Having I fucked up the sex talk?

[TheSmartestGiantInTown1]

Today my 6 year old asked me how a man's seed gets into a woman's tummy (I have told him previously that babies are made from an egg and seed). His 4 year sister was listening at the time. My Mum was a HCP so very frank and no nonsense about anything body related, so I was always of the opinion it was best to answer questions honestly but without lots of unnecessary detail. I therefore explained that a man puts his penis inside a woman's vagina, the seed goes into a woman's womb, and meets the egg there. My daughter asked where the babies came out, I said the vagina. They looked mildly surprised and the conversation moved on.

I'd never discussed this with DH and he is horrified- I now see that we should have discussed our approach to this inevitable question long ago. He says I've stolen their innocence, and they'll never see the world the same way again. Honestly they didn't seem that bothered- there was a lot more questions when I had to explain a family member died. However now I feel horrible. Have I totally fucked this up? DH said I should have said that people have a special cuddle.

I'm of the opinion that we should probably start informing folks - adults (and some badly informed pregnant women believe it or not) included- that no baby has ever grown in it's mother's stomach/tummy/belly though 😬

I had a book age 9/10 that said this- my parents took me out of sex Ed and bought me a book. I found it really crappy, using the saying “cuddle” really messed me up and I thought every cuddle/hug with a boy at that age would cause pregnancy. I was v sheltered lol.

It’s so odd all this ‘special cuddle’ and ‘I ate a seed’ stuff. Sex for procreation is a functional human procedure. Like all other mammals. It’s not something embarrassing or dirty. I don’t get why you’d lie. Like really don’t get it

A special cuddle sounds like something Prince Andrew would say.

If that's true, I'm never eating watermelon again...

If you tell them eating the seed got you pregnant they’ll never be able to give a blow job in peace

You've done exactly the right thing. Telling kids the mechanical truth is fine, just as it is with regard to the brain, or the heart, or anything else. Your kids now know they can always ask you honest questions and you won't bullshit them.

Some children grow up on farms and spend lots of time around livestock. Does your DH think they've all ost "innocence" or will end up with ruined lives?

Special cuddle is horrific, just adds ambiguity and confusion and frankly makes me want to throw up.

I too loathe the term ''Cuddle''

I associate it with unpleasant things.

Hug not so much.

What? That is the truth!

You definitely did the right thing. Giving a straight answer and using anatomically correct language is the way to go. They'll hear a garbled version in the playground anyway.

I think I read someone on here talking about calling their vagina a flower, and then giving their reception teacher a shock when she asked them to draw a flower!

Christ almighty wtaf

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Not many rural upbringings in this thread! There’sa reason it’s called talking about the birds and the bees… And cattle and dogs and ducks. Children see these things and you explain why the male pigeon is on top of the female, then explain that humans are similar!

''daddy gets a seed and puts it with his penis into mummy's tummy''

A packet of garden centre seeds balanced on a floppy willy being put into a belly button {My imagination as a child}

@Razorrain Well I imagine by the time they are giving blowjobs they will have more knowledge on the entire subject.

It’s interesting that so many posters on here think you should be factual at 6 when schools do not teach sex education until year 5, which is obviously when they deem it age appropriate. I’m not going to berate OP because they are her children and I don’t think she’s harmed them, she just done what felt right for her. I don’t think it’s ’fucked up’ to not want to have that graphic a conversation with your 6 year old either though.

I actually don’t remember finding out about sex, clearly I did. So it’s probably not that deep either way.

Mating dogs- commonly seen - ''He's trying to push his friend home, as she's tired''

I think 6 is a bit young for that sorry

@oakleaffy

''daddy gets a seed and puts it with his penis into mummy's tummy''
A packet of garden centre seeds balanced on a floppy willy being put into a belly button {My imagination as a child}

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Oh God, please no! According to his special protection officer, he has a load of teddies on his bed.

I'm definitely using your answer when I get asked that question OP! It's far better than lying, and flustering through it.

Good work, I would rather my child gets the facts from me then learn from their friends at school. My DD was told by a boy at school that women poo a baby out of their bottom and graciously corrected him 'no, the baby comes out of the woman's vagina'. He asked her what was that! Seriously you don't want your children learning from Oliver in 1R

You told your children what blowjobs are ? Is this a joke ?

I think you did great - and totally age appropriate for KS1.

For what it's worth - I gave a similar answer to mine.

Except they then promptly forgot it, so we've had "the chat" many many times. Over Christmas lunch with my parents was a real highlight 🤣

When I was about that age my dm tried to explain to me and ended up getting so flustered for the next 2 years I was under the impression that once a month a woman had an egg (I thought like a chickens egg!) in her vagina and that she then had to have sex but I was very concerned about how you knew when that part was ‘over’ and was worried I’d have to one day as an adult plan activities like colouring in or reading to do whilst waiting for the sex to be over , then she added details about the doctor helping with the seed and I then wondered was our family GP my dad or was it my dad who lived with us. I also got stressed out and couldn’t do a poo for a few days as she had mentioned ‘pushing like when you do a poo’ so I honestly thought I may go for a poo and accidentally somehow a baby would come out instead.
I was then given an usbourne book too to read and got even more mixed up as it had male and female sex machine robot type illustrations and I was worried the penis actually had some kind of metal spring inside it ??!!!!!

Thank goodness for sex education in year 4!

It's just science, like telling them how many planets there are. Informed young adults make better decisions, and those with open honest relationships with their parents are less likely to be teen pregnancies.