F**king hats in restaurants

[TomAllenWife]

Is my new irritation!!!!

Stayed at a naive hotel last night, at breakfast this morning, two separate men wearing caps for in the restaurant .

On holiday in the summer (boiling hot) men had to wear long trousers for dinner, no shorts, but you could turn up in a baseball cap 🤔

When did this become acceptable?
I resist the urge to knock it off their heads?
I don't know why it makes me so irrationally angry either (peri)

Is it just me?

The OP has very curious standards.

2 men in a restaurant wearing hats = Awful

Her husband frequenting lapdance clubs and strip joints = Absolutely fine.

So weird.

I’m just here to find out what a naive hotel is.

🤣

I'd take a breath and calm down

I think there might be a generational and/or cultural aspect here.

Not in UK, but my parents joined us at a fancy restaurant with visitors from another country. The younger male had a hat on and did not remove it to sit down at the table. He was with his parents who did not ask him to either. Another older family member from our country asked him to, out of respect. It was almost as if he and his parents were hearing a request that it should be removed, for the first time ever.

I'm not sure we needed to know about your husband's Turkish Merkin.

Looking at today's forecast, there are plenty of clouds to shout at far more productively than getting upset about a couple of baseball caps over the newspaper and marmalade.

Maybe just stay at home and then only your husband can annoy you?

Perhaps he wore a baseball cap disguise to one of these places and it upset her....

Bravo. Comment of the week!

I'm not sure we needed to know about your husband's Turkish Merkin.
⬆️The award for the best excoriating put down goes to…..

How would you know whether they were bald? They were wearing hats.

I’m usually of the opinion that everyone is entitled to their problems and even if they seem a little trivial, you’re allowed a moan. However - this is ridiculous OP and you really do need to get some perspective. You sound like a bitter, mardy old bat.

How do you know if they had a hat on?

This is the only hat that should be permissible at breakfast

I baffled more by the hotel being naive. Maybe they didn't know any better.

I went to a Mexican restaurant in states they had edible tortilla crisp hats. Is that appropriate in a naive restaurant.

Oh, i love a hat



Doubt those ladies wore hats!

There is always something that gives me a bit of secondhand embarrassment about these threads. People who are so desperate for everyone to know that they know the proper rules for etiquette and get all worked up about it while totally missing the concept of genuine good manners and also just human empathy feel to me like they're making a much worse faux pas than someone wearing a cap to dinner. It doesn't affect you in any way. Society has moved on and we live in a world where Gen Z have just as much right to exist in social spaces as older people, and to set new rules that challenge the old ones. Mostly that involves tolerating and welcoming difference and diversity. The very uptight dictates of social convention exclude those with disabilities or divergence or discomfort, and the world is changing to become a more accepting and comfortable place for everyone. It says more about you as a person if you can only see people's different needs and preferences as 'excuses' than it does about them.

So yeah, people might wear a baseball cap to dinner for any reason at all, and it will make zero difference to your life. But for some people, it makes that experience accessible to them when it wouldn't be otherwise. And fostering a kinder, more inclusive society is much more important than preserving old rules that don't achieve anything except to put those that don't belong for whatever reason back in their place.

I remember our Sunday School superintendent used to do a finger click combined with a pointing finger at boys who didn't remove their hats when they came into Sunday School.
I think you should practice that move!

Sounds like it's OPs husband who needs to put a rain hat on it.

What a turn up for the books that it's her who is naive and not the hotel.

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And why is it rude? Or scruffy (surely that would depend on the hat)? Or inappropriate? I couldn’t GAF about a person’s headgear and I’m at a loss as to why anyone would.