Is it rude to ignore a wedding dress code?

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Haven't been to a wedding for about 10 years so haven't encountered this trend before.

Invite says guests are encouraged to wear autumnal colours- reds, greens, browns or yellows. I don't have anything in these colours, and money is tight at the moment. I do have a wedding appropriate outfit but it is navy with bright flowers.

Would it be unreasonable to just wear this?

This isn't a particulary close friend's wedding but l don't know how to play this! l don't want to stand out as not joining in, but surely not everyone follows these dress codes? Or do they!?

I agree. I'm not bothered about being in someone's wedding photos anyway.

Weddings should be about the couple getting married not Insta worthy photos.

I frequently feel the urge to shout at clouds also!

Did you mean to be so rude?! Of course l know how to dress for a wedding but l wanted a general opinion on whether this dress would work colour-wise. Also to maybe hear from others who have been to this type of colour themed wedding.

Exactly this. Wear what you have.

@piccolorhinoceros I think that depends in which part of the world/country you are in. Don't tend to see those sort of suits round here

It's rude to ignore the request of your hosts. You say you refuse to be dictated to, but I'm assuming you'd go to the correct venue at the requested time, so you're obviously happy to follow instructions. That's why I was snide. As for what I meant, you suggested wearing wedding guest clothes of your choosing - like any wedding then. It's hardly a revolution.

I was responding to @comedycentral who said she’d welcome pointers on how to dress.
I’ve already said your dress is lovely.

I'm just crap with fashion to be honest. Plus I'm at the stage where all my friends group are long married and I was usually a bridesmaid so that bit was covered 😄

I think my main worry is clashing with the bridesmaid so that's why I'd love a pointer if it's being offered!

I think dress codes for guests are awful, but I probably would stick to it or decline the invitation

Fair enough.
A diktat issued from the bride is slightly different, though.

I'd have moved - out of the door and gone home.

Oh this is fine, I would get a cheap wrap in a red or yellow to wear with it

True. I do think some events and celebrations feel more 'curated' nowadays. Thinking back to my own wedding, I didn't give guest attire a single thought pre-wedding.

Just wear knickers in their chosen colours 😂

Whilst I really don’t love a dress code, I’d struggle to so gleefully ignore it.

I like my friends, so if I was invited to their wedding I’d just find a way to adhere to their vision.

That aside, with a nice red/mustard wrap, I think that outfit is lovely.

I think it’s completely obnoxious to have a colour scheme. I would purposely wear something in a non-compliant colour.

Then do the can can on the table to make sure everyone knows you’ve complied.

Well tbh I think there is a pretty accepted code for what is suitable to wear for a wedding.

Personally I have never experienced being dictated to as to what colours the bride and groom expect the guests to wear.

In my opinion it is not their place to dictate what colours the guests wear. They should be pleased that the guests have accepted the invitation to watch their exchange of vows. It is them that are being rude by telling the guests what colour scheme to wear.

Yes there is onus on the guests to wear something respecting the occasion but I don't think there is any onus on them to wear specific colours. Other than the traditional expectation that the women guests don't wear white.

I find very specific wedding dress codes annoying, as it often means spending more money (and waste when the clothes might not be worn again), when attending a wedding is already expensive most of the time.

However, I would anticipate any bride and groom issuing such "requests" to be the type to be seriously peed off with people who haven't followed the code, so steel yourself!

I'd be using it as a reason not to go, personally.

I think if the dress code is on the invitation, and it will be a problem for you to fulfil it, then you are perfectly within your rights to decline. By accepting you are also accepting the event itinerary. It is like saying "I will come but am not prepared to at the church on time, I will arrive to suit me".
Personally I would never stipulate a dress code. It is particularly difficult for men sometimes. I attended a white themed wedding this summer and one male guest, who had worn a coffee coloured suit, had to take off his jacket and stand behind the other guests for the photos. Ludicrous, but the choice of the hosts and your choice to not go.
I think the navy dress you suggest is fine though OP. I would accentuate the green.

I bought a love big and soft pashmina wrap for a wedding recently on Amazon. It wasn't expensive.

You could buy a green one as that will go with navy, and wrap/drape it across your shoulders.

Nobody is "telling" anyone what to wear- did everyone miss the word 'encouraged' in the OP? People saying they'd intentionally go against it are weird- do you do that with any other variation of a dress code anywhere else in life?

What you have to wear sounds lovely OP, it's absolutely fine to not adhere to the dress code if you don't have anything suitable.

It looks fine to me. Throw on a wrap in a vaguely autumnal colour that will work with one of the dress flower colours and you're set.

The Navy dress is fine; it's definitely not a summery floral so if you pick out a red or yellow from it for an accessory colour you will be keeping to the 'code'.
Thr only time we have been asked to wear particular colours was to a funera. A young woman who died had requested beforehand that any mourners who wanted to come to the service wear bright, happy colours. And we were happy to comply.

I think it is rude to ignore it. as they say here it is an invite not a summons, if you don't want to take part don't go.