To not be happy with new teacher so far because of this

[Chilli89]

1. I messaged her about something and she said she would sort it a few days ago and that someone would be in touch the next day and I’ve heard nothing
2. We were told reading books had come home and I messaged the same day saying my D son hadn’t got his and they still haven’t supplied one for him
3. they were in the line at drop off. he wanted help so approached her. She shouted at me ‘don’t shout at me, I won’t talk at you if you shout at me’ in a really angry face. She didn’t know I was stood there, he did not shout, I heard the whole thing

aibu to not be happy so far?

my d son has only just turned 5. In Y1

No wonder Teaching is on the decline as a job. The demands are insane.

What help and support does the child need? He certainly doesn’t “need” to be stepping out of the line interrupting the teacher.

I think the only reason he left the line was because his teacher said ‘who else can see someone they know’ so he came up in front of her and said something probably along the lines of ‘ I can see my mummy’. I don’t know where the fact shouting came from as I could barely hear what he had said to her. She just then lost her patience.

it was definitely him that she shouted at. All the other kids were to the side of her. She was looking straight ahead at him when she shouted, waving arms around and looking cross

He is struggling a bit as I’ve mentioned. He does get quite emotional. He holds it in at school I think and then lets it out when he gets home

This morning at drop off, he was clinging to me and didn’t want to go in

You get bitches in teaching as well as any other workplace, I don't get all this defending of them no matter what. She's wrong to have shouted like that at your little boy. poor kid

If you can't understand that talking to the teacher and seeing if there is anything you personally can do to help, then that's a shame, petitchat.

The pressure on teachers is crazy. Have you read any other threads on here lately?

And I do feel the constant contact with teachers must be a lot for them. You no longer need to make an appointment (or wait for parents evening) to chat over any concerns. Now you can message any time. Imagine 30 parents messaging to ask questions constantly. 30 parents who are expecting individual replies outside of your working hours. It's crazy that we demand this now.

Maybe asking yourself, and the teacher, if there's anything you can do to make things better for everyone is a good thing.

Its week 1 of school I'd cut her some slack bar the shouting thing.

1. She probably has passed it on to whoever needs to deal with it and its off her radar now. I'd give it more time - our school are very slow at getting things sorted esp start of terms.
2. Use a home book. We had a few points last year where we didn't get a book each week. We just read something we had at home and noted in it the homework journal that he didn't have a school book. You've told the teacher, it is now down to her to supply one. If she isn't then use a home book so you aren't missing out on homework/learning. I always find using a home book better as they ready those school books a hundred times over the week so can recite them not read them.
3. Personally I would speak to my DS about it, make sure he understands not to interrupt and stay in line and if it happens again raise it with her/headteacher.

The incident at hometime can be interpreted in different ways. It's not the red flag for me. The lack of books being sent home is a bad sign. Year 1s need to be reading every single day. Giving them books at the right level is one of the priorities for the start of the year. If nothing comes home today, I would definitely be contacting the school. I believe the Op has already questioned the lack of books with the teacher so I would go above her head at this point.

lots of people have pressurised jobs, they dont resort to shouting at their colleagues, or a 5 year old child. if she cant do the job without shouting at the kids she needs to leave.

He did do as he was told.

What help and support does the child need??

I truly hope you're not a teacher

I’m not, but maybe you could actually answer the question?

OP, if your child still hasn’t got a book and the teacher has ignored/forgotten your message, I would approach her at the end of school and ask if it would be possible for your child to have a book to bring home - I would assume the teacher would want him to have one. As to the shouting, let it go, unless it happens again.

So sorry OP. Hope he'll be alright and soon settle in.

You seem to have it wrong?
It was the teacher who invited the messaging.

As for helping her, I would never support anyone who has bullied and upset a child.

Raising your voice isn't bullying.

If someone has to explain to you what 5 year olds need, you have quite a problem in my opinion.

I understand the teacher invited the messaging. I'm just saying it's an added pressure that a lot of teachers have to offer that I don't agree with.

And I'm glad you've never felt frustrated, or felt the need to raise your voice, or be snappy at your children. I can hold my hand up and say I have done it. Doesn't make me, or the teacher a bully, it makes us human.

she shouted and yes it is bullying

She didn't lose her rag she told yje bou off for misbejaving

Does he have a loud voice? maybe sounds like he shouts? could he be a shouter in class?

Just wondering if she has him down as a shouter already hence the over reaction (which still is not on) x

This! Ignore the people saying not to raise this issue. If this teacher made a mistake then a calm talk with her about your son starting to get anxious/refuse school will let her know that she needs to give him extra love and reassurance. If she is a competent teacher she will step up. If she is incompetent then, like allot of posters here, she will retreat into angry self justifications and lash out telling you the 5 year old needs to “toughen up” or learn to be disciplined and never draw attention to himself. Then you need to escalate to the head or move him.

In what way was he misbehaving?
OP was there and she confirms he wasn't shouting.

Your story seems to be added to now with arms waving in the air while shouting and other parents with raised eyebrows. If that happened why didnt you wait til the other children had gone and if you were so sure it was about your son approach her to find out what the issue was? Or better yet speak to the ht seeing as you have a playground of witnesses.
It has also changed from your son needed help to he was going out of line presumably not waiting his turn because he could see you. Honestly parents who can never accept their child is in wrong and need to be reminded of rules really make teachers jobs 100 times harder.
It's Friday of week 2. Many children are tired and don't want to go to school after 6 weeks off it can take a while to get back into routine.