She bought the same coat as me.

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I treated myself to a new coat and I finally wore it today as it actually felt like the right weather.

Met a friend for dinner and she said how nice it was where did I get it. She then got out her phone and bought it.

I feel a bit annoyed. It’s a coat so an item of clothing that you wear a lot, I wouldn’t be bothered if it was say a top or jeans - but I won’t want to turn up when I meet her both wearing the same thing. Aibu?

Um, maybe just tell her you feel a bit upset?

This. Honestly the desperate competitiveness and preciousness about never being copied is beyond petty and ridiculous. If something is nice it's nice. End of story.

I agree, it's annoying

I have reached an age where I know what I like and I don't like, and I would feel like a dick if out wearing the same coat as my friend.

I am a similar build and height to most of my friends, so it would just look stupid. I don't care what other people think - this is about what I want and don't want.

Am not a petty person at all but I see why you are annoyed a coat is something that you will end up wearing most days in the winter she should've looked for something similar let's hope she has the common sense not to wear it when meeting you .

Actually 12 year olds are often deep in the phase of aping each other, so no, she doesn’t sound 12.

Honestly the desperate competitiveness and preciousness about never being copied is beyond petty and ridiculous. If something is nice it's nice. End of story.

I couldn't agree more.

No-one copies my clothing choices. Maybe I should be upset

That's different. I'm not going out with them.

Not read all the posts criticising you, OP, as I would have been really pissed off, too. I hope it doesn't suit her & she has to return it.

Imitation is a sincere form of flattery

You must look really nice in it !
So she decided to get the exact same coat .
I'm not sure how I feel about that 🤔 I’ve not had that happen to me .
I had a compliment on a skirt I was wearing , a total stranger told me it was lovely .
I told her it was Monsoon but that it was 2 years old so she was unlikely to find it now .
A couple of relatives of mine do have 2 or 3 of the same tops totally by accident so shows we have similar taste in clothing.

I wish I had your problem

Take it as a compliment, I have when friends have done the same. One time I was annoyed but it was a different situation. Working hard, first few years of a new job, and saw a lovely coat but thought I would wait til the sales as couldn't justify the splurge. Few weeks later saw my SIL wearing the same one. She had been on benefits since leaving school, which she barely attended, got her payment and spent it all on it! And no, no disabilities, just very, very lazy and spoilt. Xx

Unwritten rule.

You have no idea what other problems OP also has.

I had a friend fall out with me on holiday once because she liked the same coat in Zara and she'd put it on her Christmas list and I bought the same one on holiday but a different colour. She made me take it back 🤣 I thought it was pathetic. It's not like you are with your friend 24/7. Who cares if you've got the same coat

My MIL did this to me 😳 With a very loud, brightly coloured coat. She got a different colour way, but it was still highly embarrassing.

I would be annoyed but I would be ok if she bought a different colour.
I would love to see the coat though

I know it's already been said but I've always been really irritated when someone does this.
I know "imitation is the sincerest form of flattery" and there are bigger issues, but it's bloody annoying. It will be even worse if your other friends think that SHE is the stylish trend setter.
And there are more petty AIBU on here that people sympathise with 😉

I would be annoyed.
Extreme example - I have a friend who asks the make of something I'm wearing and if I can't remember or too slow, she yanks my neckline to see the label.
It's just rude.

Totally understand why you’d be annoyed, I had a friend through childhood who would do the same with toys all sorts…and if she couldn’t get her own version mine ended up missing found a load of my stuff under her bed once!
clothes are worse if you see each other often and a coat is an everyday wear in winter so I’m with you op.

But I do want a new coat and yours must be really nice for someone else to want it so I’d love a link in DM’s ☺️🙈🫠😬 difference is I wouldn’t be sat next to you in it 🙏

My friend copied my wedding venue (she asked permission first)
same make up artist that a bunch of us used for our weddings we had all recommended her to each other when we got married
i think she used different caterers
possibly her wedding outfit was also from the same shop?
I didn’t care we had totally different weddings and I was a bridesmaid for hers and really happy to do a speech etc. our friendship meant that we were happy to share the best of what we had come across with each other.
Another friend loved my dress I bought on ASOS and was asking me where it was from. So I ordered it for her and sent it to her address as a surprise ans she was so chuffed. What does it matter if someone has the same stuff!

Gosh, how rude are you!!!

I really wouldn’t! I’m not trying to be competitively unbothered but there are people here In the real world who genuinely don’t care.

im absolutely gobsmacked so many MN would be upset.

cue the next thread ‘I don’t have any friends’

@MissFancyDay like @Seeingisbelievin I really wouldn't be bothered. I'm not being competitively unbothered either. It's just not important to me.

Nobody copies me anyway, so I must have a terrible taste in clothes