Why is mumsnet so sexist?

[Lovefromjuliaxo]

Been on here a few months, and while it’s nice to see women sticking up for woman, it’s crazy how sexist some people are on here. I’ve seen threads telling a women to leave her partners name off the BC as revenge because he’s cheated, I’ve seen posts saying “not surprised about huw Edward’s, no men can control themselves” and other numerous anti male threads and posts.

im a female for reference.

curious to see peoples opinions

YABU- it’s not constantly sexist on here
YANBU- it is constantly sexist on here

Yes.
I don’t think l understood the original post, but after reading comments, l do.
I don’t get, why OP, is concerned, men are being treated unfairly on MN, why would men want to be on MN in the first place.Of course there’s sexism everywhere, which is what women have to deal with in every day life.On this forum there’s far more sexism towards women and l believe it’s coming from men.

Because it has been proven that it IS mostly a men only issue.....

I agree with you OP. You've been given a hard time on here, mostly by people who don't understand statistics. It may be true that 97% of violent crimes are committed by men. But that doesn't mean that 97% of men are violent. The vast majority are lovely.

so you can’t be sexist towards men, or racist towards white people?

How about you tell us how sexism towards men manifests, and the harm and oppression being caused to men by it. Then we can compare what you're referring to with the more usual understanding of sexism (the men to women kind) and let you know if it fits our understanding of the term.

Does it not trouble you that men are responsible for 97% of violent crimes?

How are we supposed to tell which ones are lovely? Its like saying 'most people aren't burglars so why do you insult me by locking your door?'

Namalt namalt namalt!

Why should we lock our doors at all. Burglar alarms pointless. Safes, why bother. Lock our cars, waste of time. Not all people are burglars.

Yes, very valid point.
would be very interested to hear, to comprehend

You can't be racist towards white people, no.

Of course you can be racist against white people, don't be silly. Ever been to Japan?!

You are talking absolute shite. Like PP has said, is Japan somewhere you’re familiar with?

A good friend of mine (British Asian) told me many members of her extended family, in the UK, are racist against ‘white people’. She hates it.

Birth certificates aren’t records of biological facts, they are government documents that have rights and responsibilities attached to them.

I’m not UK and my knowledge isn’t necessarily up to date - but we issue birth certificates with adoptive parents listed, same sex parents listed, non-biological parents in the case of donor conceived (formal or informal). Historically, they issued birth certificates with new information (including birth dates at times) when children were taken by the state, or adopted.

I’m opposed to hiding someone’s children from them, and consider it unethical. But I’m more strongly opposed to abuse, and completely support hiding a child to keep them safe. And so long as there’s a process for a father to request to be added to a BC - if he chooses to not acknowledge his child, and it’s in the mother’s best interests to not be forced to co-parent with someone who doesn’t want to - chances are it’s the child’s best interest to not have that legal connection.

I’ve seen threads telling a women to leave her partners name off the BC as revenge because he’s cheated

Don't remember that one myself.

Why not?

For sure when there’s abuse, but in the thread I read there was none. Just a husband who unfortunately was likely cheating- it was never confirmed but he had a new female friend- but was still attending baby appointments and coped with a random stalker the woman had. His behaviour was wrong but he was not abusive. Yet people were saying if he’s cheating just take him off BC and let him fight to see his child. Missing the important bonding weeks with baby, not bothered about him but for baby’s sake. Many women on here seem to throw out the take him off BC thing right away. Thankfully OP ignored them.

@Lovefromjuliaxo l would also be interested to know what your view is

You seem to think men don't get discrimination online? Are you crazy?

YANBU.

I loathe the threads where women get inheritances and everyone is encouraging them to hide it from their husbands. Yet, if there is utter outrage if a woman posts that her husband has done the same to her.

Can’t have it both ways love 🤷‍♀️