all? They can just “fucking lump it”?

If men don't feel safe using male facilities, they need to take that up with the rest of the men.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/09/2024 11:10

ChungKing · 25/09/2024 11:09

Does women's safety and dignity matter to you at all?

The answer to this question is clearly no.

Zahariel · 25/09/2024 11:11

ChungKing · 25/09/2024 11:09

Does women's safety and dignity matter to you at all?

Clearly this is a male telling females they are wrong and avoiding any scrutiny of their beliefs...

TheKeatingFive · 25/09/2024 11:11

Fluufer · 25/09/2024 11:10

If men don't feel safe using male facilities, they need to take that up with the rest of the men.

Exactly. It's not a woman's problem, so why is it being turned into one?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/09/2024 11:12

ChungKing · 25/09/2024 11:08

I'm noticing a pattern that trans people's privacy, safety and dignity must be protected at all costs, at every turn, no matter what, but women's privacy, safety and dignity is fine and dandy to be sacrificed if it suits males, and we should just suck it up for "the greater good."

And this is how we know that even the people who say they are women know they are men.

There are two types of people in the world. There are the kind of people who don't pretend to believe that trans women are women. And then there are the kind of people who pretend to believe that trans women are women, but treat them with male privilege whilst treating women like shit.

lifeturnsonadime · 25/09/2024 11:12

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 11:08

Because if you prioritise the women and girls you are protecting a hundred people and if you prioritise the trans woman you are protecting one person.

So their safety and dignity isn’t as important as other people because they are a minority group?

they can fucking lump it

So their safety and dignity doesn’t matter to you after all? They can just “fucking lump it”?

Males are not a minority group.

We have single sex spaces for the reason of keeping females safe.

If a subset of males feel unsafe in male spaces this is not a problem for females to solve unless you see females as lesser humans unworthy of being safe.

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 11:12

ChungKing · 25/09/2024 11:08

I'm noticing a pattern that trans people's privacy, safety and dignity must be protected at all costs, at every turn, no matter what, but women's privacy, safety and dignity is fine and dandy to be sacrificed if it suits males, and we should just suck it up for "the greater good."

Remarkable that you have drawn this conclusion when according to almost everyone on this thread it’s entirely the other way around!

Safety and dignity of women and girls require third spaces. End of. Doesn’t matter whether third spaces might compromise the safety and dignity of trans people- not worthy of consideration- their safety and dignity is less important, they are a minority group, and they can just “fucking lump it”?

nearlylovemyusername · 25/09/2024 11:12

This is not immediately visible from media, but -

Labour are huge supporters of Stonewall

Lord Alli is one of the key players and donors of Stonewall, google it

How are you feeling about it?

Totallymessed · 25/09/2024 11:13

Leniriefenstahl · 25/09/2024 10:45

Most of us agree, third spaces for these people, however well they pass. But demonising them all as dodgy potential perverts is ridiculous.

People aren't demonising them as potential perverts, they are simply treating them as men deliberately ignoring the boundaries of women. Because that's what they are and what they're doing.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/09/2024 11:13

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 11:12

Remarkable that you have drawn this conclusion when according to almost everyone on this thread it’s entirely the other way around!

Safety and dignity of women and girls require third spaces. End of. Doesn’t matter whether third spaces might compromise the safety and dignity of trans people- not worthy of consideration- their safety and dignity is less important, they are a minority group, and they can just “fucking lump it”?

Huh? Prioritising trans people over women is the status quo and that is what everyone on this thread except you is objecting to.

Mumandcarer80 · 25/09/2024 11:14

Opentooffers · 24/09/2024 17:49

There's a simple solution, no changing room at all, wear uniform to work. It's what we do now. It's not seen as a requirement to provide at all for either sex.

What do you do if a patient is projectile vomits on you? You can't be treating other patients with vomit on your scrubs. But I know the girl off born to be different with spina bifida once had a colostomy bag leakage. She had to go home and shower and change. Surely there must be somewhere hospital staff can shower and put clean Scrubs on.

PiggleToes · 25/09/2024 11:14

Fluufer · 25/09/2024 11:10

If men don't feel safe using male facilities, they need to take that up with the rest of the men.

So you think trans women should use the male facilities? And it doesn’t matter if that’s not safe for them ? How exactly are they to “take it up with the men”?

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