She bought the same coat as me.

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I treated myself to a new coat and I finally wore it today as it actually felt like the right weather.

Met a friend for dinner and she said how nice it was where did I get it. She then got out her phone and bought it.

I feel a bit annoyed. It’s a coat so an item of clothing that you wear a lot, I wouldn’t be bothered if it was say a top or jeans - but I won’t want to turn up when I meet her both wearing the same thing. Aibu?

I really wouldn't be bothered either. I don't care even a little bit about coats.

None of my friends have copied my style (although they often admire it!) because they have their own style and have the confidence not to have to copy anyone else!

All of this It really would not phase me and I find this 'how can I make this abou' me' thing weird I wear clothes that would not stance out in a situation and that is as fas as I care about clothes I don't care if 20 people had the same top as me or whatever

I need people need to create drama when there is none, maybe they need to feel like they are getting attention or lacking in something but the overcaring of what others do does not seem healthy to me

I’d be mildly annoyed too OP. I don’t want to be wearing the same clothes as my friends! I guess it depends how much you see this friend though.

lol rude??

You must be so annoyed you didn’t get the first post to set the tone and encourage a pile on. You were second though so I can see you tried your best!

People are being so rude to you! There is absolutely no need for the shaming comments.

I would be pretty annoyed about this too. I had a colleague do this to me once. She got her phone out in front of me and bought the dress I was wearing. I thought it was odd and inappropriate.

I had a friend ask where I got a painting I had on my wall. I told I her I couldn’t remember the name of the artist. She took a photo of it and next time I went to her house, there it was, front and centre in a massive frame. That really pissed me off.

I think because your interior decorating and clothing choices are a reflection of you and if you spend time getting it just right and finding pieces that reflect you, it’s horrible when someone just comes along and takes that and presents it as their own.

I dont understand the hate you're getting here. Your friend is very weird

Id never buy the same coat as a friend..

Totally annoying

Really shocked at the yabu comments. I think this is very odd behaviour on your friend's part.

It's very childish of your friend and you should tell her too. I suppose you're not 14 anymore.

I think because your interior decorating and clothing choices are a reflection of you and if you spend time getting it just right and finding pieces that reflect you, it’s horrible when someone just comes along and takes that and presents it as their own.

No-one has the sole rights to a piece of clothing or furniture.

While I agree that whipping out the phone to order exactly the same item is odd I admit to seeing a dress on someone I knew and admiring it. Several months later I ordered the same brand of dress (Dancing Leopard) in a different colour.

We aren't in the same social circles and the dress looks completely different on me as I am a completely different build from her.

It must be quite an unusual looking coat if the OP is concerned that her friend is going to wear it when she is with her. A generic trench coat/parka/black wool coat would not attract attention from anyone.

AIBU?
Anyone who says yes.
NO IM NOT and im gonna write paragraphs and be rude unless you agree with me 🥱 why ask lol

I thought it’s an unwritten rule and curtesy not to openly copy someone, it’s a bit single white female and strange, my friends would ask each other if they minded they bought the same thing out of politeness

It is a bit odd and I believe it is an unwritten rule tbh. If you don't socialise together much then I wouldn't be too peeved. Otherwise, of course you are going to feel uncomfortable rocking up everywhere in an identical coat.

People on Mumsnet acting surprised that you'd be bothered - very disingenuous

OP I am sorry you are being given a hard time by some people on here who I'd expect are just getting a kick out of being horrible.

What your friend did is objectively really weird and I am surprised more people don't think so. It's one thing to go off and think oh that coat was so nice I think I will get it, but to order it when you're right there is so bloody odd!

She could use Google Lens

Well I am gobsmacked that so many claim they wouldn't be annoyed! Who wants to go around looking like a clone! It would put me off the coat actually. I don't think any of my friends would be so crass.

The fact that some posters have chosen to be so rude is also fairly gobsmacking!

If you want to be exclusive go to a tailor and choose the fabric and design.

Otherwise, in this time and age where fast fashion is the norm and mass production is riffe you have plenty of chances for someone wearing the same thing you do.

It’s a coat. The majority are fairly generic, especially if they are black.

It’s no big deal.

Exactly

You are spectacularly missing the point!

Everyone knows that they may meet someone wearing the same garment. That's totally different to going out with someone wearing the same garment.

Why is that such an apparently difficult concept for some people to comprehend??

They're actually not. I have various colours of coat and only one of them is black. I have a houndstooth one that is very glamorous and I love it. If a friend went out with me wearing the same one, we would look like clowns. I've got red, khaki, pink, mustard, navy etc. I don't do generic much!

When you go out with someone, you can take it off if going in the car/indoors. Or if someone simply can’t possibly wear the same coat as someone else, wear a different coat around them. Problem solved.

Such a lazy reply. People are capable of different worries all at the same time.