Husband kicking off over bath

[Seriouslyhowcouldyounot]

So my husband loves a bath. Loves it!!! But we have one toilet in our house. For a while now I’ve said the second you’re ready to get in let me go to the loo so as to give him the longest time in there before I’m busting again.

tonight it’s all kicked off as I said can you not lock the door as I might be busting. Firstly to fully disclose we’ve been drinking so it goes through me like water, secondly I have a suspected water infection so when I need to go I NEED TO GO. He went nuts saying what’s changed in the 15 years and I should be able to wait 25 mins. Yes maybe I should, maybe I can wait an hour or even two but what if I need to go!!! I said I wouldn’t just burst in I would knock but no apparently I lock the door when I shower FOR 10 minutes so he should be able to bathe for 25. I get he likes a bath but ffs should I have to beg for the right to access to the loo. Am I nuts???

I cannot believe these comments. It's a wee, it takes one minute, it's barely a disturbance? If Op has a water infection and needs to go, he should be fine with her going. Are you women actually pissing in cups and pans when there is a toilet available in the house, because your husband isn't happy for you to enter the room for a minute? Married. This is ridiculous. He can be a bit annoyed but should definitely let you go. I'd be mortified if I'd made my husband or wife piss in a cup when there's a free toilet in the house.

The responses do make it very clear as to which posters have suffered a UTI that causes bladder urgency, and which haven't.

And as ever, the ones who want to wilfully misread - OP is not claiming she has to go every 25 minutes, is already going just before he gets in the bath (assuming he actually lets her know) to try to avoid having to go during his bath... and is really just asking him to leave the door unlocked just in case, and to avoid him having to get out of the bath to unlock it.

That is not unreasonable.

I think what IS unreasonable is monopolising a shared room in order to have a sneaky bath-wank, which is almost certainly what he is doing and why he doesn't want her barging in suddenly.

Goodness no! Never crossed my mind. 👼😱

How about an investment purchase into a collapsible plastic camping urine collector? It has lady-part friendly mouldings so not uncomfortable. Problem solved!

How about DH gets over himself enough to allow his wife to take a pee in the household facilities when she needs to.

Some of these replies can't be real. Telling a fully grown woman to pee in a cup/bucket/pan/water bottle instead of using the toilet in her own house???? WTAF!

My DP dosnt have baths but if he's in the shower and I need a wee I just walk in, say hi, do a wee and leave. It's such a none event and it wouldn't even cross my mind to think twice about it.

Even if he did like taking baths I'm 100% sure that me having a wee wouldn't bother him at all. In fact I'd probably end up having a nice chat with him.

Honestly bizarre.

Why would I not know that if we live in the same house with only one bathroom? It's obviously not very large.

I take it you have missed the fact that she has a UTI and NEEDS TO GO MORE OFTEN THAN NORMAL?

This isnt a regular thing, its just while she has this infection.

thats what makes him a selfish arse.

You both seem a bit spoilt and entitled.

When I was younger I lived in a shared house with one bathroom/loo between 4 couples. I had a little washing up bowl like a potty that lived in my foyer that served for this sort of emergency.

Going back a bit further , when my family moved here from Ireland back in the late fifties and early sixties they lived in tenements that had one loo on the landing of several council flats - so maybe 20-30 people with one toilet.

I now have the luxury of a house with 3 and a half baths shared between my DH and myself but I know I could cope if circumstances changed and we were back to one loo.

No way would DH make me pee in a bucket when he's in the shower - that's completely insane.

we have more than one lavatory but we often sit on the toilet while the other is taking a shower, you know just for a tinkle and a chat.

But I know that's weird for some people to consider if their solution to the problem is to pee in a bucket!

I’m assuming none of you ‘she might need a wee desperately less than half an hour after she’s been’ people aren’t teachers? Or nurses? Or bus drivers?
It’s really not normal. If you can’t go then wait 25 mins (or actually, much longer) then see a doctor. Don’t just accept this bollocks. I’m 59, if that shows I do get the whole menopause thing.

I posted earlier:

... so I simply removed the lock. 10 years on I don't think he's even noticed. Best not to ask.

In the interests of science, and at the risk of destroying a 27-year relationship, I've just asked him if he'd noticed. He hadn't. The way it works for us is astonishingly simple: if one of us is bursting while the other is in the shower, we simply tap on the door, open it a bit and say "I need to pee" and the other one replies "Okay".

I wouldn’t use the loo while my husband was in the bath and he wouldn’t use it if I was.

Seems like the best solution would be for him to have a quick shower only while OP is suffering from this UTI.

If I had a uti and my DH wouldn’t let me in to use the loo I’d feel like battering the door down and peeing in his bath water.

It’s really unsympathetic.

If the OP is experiencing urge incontinence with her UTI, her husband is being extremely selfish. She can't just hold it in for 25 minutes.

She has a UTI!!

As someone who fully understands this she is more than entitled to use her own loo in her own bathroom in her own house.

I've done more than that whilst husband was in the bath when I had a dodgy tummy on holiday.

He's being selfish AF.

Do you have a shed or out house I have one of those camping toilets in my outhouse incase anyone in the shower or bath so then there's no fighting

Or better still, does she have a kind loving husband who understands that she has an actual illness that temporarily requires her to pee more often and leave the door unlocked.

Oh, no she doesnt have one of them.

Why the hell should she have to put herself through the discomfort and humiliation of peeing in a bucket so her Lord and Master can have a bath wank undisturbed?! I would take the goddam lock off the door for the duration.

@Seriouslyhowcouldyounot I've always said the recipe for disaster is one bathroom for more than one person.

My ex husband used to have baths for an hour- and I had literally to pee in son's potty once as so desperate.

Humans need a lavatory each.

But have noticed that in two lavatory {or more} houses, there is always a FAVOURITE Lavatory, {warmer, cosier, more private} - but a bathroom with a lavatory in is is HELL if there is a bath hog in the house.

I think key word here is "shared". Washing is fine, wanking for almost half of an hour - hmmm, do it in the shed, maybe?

I don't know what they do but I've been to the GP and I have an overactive bladder.

Where the fuck is this idea about wanking coming from? I don’t like baths so 8 don’t take them, but I know lots of people who bathe for longer than 25 mins who definitely aren’t wanking. Not that it would matter if they were

Our Grandparents had an outdoor Lavatory - it was papered with old Sunday supplements from 1967/8 - it was a wonderful place for a child , like a scrap screen with fascinating pictures to look at, and a stack of ''Giles'' cartoon books going back many years.

However, in winter it was icy cold.

I think people assume men wank in the shower or bath as it's easy to dispose of the 'evidence' {?}.

Only having one bathroom is ludicrous and obscene!