Husband kicking off over bath

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So my husband loves a bath. Loves it!!! But we have one toilet in our house. For a while now I’ve said the second you’re ready to get in let me go to the loo so as to give him the longest time in there before I’m busting again.

tonight it’s all kicked off as I said can you not lock the door as I might be busting. Firstly to fully disclose we’ve been drinking so it goes through me like water, secondly I have a suspected water infection so when I need to go I NEED TO GO. He went nuts saying what’s changed in the 15 years and I should be able to wait 25 mins. Yes maybe I should, maybe I can wait an hour or even two but what if I need to go!!! I said I wouldn’t just burst in I would knock but no apparently I lock the door when I shower FOR 10 minutes so he should be able to bathe for 25. I get he likes a bath but ffs should I have to beg for the right to access to the loo. Am I nuts???

Why can't you come in and wee when he is in the bath? Why is he locking the door, is he wanking there?

why wouldn't you lock the door when you're in the bathroom, keeps everyone out, including the kids bursting in on you.

I don't want them in there either.

Get a potty.

That's why I reckon the OP should go before his bath. Though it's probably not good for your bladder to go when you don't really need to. I always go before I leave the house though.

I only lock the door when there are other people in the house (not family). Otherwise, why?...

So what if he is? He's entitled to privacy.

Just the knowledge I couldn’t go to the loo would make me need to go, lol. I’m another one who doesn’t get why you don’t just keep the door unlocked - we never lock doors ever. But I couldn’t live in a house with only one bathroom anyway..

@Newtrix

to have a shower wank maybe?

hardly a crime.

25 minutes isn’t a long time at all. I think worth exploring with a GP if you’re so desperate that you can’t wait that long. I do understand knowing you can’t go in and use the toilet because the door is locked makes you want to need the loo more- but even still, 25 minutes shouldn’t be a problem.

Me and dh don’t lock the door and wouldn’t mind if the other needed to pop in for a wee, sometimes we even sit and chat to each other whilst we’re having a bath but I know that’s weird! lol

Just wee somewhere else. He's entitled to an interrupted 25 mins.

She is entitled to do a wee in her own house when she needs it

God you have a lot to learn!!

25 mins to have a bath in peace is not a lot to ask.

That’s not how it works in a shared bathroom though. If you go before someone is using the bathroom, you can’t just then demand to take over a mere 15 mins later.
A 25 minute bath is hardly long.

One bathroom household here. My partner loves a long soak in the bath too, and much longer than 25 mins,.normally about 1 hour. Sometimes I will need to pee whilst he's in there, I have a weak bladder. It's never been an issue, I'm in and out in less than a minute.

Is it just the two of you? If so I find all this locking the door really strange. I live with my DH and two little ones and it’s laughable to think of having a bath with no interruptions 😂

Perimenopausal here too, I also have several damaged nerves that impact my ability to hold my wee.

However, he is asking for less than half an hour, you need to work on your mental focus. I strongly suspect the issue is the fact you know you can't go is making you feel like you need to far more than you actually do.

Your dh could leave the door unlocked, but I there does need to be some privacy in a marriage.

Is there no curtain he can pull around to give privacy if you need to pop in??

well, just asked my 72yo mom and she agrees with me. So, no i don't. I'm disabled, 43, and in menopause thanks, and i can still hold my bladder long enough to let someone use the bath for half an hour without ever needing to burst in and pee.

Maybe some of you ladies should start doing your Kegels.

Angry much?!

I agree! Dads seem to be able to do loads alone too. Mums cannot ever do stuff alone!

Well you are indeed fortunate. My mother who would be 80 now if she was still with us had the same issue.

Not everyone is the same as you.

All the women on here saying you will realise when your older and implying it's impossible for an older lady to go more then 20 minutes without using a toilet how does that work when your at work as in my job I can't just go to the toilet as I please I have to get cover so if that was happening every 20 minutes that would be a big problem also I work with all age groups and nobody is going to the toilet that often

and not everyone is the same as you, so keep your 'you have a lot to learn' to yourself.