F**king hats in restaurants

[TomAllenWife]

Is my new irritation!!!!

Stayed at a naive hotel last night, at breakfast this morning, two separate men wearing caps for in the restaurant .

On holiday in the summer (boiling hot) men had to wear long trousers for dinner, no shorts, but you could turn up in a baseball cap 🤔

When did this become acceptable?
I resist the urge to knock it off their heads?
I don't know why it makes me so irrationally angry either (peri)

Is it just me?

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People's behaviour/clothing only bothers me if it impacts others in some way.
So a hat in the theatre, unless very low, certainly would. But I cannot see what problems a hat in a restaurant could cause to others?

People are scruff bags. Sadly.

It was the standard thing once apon a time, wasn’t it but I’ve no idea if there was any logic to it.

I think that would be too cultured for a naive hotel.

Caps in restaurants? I'd not give a second glance.

You'd never catch my husband wearing something as vulgar as a hat to breakfast.

My DH is bald. He frequently wears caps or hats out, especially in hotels where there’s aircon. Sometimes it’s out of self consciousness and other times it’s a temperature thing. I have never thought it would bother someone.

You’re this carnaptious about something inconsequential? Christ knows what you’re like when it matters

On balance the having to wear long trousers on holiday would annoy me more than the hats.

@Superhansrantowindsor

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I get what you're saying but I try to remember that people may be wearing caps to hide baldness, scarring etc. Not everyone is confident.

I couldn't get worked up about this - and I am a dresscode snob.

Female autistic with photophobia here. Always wear a baseball cap, tinted lenses and often headphones too.

MAGA hats would defo put me off my food.

Is this restaurant in the US by any chance? If in the UK, then standards are slipping. Now where are those pearls, I need to clutch them quick.

"Well we were always taught that men take their hats off indoors but women don’t. But I never really understood why?"

In case the weak man accidentally fucked our head. Now he just goes straight for the hat apparently

Definitely would not get worked up over this, let people choose what they want to wear its 2024.

I always wondered how Dutch caps got their name.

I'm sort of with you, OP. while conceding there might be real reasons for covering up. But I do have echoing somewhere in my brain, because I am ancient, the notion that a gentleman (OF ANY CLASS) didn't wear a hat indoors and he took it off if ladies were present. (It's always been OK for ladies who lunch to keep on their fancy hats!) I wouldn't mind if they were attractive hats (how about a fedora?), but baseball caps are among the most unflattering objects in existence. (Ducks, anticipating a battle charge of the Mumsnet Amazons,) They also, for some reason that I can't quite put my finger on, make you look less intelligent than you actually are.

I could get on board with irritation if someone was wearing a particularly tall top hat in front of me at the theatre. But that really is about it. Why on earth does it matter or affect you?

I have no problem with hats.

"I resist the urge to knock it off their heads?"
This is far more problematic. I would be taking a look at myself if this was my attitude, rather than looking at the hats.

I know theoretically this is an etiquette no-no (or used to be, at least) but I have absolutely no idea why. I think it's about time we did away with pointless, arbitrary etiquette rules. Most people have, in fact.

Yes but wearing them backwards helps protect the back of your neck from the sun. So both ways have a purpose.

My young but bald son always wears a hat in public because he’s embarrassed (he shouldn’t be he’s beautiful). My work colleague wears one as he has a massive skin cancer scar on his head which he is ashamed of (he shouldn’t be he’s a cancer survivor). Try and get worked up over things which directly impacts you rather than what others do which don’t - my top tip of the day for increased happiness.

I was always brought up to understand that wearing hats indoor was extremely rude.

Considering you've conceded there may be good reasons for people to wear hats indoors, I'd say the lack of intelligence comes straight from the person who has a problem with people wearing hats indoors 🤷‍♂️