To stop dating this man for this?

[Actuallyaperson]

Went on 7 really good dates with a guy. We had a really nice time and great chemistry.

Over the weekend was slept together for the first time and it was great. Admittedly, we did spend a lot of the weekend in bed, as two consenting grown-ups might do. I was definitely a very enthusiastic and consenting participant and had a good time.

The first text he sent me yesterday afternoon, however, was sex related. Not asking how my day was or what I was up to. No niceties. Just sex. We did chat about other stuff after that but it put me off.

I’ve just had another message from him this morning. No “good morning”, no formalities. Just talking about how he couldn’t wait to have sex with me again.

I was supposed to see him tonight for dinner but am short on time. We had talked about whether I might go to his place first, but I had made it clear it might not be possible.

When I reiterated today that it may just be dinner, he sent a list (A LIST!!!) of scheduling options so we could make the timing work to have sex before/after dinner.

I again reiterated that I really thought I’d only have time for dinner and he then proceeded to challenge me on why i couldn’t make the time, and why the suggestions in his “schedules” didn’t work.

Credit to him when I gave him another firm and pretty blunt “no”, he did apologise and said he was happy to wait for another time and just dinner would be lovely.

But now I really don’t want to see him for dinner either. It’s really put me off. I feel like I was a human being up to the point at which I slept with him, but now I’m just there for sex.

AIBU and over sensitive? Do I give him another chance?

@JHound

you do realise other people are entitled to their opinions, they don't have to agree with you? Shocking I know.

maybe he was able to offer lifts, more flexibility in his schedule to meet at different times. It's no different to offering other times/options to a friend that can't meet at 12 for lunch, but could do if you made it 12.30 or offered a lift. If she just didn't want to she should have just said 'No, I only want to meet up for dinner thanks' instead of making weak excuses, which he was hoping to help her fix as they'd had such a great time together.

You quoted the wrong person.

Nowhere in my comment did it say “other people are not entitled to their opinion and they must agree with me.”

No I didn't quote the wrong person.

@14.36 you quoted my post & said ' no means no' & the rest.

That makes no sense. Even by your own quote you acknowledge that my post does not say: “other people are not entitled to their opinion and they must agree with me.”

So if you did not quote the wrong person you simply misread.

Good grief, your comprehension is in need of help.

now, this thread is dead, please stop @@@ me.

The irony in this comment is really rather bemusing.

Be prepared for a 'quickie' behind the restaurant!