F**king hats in restaurants

[TomAllenWife]

Is my new irritation!!!!

Stayed at a naive hotel last night, at breakfast this morning, two separate men wearing caps for in the restaurant .

On holiday in the summer (boiling hot) men had to wear long trousers for dinner, no shorts, but you could turn up in a baseball cap 🤔

When did this become acceptable?
I resist the urge to knock it off their heads?
I don't know why it makes me so irrationally angry either (peri)

Is it just me?

Can you paraphrase it? It vanished almost instantly.

A baseball cap isn’t really a hat in the sense of needing to take it off as a matter of etiquette (not in my mind anyway) as it’s intended for casual wear when those rules generally are either more relaxed or don’t apply. Caps are also classless so it doesn’t matter if you’re in Maccy Ds or a naice hotel.

It wouldn’t bother me. I think everyone looks cute in baseballs caps though.

Thanks.

Although we'll probably now both get deleted if it was the c.... that triggered it. Sorry !

Reminds me of the first time my ex-bf met my family when I was living abroad, we were invited for dinner at my aunt and uncle’s house and he wore a baseball cap. my aunt (RIP) did not mince her words and told him straight to take it off for dinner, he was pissed! I think we weren’t together much longer after that as he was generally rude to all of my family.
It would have been considered respectful for men to take their hat off indoors before but i think times have changed.

I do feel afeard.

It doesn’t do any harm. People equating this as being the same as saying manners such as saying please or thank you are wrong (imo). Not saying please or thank you is rude because it shows ingratitude or entitlement, it can cause hurt. Wearing a baseball cap doesn’t do this. The pp who equates baseball caps with paedophillia, well you might as well say they all wear t shirts or shoes so don’t wear those.

Great post! How illuminating

I, on the other hand, wonder when and why that rule was invented in the first place. It appears to serve no purpose other than to allow people who want to appear posh (but who sadly don't realise that only wannabe, Hyacinth Bucket types actually care about this sort of thing) to sneer and feel a false sense of superiority.

@AllProperTeaIsTheft two posters explained it goes back to knights ( friend or foe)

And you sound like a bitter boomer tbh. I don’t care how anyone dresses in a restaurant, as long peoples actual behaviour is acceptable then it’s such a small thing to get this furious over.

I can sort of get my head round at a private dinner party in a house that you might not want someone wearing a baseball cap. Not sure I'd care enough to ask it be removed tho'.

However your aunt sounds rude if that's how she spoke to a guest.

I can't help but think that the OP is on the wind up. How could anyone get that irritated by what others wear? As long as nobody is waving their hairy arse about in a thong while I'm trying to eat my granola, then I'm oblivious to what other people are wearing. In fact, the posher the establishment, the more satisfaction I might get from witnessing somebody's big eff you to (imaginary) etiquette🤣

Got to be a wind up, no one is that unpleasant about something so unimportant,

My friend has been like this for the last 20 years! He's so self concious of his thinning har, I was surprised he didn't wear one on his wedding day! 😄

I mean it's beakfast at a, I'm assuming, "naice" hotel but so what? Your man was hardly doing a Bianca whatsher name & trotting around half/almost fully naked, now that would put me off my food

I'm not bothered by people wearing caps or hats indoors,but people who have the hood of their coat up indoors irritates me! Incidentally,years ago it was considered very bad manners for a man to wear a cap or hat indoors!

Wow, I'm pretty certain you can't blame peri for being so judgemental - that my friend is just your bad attitude.

Well yes, but I mean who then decided that the rule for knights' helmets should apply to normal hats as etiquette? As the poster of the info about knights' helmets pointed out, removing a hat doesn't expose vulnerability as a sign of trust.

This a million times. If you’ve got a baseball cap on but you’re civilised and not being a douche then why would I (or anyone) care. It’s noisy, entitled, obnoxious people that irritate me not their headwear.

I’m a boomer but I’m not bitter 😁

@AllProperTeaIsTheft that I'm unsure of, theres been so much "information" on this thread you might have missed it.
There's been so much said on here it's quite confusing ( and some that's utterly ridiculous)

I think the OP's just sitting there angrily reporting everyone!

Mine went for mentioning her husband's 'hobby'?

Idratherbepaddleboarding · Today 16:51
Jesus Christ I’ve heard it all now! Wearing a baseball cap doesn’t make you a pedophile, being a pedophile makes you a pedophile.

Duh. It's not wearing a baseball cap that makes you a pedophile and its not what is understood by the point anyway!

It's just that it is a very very common item of wear for older men wrongly trying to appear 'down with the kids' - frequently for nefarious purposes in a mistaken belief it is projecting youthful attraction. You only have to look at all those cases of men convicted - the baseball cap is a selected item and why? Trying to look incongruously youthful. It's why it always looks dodgy on an older man - Glitter, King, Savile, etd

Even those who are just rumoured are famous baseball cap wearers:
www.capitalpictures.com/image/I0000rn_Eii7yFVk

YaCannyKickYaGrannyInTheShin

I reposted about it !

That's another one of mine gone now! It didn't really say anything much.

You’re telling people they’re ignorant, yet they’re the unpleasant ones? Jesus.