Husband kicking off over bath

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So my husband loves a bath. Loves it!!! But we have one toilet in our house. For a while now I’ve said the second you’re ready to get in let me go to the loo so as to give him the longest time in there before I’m busting again.

tonight it’s all kicked off as I said can you not lock the door as I might be busting. Firstly to fully disclose we’ve been drinking so it goes through me like water, secondly I have a suspected water infection so when I need to go I NEED TO GO. He went nuts saying what’s changed in the 15 years and I should be able to wait 25 mins. Yes maybe I should, maybe I can wait an hour or even two but what if I need to go!!! I said I wouldn’t just burst in I would knock but no apparently I lock the door when I shower FOR 10 minutes so he should be able to bathe for 25. I get he likes a bath but ffs should I have to beg for the right to access to the loo. Am I nuts???

I’m not aloud in 🤭

I'm with your dh. Just leave him alone when he's in the bath. If he was hogging the bathroom for hours at a time then I'd get your point, but 25 minutes is nothing. Your insistence on getting into the bathroom when he's clearly asked for privacy is a little odd.

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Sounds like the poor bloke can never have a bath in peace in case you need the loo in the 25 mines he's in there.

I would t have much sympathy for someone drinking with a uti either.

Not sure what's weird about locking the door though. Some of us live with more than just a partner in the house,

I don’t think you should be smelling out the bathroom before his relaxing hot bath

Can you go to the pub across the street? If you're in rural area the bushes are your best friend and if this is an ongoing thing why not build one of those organic loos with compost in the backyard/garden JUST for emergencies? Let your hubby have his 30 mins bath, not the end of the world really....

Do it in his shoe

But you know that isn't normal. Most women wouldn't accept pissing three times an hour as if it's just one of those things.

Have some matches in the bathroom, burn a little bit of paper then throw it down the loo, that kills the smell 100%, I do it whenever someone needs to use the bathroom right after and does the trick.

@99RedBallonz

believe it or not, some people still like privacy when they bathe EVEN when they shower

I'd like the freedom to have a 25 minutes uninterrupted bath every so often. YABU.

I did when I had a UTI. That's when I found out what urge incontinence is about. Fortunately, I live alone (and mostly WFH.)

Fucking hell this site is so anti women sometimes.

You have a need that you can't control, sometimes you are busting to go to the loo because of a UTI (and also because of perimenopause?).

That's a real need.

Those saying you should pee in a cup can piss off!! (No pun intended).

You have a toilet in the house, there is no need to piss in a cup FFS.

Please don't apologise to your DH. He's being selfish and ignoring a real need of yours

No, you can't just hold it if you're busting!

I'm peri-menopausal and I can't hold it for 25 minutes if I'm desperate, no.

Aak him what he thinks you're supposed to do when you are so desperate you can't hold it for 25 minutes.

Are you joking? Rather than interrupting a bath with her spouse, we are now suggesting peeing in containers 😂🤷‍♀️
Hes not in the middle of a military operation - he’s floating in a bath!

The OP isn't saying she needs to wee every 25 minutes, or every time he has a bath. Why are people interpreting it like that?

She's saying if her need to wee coincides with her DH's bath, then waiting 25 minutes could be a problem.

She might not have been for hours before that.

As a bloke I find his behaviour rather disrespectful to his wife. He knows the situation with down there I believe so he knows the score because the same happens to us - just incase you didn't know, its just less common.

With all of this in mind and the fact that you are being very respectful about his bathing wishes by asking him to let you go just before he has a bath then NO there's no problem with asking him to leave the door unlocked whilst you are in the current situation.

Different note though why does he take near 1/2 hour to bath most guys are usually able to take a shower in 7 minutes flat and thats from head to toe - if there are medical reason why he takes his time then I do appologise and understand

It used to piss me off if someone came in for the loo when I'm trying to relax in the bath.

I don't lock the door when I'm showering as I'm in and out but if I ever have a long soak planned I check everyone's been to the loo and I want to be left alone in there to soak

YABU let the man bath in peace, this comes across as him setting a boundary and you wanting to disregard it with your insistence that you have to go RIGHT NOW within the 25 minutes of the day when he wants the bathroom to himself.

Do you have a bucket or garden? Bath time is sacred.

This has blown my mind! Why on earth would you lock the door to shower?

@Skippydoodle peeing in a bucket or pan would cause extreme splashback, mine is like a garden sprinkler! Unless it's a camping toilet/commode type thing with a lid/rim it's not sanitary or dignified for women to pee in buckets and pans!

What’s he actually doing in there? 😕

That was my immediate thought but I didn't want to say it

Tbh it sounds like Op enjoys goading him
He was hoping for 25 mins to relax and have a bath and now she's ruined it.
Tbh if the UTI was that bad she wouldn't be boozing
Nasty

Laughing at this thread......my ds spends hours in the bath and I once had to hop in for a pee which turned into a ' ghost poo' (( I was not aware there was a poo waiting to emerge.

I apologised to ds for breaking the unspoken rule of never shitting in the bathroom when someone else is in there and from behind the shower curtain he replied ' just leave mum. It's done now just go' In the most saddened, traumatised and defeated voice.

And yes, he still spends hours in the damn bath. Lying there marinating himself and topping up with more hot water. And no. We don't have another bathroom.