Husband kicking off over bath

[Seriouslyhowcouldyounot]

So my husband loves a bath. Loves it!!! But we have one toilet in our house. For a while now I’ve said the second you’re ready to get in let me go to the loo so as to give him the longest time in there before I’m busting again.

tonight it’s all kicked off as I said can you not lock the door as I might be busting. Firstly to fully disclose we’ve been drinking so it goes through me like water, secondly I have a suspected water infection so when I need to go I NEED TO GO. He went nuts saying what’s changed in the 15 years and I should be able to wait 25 mins. Yes maybe I should, maybe I can wait an hour or even two but what if I need to go!!! I said I wouldn’t just burst in I would knock but no apparently I lock the door when I shower FOR 10 minutes so he should be able to bathe for 25. I get he likes a bath but ffs should I have to beg for the right to access to the loo. Am I nuts???

We only have the one loo in this house, and so we have a rule that if you're about to go in for a shower or whatever, you check if anyone needs the loo. If you've been asked, and subsequently need to go when someone is in there, you wait or find another option (we live 5 minutes from our local community centre, I've sent the kids there before to use the public toilets). Everyone should be able to get half hour to use the bathroom in peace.

Oh, and I do always lock the door. DH has never, and will never, see me use the toilet!

we used to let people know to use the bathroom if a bath was about to happen.

Its no issue to say 'i'm going to have a bath, go now if you need to go' then you go pee, and he gets the bathroom for his bath.

Its entirely unreasonable to expect someone to leave the door unlocked while they have a 25 minute bath (maybe 35 with bath running time) just 'incase' you need to pee. You're a grown adult, you shouldn't be THAT unable to control your bladder that you can't hang on while he has a bath.

If you are in Oldham and been drinking, you could go out into the street to go like everyone else there does.

(His cup.)

But she wouldn't be desperate as she will have gone while he's running the bath and then can go 25 minutes later after he's had his bath

My husband doesn’t even shut the door when he has a bath, but I do and if he always needed to come in every time I was having a bath it would piss me off. I just want a bit of peace and quiet to chill out when I’m having a bath.

Just you wait!! (presuming you are female!) When I need to go, I need to go NOW! I also have a chronic bowel condition which includes urgency. I have to think ahead to where there will be toilets.

TG we have three toilets at home which are a godsend sometimes! What I'd do in your shoes @Seriouslyhowcouldyounot though would be to have a wee just before he gets in the bath and I should be able to hold on for 25 minutes then.

Is there any room to install a downstairs loo?

you've clearly never shared a house with someone that can't respect your privacy.

I HATE people coming in the bathroom, spouse or not. My exH used to waltz right in and try and get in with me. FUCK OFF. I look after 2 kids all day, i'm allowed to shower in fucking peace.

Please tell me you are kidding 😱

Really?!?

I mean I have sex with my husband. So peeing in front of him is nothing. He’s been inside me…..

Then go as he's running the bath.....

I'm with you. I don't want to witness my husband using the loo or vice versa. We've been together for nearly 40 years and we never have.

How very very odd. I’d be really creeped out if my husband behaved like you, that I couldn’t even have a bath and him telling me I couldn’t lock the door and he’d need to come in as he was unlikely to be able to last 25 mins.

proper ick.

You do understand we are all grown ups and we understand what sex is. And we also I would habe assume all have consummated our marriages. Having sex with someone doesn’t mean we want to piss or shit in front of them. Respect others boundaries.

I mean.

just see if you need to go. If you do end up needing to go just knock and he’ll HAVE TO unlock it 🤷‍♀️

Don't you know anything about a woman's 'plumbing'? Particularly as we get older?

Well if it was me and this if people actually leave me alone I usually listen to a podcast and relax. If I'm having a shower then I'm usually having a one woman concert 🎤 🤩

I can’t believe how many married people are locking the door when they bathe/shower.

Not unreasonable of you at all but mainly just weird you both lock yourself in there!

This thread is insane.

Of course you can have a wee, especially if you're suspecting a UTI.

My DP is always happy to see me, I can't imagine a 10-second wee being an 'invasion of privacy'.

OP, do not apologise for needing to urinate, especially with a suspected UTI.

This nonsense is pure Mumsnet insanity.

@Seriouslyhowcouldyounot Hey I have three bathrooms and if they are all occupied, I have still had to run out and pee in the garden with the dogs!!! 😃

Some of these posters don't have a clue!

Respects each others choice then 😂

pot…..kettle…..black

😂😂😂

I'm presuming he wants a wank in the bath and doesn't want anyone walking in. Which is fine.

Why is it weird? I always lock the door when I'm in the bathroom, whether I'm on the loo or in the bath/shower. It's probably just a habit that I've gotten into over the years.