Is it rude to ignore a wedding dress code?

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Haven't been to a wedding for about 10 years so haven't encountered this trend before.

Invite says guests are encouraged to wear autumnal colours- reds, greens, browns or yellows. I don't have anything in these colours, and money is tight at the moment. I do have a wedding appropriate outfit but it is navy with bright flowers.

Would it be unreasonable to just wear this?

This isn't a particulary close friend's wedding but l don't know how to play this! l don't want to stand out as not joining in, but surely not everyone follows these dress codes? Or do they!?

Navy is a perfectly acceptable alternative to those colours.

If you're worried I would try and find a scarf or jacket in those colours off vinted

Reading between the lines it appears to say "don't wear bright colours".

Thanks all. This is a photo of me in the potential outfit...l will have a think whether it's a yes or no!

A wrap of some kind in red or gold would go very nicely with that dress.

That dress will be fine - if you can accessorise to pick out either the red or the yellow even better.

Just make up a name for the flowers on the dress (Latin for preference) and say 'I just had to get this because (provide Latin names for flowers) are always my favourite sign of Autumn'.

Navy sounds fine.
Who the hell dictates what colours their guests wear?!
Bizarre.

The child in me would stamp my foot and wear the exact opposite they requested. The adult in me however would well actually would do the same thing. If you want me to wear something specific then you supply it. Thankfully I don’t know any people would would ask this of anyone.

Oh, just seen the pic - that’s lovely 👍

The yellow could be picked out with mustard/gold accessories, or the red with darker reds.
or the dark green. I’d browse the charity shops for some bits to help.

I ignored this once (black and white wedding - all guests had to be in black) and then I was ghosted for 7 years!!!

That dress will be fine. I’d maybe get a green pashmina or cardi to match the stalks/leaves of the flowers and then you’ll be a bit more autumnal but don’t have to shell out a fortune.

Love that! Yes they’re seasonal flowers, all over the hedgerows in (wherever you live) at this time of year

Setting a colour themed dress code, even if fudged as "encouraged" rather than required is far ruder than not adhering to it.

It's also cringey as fuck. Anyone who is that invested in how the photos look as opposed to whether they and theor guests are enjoying themselves and comfortable is an idiot.

You probably dodged a bullet there. Do you really want a relationship with someone who’d stamp their feet because you wore what you bloody wanted?

We went to a wedding where guests were asked to wear pastel colours. We were sent mood boards. A woman in bright red sat next to the aisle. One of the ushers was sent to ask ( tell) her to move because her bright red dress was going to spoil the photos of entry/ exit of bride and groom. The usher was mortified. Red dress woman had to sit at the back on the far end of the row away from the aisle.

I think that dress is fine, and as others have said, a wrap picking up the autumnal colours in the dress would work perfectly. Primark have lots of wraps in at the moment - you'd definitely pick one up for less than a tenner.

I do think the request is ridiculous though. The only time I would adhere to a dress code is if the invite said black tie.

"encouraged", don't see anything wrong with that wording at all, we had an invite that said hats were encouraged for the ladies, not every lady wore a hat, no issue.

Are the bright flowers loosely within the code? If so then definitely wear it.

I'm not buying Autumnal colours, that don't suit me for anyone, and especially for a not particularly close friend, I think I'd decline the invitation if I didn't have something close "enough".

I think we might've been invited to the same wedding! I'll be the one in the bright pink dress😂

Wtf? I’d have moved, if I was red dress woman.
I’d have gone to stand in the doorway and followed the couple in, ensuring I was in every shot.
What a pair of idiots.

Nice dress. Get a dark green or dark red pashmina for the photos.

If there was no issue they shouldn’t have tried to “encourage” it in the first place.

In think when you agree to go you agree to their conditions. Even if its ridiculous.

I think your dress is the complete opposite of autumnal.

If you're happy to stand put and look attention seeking then wear it. Otherwise go find something from a charity shop- there's always tons of occasion wear at this time of year.

I wouldn't ever ask this of my guests but if I went to a wedding qith a dress code I'd either adhere or not go.