Is it rude to ignore a wedding dress code?

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Haven't been to a wedding for about 10 years so haven't encountered this trend before.

Invite says guests are encouraged to wear autumnal colours- reds, greens, browns or yellows. I don't have anything in these colours, and money is tight at the moment. I do have a wedding appropriate outfit but it is navy with bright flowers.

Would it be unreasonable to just wear this?

This isn't a particulary close friend's wedding but l don't know how to play this! l don't want to stand out as not joining in, but surely not everyone follows these dress codes? Or do they!?

Attention seeking??

Love your dress with the red shoes - could you get other red accessories - bag and wrap? Wear the wrap for the photos

I was always very dismissive of a colour co-ordinated wedding guest requests, however, I went to a posh summer party where guests were invited to wear blue or white or a combination of the 2. I do actually have a blue and white dress so wore that.
All the photos looked amazing, really stunning.
Also a few people did not adhere to the dress code and they did stick out like a sore thumb

Why does the OP have to make an effort to fit in with dictatorial nonsense? As long as people go along with this bullying it will get worse and worse.
If not adhering to the rules means an invitation is withdrawn, think of all the savings made, clothes, travel, gift etc..

It seems to be a really common request for guests nowadays. What do people think about black tie? No OP you’re not being unreasonable.

You're not wearing a white dress so ignore that code. It's really thoughtless and stupid to put these restrictions/demands on guests. B&G either want guests or they don't, who cares really?

If you really don't feel comfortable going in your perfectly good navy dress then decline without any guilt whatsoever but please don't spend money you can't spare on an outfit when you already have one.

If you want to go then wear your dress with pride.

Perhaps ask the bride?

Or got the message and did it on purpose

I've just seen your photo, OP, it's a lovely dress, wear it!

Good grief. Having those they care about celebrating with them on their wedding day should be what matters, not whether the guests disrupt the colour story. Yes, it's their day, but they sound really superficial. Ironically, if they get people pulling out because they're not willing to buy an 'autumnal' outfit, they'll probably carp that people didn't care enough about them to want to celebrate their day.

I would ignore that. It's a ridiculous request.

A friend of mine went to a wedding where the dress code was black and white, but if course no one could wear all white or even mostly white so it was basically black. She said it was very drab.

I don't pander to such requests. I'm giving my time and buying a gift and I'll wear what I want.

Unless it was a fancy dress themed invite such as everyone coming dressed as one of The Teletubbies in which case I wouldn't go and they wouldn't be getting a gift either.

I went to a small wedding a few years ago and all women (about 15 of us) were wearing a shade of pink/purple/blue. It was a complete fluke but the photographer picked up on it and got us to pose for a photo.

The photo looks great. You’d think that we were all part of the bridal party. As I said, it was a fluke, and would be a bit knobby to request the guests to wear a certain colour.

But, autumn aesthetics is a lot to work with. You should be able to find lots of options in a charity shop.

How many men will be adhering to this code?

That's not even a dress code. Dress codes are about formality not a bloody colour theme. If a wedding was a formal black tie event for example I'd expect to be told but it's quite cheeky to expect guests to buy particular colours.

How annoying of them. Social media has really given people some funny ideas.

I would be so annoyed as I have not one single item of clothing in those colours and would not wear those again.

I think it’s a ridiculous request but, if you don’t play along, it’s you who will stand out in any photos.

I would probably wear something plain with a pashmina from the charity shop in a ‘regulation’ colour.

I look awful in autumn colours but I think navy goes with that palette. I'd probably try and tone in but I don't think you have to go full New England.

@tootyflooty why did you encourage women to wear hats?

Do brides (and it will be brides) who stipulate dress codes like this, look back at wedding photos and see people who weren’t adhering strictly to the code think the guests were twats or think they were a twat asking for the dress code?

Hope the men all turn up in yellow suits 😁

Let’s face it. That’s a dress code for the women as men hardly ever buy a new suit for weddings and rarely ever even bother with a new shirt and tie.
so they’ll all be in their black, grey or navy suits or dark green or burgundy if they are particularly adventurous.

just wear your navy dress OP it’ll be fine. I’d say that’s perfectly acceptable for an autumn wedding.

How many pictures do you actually take of all the guests at your wedding? You want photos of people having a good time - dancing, laughing at the speeches, enjoying the food. Setting a dress code is just going to make guests feel uncomfortable/out of pocket.

This actually! How many of the men are worrying about buying a red or yellow suit? Or will they in fact just be wearing their usual 'wedding' suit and adding a green tie.. (and in which case, I see no reason why you can't wear a dress that has elements of the suggested colour code without being entirely in that colour!)

i had a autumn coloured theme for our wedding, including aspects of my dress, but didn’t ask guests to follow those colours. Always makes me laugh when we look back at our photos that the ones we like best are the ones in black and white!

Like I often am, tbh, you might be being a bit narrow on your thoughts on this one, I reckon

I went to an event with work a couple of weeks ago and was told about the dress code.

It pissed me off a little bit, but I semi-complied within the realms of what I had available.

However, as soon as I got there, I saw that there was a wide interpretation of what worked and it was all good.

I admonished myself a bit for getting worked up and enjoyed people's take on things.

Sometimes you can get a bit narrow in trying to read what will work with this kind of thing, just take a little step back and make something work the you can beg/borrow or steal if you have absolutely nothing...even accessories count as on code.

You'll be fine, just enjoy the opportunity to dress up and get a free glass of fizz or two!

Assume the wedding is fairly soon if they've suggested Autumnal colours?
As others have said, I'd pick out the red, yellow or green and wear a pashmina type thing or something as you'd probably need some warmth anyway! It's bloody freezing here today now the sun has disappeared!