Is it rude to ignore a wedding dress code?

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Haven't been to a wedding for about 10 years so haven't encountered this trend before.

Invite says guests are encouraged to wear autumnal colours- reds, greens, browns or yellows. I don't have anything in these colours, and money is tight at the moment. I do have a wedding appropriate outfit but it is navy with bright flowers.

Would it be unreasonable to just wear this?

This isn't a particulary close friend's wedding but l don't know how to play this! l don't want to stand out as not joining in, but surely not everyone follows these dress codes? Or do they!?

I've never experienced this. Feels a bit much. Possibly best to try and talk to the bride or groom, or one of their parents or bridesmaids/groomsmen and find out what the story is.

Oh dear, how difficult some couples can make things for their guests. Wear your flowery dress and insist, if challenged, that some of the flowers on it are seasonal to Autumn. If you have a hat you could tuck some fresh flowers or leaves in the band, and/or hang a couple of conkers or fir cones round your neck, maybe hollow out a small pumpkin to use as a handbag... actually, this could be fun!

The dress is pretty but it doesn't fit the theme. Although I think giving guests a color scheme is bat shit.

I’m not so annoyed by the dress code request. If I had a Halloween party, and said it was fancy dress, I’d be surprised if someone turned up in their everyday clothes and said “I will not be dictated to - you’re just lucky I’m here”. If you don’t want to adhere to the dress code, don’t go. If you accept the invitation, make an effort. The OP said she’s not that close to the bride and groom. It’s hardly like they’ve asked you to buy a silk sari or something.

Depending on size of wedding and how likely it is that you think others will follow theme, I'd say stick to the colours if you don't want to stand out. If it doesn't bother you then wear what you want.
Charity shops are a good shout. I've got a few wedding outfits from them when they aren't a close friend or relative and the chances are I won't wear again.

Can you just wear your dress and get a cardy in green or whatever from a charity shop? No risk of standing out in the photos, and you can take off the rest of the time.
I've never heard of this tread. Made me laugh.

Yikes. "Please don't ruin our colour scheme aesthetic" is a bit cheeky as dress codes go!

I haven’t read the full thread.
I would treat it as a suggestion and meet it if I could, but I don’t think it’s rude not to dress in those colours.
I had people ask if there was a dress code for my husband’s funeral. For such a laid back man he was strictly black dress for funerals. I said we would prefer black attire if possible, but the most important thing was that people came to help us celebrate his life.

Picture is lovely, go for it 😊

That’s just polite speak for the wedding invitation, the implication is that it’s required.

I would respect the dress code - if you don't, you look like you are trying to stand out for attention

. Hit the charity shops

I'd be tempted to go as a pumpkin...
Whilst I appreciate the 'special day' factor, weddings can generally be quite expensive for guests! I think requesting specific colours from the guests is a step too far 😬

Wear a Halloween pumpkin outfit.
Very Autumnal.

I always thought that the beauty of dressing for a wedding is besides being appropriate for the event no is really looking at you all that much.

I think the dress is fine and you will not stand out. Everyone interprets autumn differently anyway

If you really don't have anything more suitable and can't afford anything new, I would do the wrap thing but otherwise I would try to make more of an effort tbh. If you wore that dress even with a coloured wrap and said to someone "guess the theme of the wedding I'm going to", they'd probably never think "autumnal".

I mean, she could wear a red dress which would fit with the 'theme' but I'm not sure anyone would guess the theme as 'autumnal' if you asked them.

This

Bloody rude to suggest what a guest should wear.

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A red dress with the right accessories would look like she'd made a lot more effort than that navy one. I just don't think it gives off any autumnal vibes. And personally I wouldn't be comfortable looking like I hadn't made an effort, especially if I'm not close to the couple.

How close are you to the couple? Are you there for the full day?
I have been to one wedding similar and in the day basically everyone had adhered. Many evening guests didn’t though.

Yes, good point! Surely most of the men will be in navy, grey or black?

Get a really orange fake tan that makes you look like you've been Tango'ed.
Or bring out your inner child and wear a Disney princess outfit.

Yep - this

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