Is it rude to ignore a wedding dress code?

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Haven't been to a wedding for about 10 years so haven't encountered this trend before.

Invite says guests are encouraged to wear autumnal colours- reds, greens, browns or yellows. I don't have anything in these colours, and money is tight at the moment. I do have a wedding appropriate outfit but it is navy with bright flowers.

Would it be unreasonable to just wear this?

This isn't a particulary close friend's wedding but l don't know how to play this! l don't want to stand out as not joining in, but surely not everyone follows these dress codes? Or do they!?

I can quite gladly say no-one in my life is that narcissistic that they'd think it was their place to tell wedding guests what they should wear 😳

Yeah I'd just ignore it to be honest.

Even if they think it's rude, it's nowhere near as rude as the Bride and Groom appear to be.

It’s probably for the aesthetics of the pictures and the main theme colours they’ve chosen. Honestly, I would respect the dress code even though it’s not something I’d ask of guests myself. I think you will stand out and feel awkward if you don’t follow. I’d borrow/get on Vinted or hunt the charity shops and comply.

it is a bit self absorbed but it is their special day, so out of respect for that I’d follow the code, if it really offended me I’d decline the invite.

God it's so rude and entitled isn't it, telling your guests what colour to wear? FGS! However, I think you probably have to make an effort to fit in somehow. Weddings are out of control IMO!

Navy with flowers sounds fine to me.

Can you get a cheap scarf or something in one of the dictated colours and drape that over your shoulders for the photos?

Luckily never been invited to a wedding with a dress code as my wardrobe is nearly all black. If I was then I would most likely turn down the invite, thankfully I don’t know anyone who would tell guests what to wear.

"encouraged" is not the same as "required"

I think dress codes for guests are pretty knobbish, but I've never been to a wedding where someone attended not wearing the requested colours. I suspect that you may be asked to sit out of the photos, presuming that's why they've made the request...

You can pick up a pashmina/scarf for less than £3. If you get a rust colour that should go with a navy dress and fit the requirements of the dress code.

It's this kind of shit that sucks the joy out of a wedding and turns it into an Instagram production. Wear the navy.

Navy is fine, avoiding bright pink or pastels is the key here. I think it's a bit rude to even ask

It's a bit wanky but at least it says "encouraged" not "must".
Navy with flowers sounds entirely suitable not just for a wedding but am autumnal theme.

On the flip side I'm always thrown by funerals that request "bright colours, no black" as 97% of my wardrobe is black!

Quite.

Have a look on Vinted
Lots of bargains to be found

I think you're only a few colours out of so it's fine
I wouldn't wear silver or pink pink etc but would say you'll be fine in that

I think it's ridiculous to request a particular colour scheme. But in this case since it's just encouraged, I think you're fine.

If it was worded like a strict dress code, then even though I think it's a rude request, I also think it's rude to ignore. I'd probably decline an invitation that had a strict "you must wear X colour" dress code because I would assume it really wouldn't be a fun day, with more focus on aesthetics then enjoyment.

I really dislike this craze of asking people to wear certain colours, it's all about the look and social media appeal of the wedding. But if your not close I would worry about standing out so maybe as others have suggested a few cheap accessories would work.
I did however go to a wedding a few years ago where the invitation said 'smart dress please' which I thought was a given but then one friend turned up in a Hawaiian shirt, combat shorts (with rips in) and crocs! I'm guessing the invitation message was for them but the just didn't get the message!

I think navy is very autumnal! You should be totally fine with that.

I have sung at African weddings where the guests have been provided with lengths of the same bright print, to be made up in the preferred fit and style of the guests, but I assume that the cloth would have been provided at the celebrants' expense. The visual effect was certainly striking.
If the bride and groom are not prepared to go to these lengths, I think the most they can do is make a suggestion; if they are dead set on a colour theme, they may find that guests will decline their invitation, and as their preferred wording is "encouraged", I suspect they are not considering putting their money where their mouth is.

I would wear the outfit that you have.

I have never received a dress code suggestion luckily. But I did go to a lot of weddings years ago, my kids were small, I was skint and I had a set amount of ££'s I could spend and I'd have struggled if I'd had to always buy something to accommodate someone's colour preferences. I think weddings have become so ridiculously expensive, it's a major outlay for guests already.

Navy is fine

" Hi do you know anyone who can lend me an outfit in said colours, size X, please."

On the RSVP, a simple note to let them know what CFrs they are.

Presumably the men will be wearing grey/navy/black suits - can’t imagine many of them have a brown suit!