To not be happy with new teacher so far because of this

[Chilli89]

1. I messaged her about something and she said she would sort it a few days ago and that someone would be in touch the next day and I’ve heard nothing
2. We were told reading books had come home and I messaged the same day saying my D son hadn’t got his and they still haven’t supplied one for him
3. they were in the line at drop off. he wanted help so approached her. She shouted at me ‘don’t shout at me, I won’t talk at you if you shout at me’ in a really angry face. She didn’t know I was stood there, he did not shout, I heard the whole thing

aibu to not be happy so far?

my d son has only just turned 5. In Y1

May not apply as you say your child is the only one without a book sent home but all of my daughters class- year 4- are still waiting as the previous government decided to change the phonics teaching method and all children have to be re-assessed to see current level before receiving a book for home. Teachers haven't had much time to learn the system themselves yet.

The most fascinating comments here are always the posters who rush, practically trampling each other in their haste, to remind OP that its very important that a five year old realize how very unimportant he is to his teacher. He is only 1/30, he is .000 something of significance, how important is it to learn never to get out of line or draw attention to himself. And god forbid OP message the teacher or check on the status of materials! How impudent snd selfish and demanding!

Its so obvious that this simple incident, for many posters, serves as an important cultural act or training tool: putting parents and children in their place. Low on the totem pole. Not drawing attention to themselves. Accepting shit treatment if its doled out by whatever temporary authority is nearest.

That's not true. Different schools follow different phonics schemes. There's no one scheme. There has been no word from the new government yet about changes to teaching phonics.

Also @SuperFishy year 4s aren't routinely taught phonics unless they need to catch up.

god forbid OP message the teacher

Yes, even though the teacher has asked to be messaged.....

I had an issue with my DS ‘s first infant teacher, she really appeared to be picking on my pleasant, shy little boy. Another parent told me that this teacher didn’t like boys. I saw the head and he sympathised and said unfortunately he couldn’t get rid of her. I decided to move schools for my son. It was the best move I ever made, it was a much better school. The move empowered my son.

Wow. Really??

In my opinion (ex primary teacher) this is completely unacceptable - all of it!
It is their JOB and they are not fulfilling it.

I would agree that OP should cut the teacher some slack, if it was just one thing, but all three is just incompetence.

Why should people stop complaining about schools?! It is a service - though tbh more of a childcare service now than an education - that is paid for with 'our' money, and it is not the only option to educate your child.

Unfortunately I have come across more than a few teachers who don't actually like children 🙁This tends to be what happens when people go into teaching as a job rather than a vocation.

Good for you! Most people have however. My post isn't full of excuses, just about 15 years give or take of teaching experience.

Thanks for the explanation on how to teach, from someone who was last in the classroom when they were at school.
Most teachers shout from time to time- it's not ideal, but it happens. We're not robots, or saints, and yes, some would probably rather be doing other jobs. Unlike you never making a mistake once in a whole career, most teachers have good days and bad days.
I agree that those who can't control their temper and/or routinely shout probably shouldn't be teaching, but in this case, it's the start of the year. Let's cut the lady some slack- I went from being a rubbish teacher (my own opinion) to an inspiring one (I've been told this by many parents and now older pupils when I see them about) and it took time....only the very best teachers can do it well straight away.

What decade was this? Be very surprised to hear about a HT sharing details of a teacher's performance management with parents....

That's what we've been told by my daughters school, so I can only go by experience.

I'm not a teacher so again, I can only go by what the school is telling us. Which is that because the phonics is changing, they need to be retested.

Does she not mean 4 year olds?

There must be a misunderstanding- Year 4 kids aren't taught phonics.

It's always helpful as some people don't know the other perspective of the reality faced. Soon there will be no teachers in front of a class to even criticise. If this teacher screamed at the child then I think O.P would have gone straight to the head instead of coming on here. Raising your voice or yes even shouting at times is sometimes necessary to keep children safe. Perhaps the teacher was checking another child and who they were walking to, perhaps there was a safeguarding incident involving another child and in that moment the teacher felt distracted by the little child happily declaring their mum was there. Teachers are not robots and are human and in a very stressful demanding all encompassing job.

And children are not scapegoats....

I was surprised too at the lack of professionalism from the Head. Another reason tho move my DS.

You were right to message about his book, if they expect kids to read at home & message asking that they do then they should have given him his book so making her aware he didn't have his was right.
When she shouted at your child you should have stepped forward & said 'Excuse me he didn't shout at you & I'd appreciate it if you don't shout at him like that again' Sometimes we have to be our Childs voice because if the kids speak up they're accused of back chat or being rude. If you witness something speak up there & then then it won't be dragged out or leave you feeling as you do now.