To not be happy with new teacher so far because of this

[Chilli89]

1. I messaged her about something and she said she would sort it a few days ago and that someone would be in touch the next day and I’ve heard nothing
2. We were told reading books had come home and I messaged the same day saying my D son hadn’t got his and they still haven’t supplied one for him
3. they were in the line at drop off. he wanted help so approached her. She shouted at me ‘don’t shout at me, I won’t talk at you if you shout at me’ in a really angry face. She didn’t know I was stood there, he did not shout, I heard the whole thing

aibu to not be happy so far?

my d son has only just turned 5. In Y1

Did you manage to sort the book today @Chilli89?

Shouting at any child like this isn't ok, especially a 5 yr old. Arrange a brief meet with her before putting your experience in writing to the head: yelling at a very young child in the first week isn't a good sign and it may be that the head needs to support this teacher with managing her class ASAP.

I'm really sorry about some of the, frankly, bloody awful responses you've had on here OP! Your son deserved better. If his teacher is so bloody stressed after the first week back at school she's definitely in the wrong job and it's only going to get worse. My grandson had this from one teacher but strangely he loved her and never noticed. He'd constantly try to get her attention that he could see his Mum but was ignored. This happened on multiple occasions and I just wonder if some children are just 'less noticable' than others. He was last to be released every single time!! She didn't dislike him in any way and didn't shout at him which would have had me having some words with her!! And, yes I do know how difficult teaching is, I trained as a teacher and after a short period realised my short fuse wasn't the right match for that job but I have family and friends who endure, survive and thrive in their work because they are dedicated and have the right mindset!

So with a class of 10 your child’s teacher has just a third of the job that the OP’s teacher has, a third of the hassle at every stage of the day. As a teacher, I promise you there is no comparison.

So many people saying the teacher's in the wrong job. I am almost certain that by the end of term she'll have come to a similar conclusion, as will thousands of her colleagues. Teaching has become almost impossible.

Hence I said "so I know it's different".

But this teacher has also taught a class of 30 and that is just her personality. As does my best friend, who is a wonderful, compassionate, kind person.

You know it’s different, yet you compared.

And as we are all reminded on MN, private school parents are pushy and pressuring so I suspect her workload isn't a third. After all, she still has to teach from 8:30-5 everyday with lunch spent supervising the children eating their lunch. So everything has it's own pressures.

No - I compared her approach - firm but kind.

Warm hugs.

she seems overwelmed op. I would trade with caution. She has your ds for a whole year and will likely have bounds with all the other staff.

i would suggest : you don’t say something this time however you do react on the go if it ever happen again. Do not message her again but tell her face to face what you need her to know/do. Stay in front of her until you have that book/ check the book is in the bag in front of the class and ask is it is not there.

it is so harsh for a 5 year old. Hope it all goes well.

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Increasing numbers of teachers are deciding that they are “in the wrong job”. What is your plan for addressing the teacher shortage?

Even today I've had to explain to ds22 that some people are just arses and that he will come across many more in life.

Not great that you might need to explain this to your ds5 OP, so just give him love and support until either his Teacher has a better day or finds another pupil to pick on if she/he is truly an arse.

Was the message that books were being sent home that day, or that they would be sent home shortly and this is what we would like to happen when they do. Hence he has not yet been given a book.

I ask because when my kids were at primary they never got their books to take home in the first couple of weeks. They were all assessed for reading level first, which took time, each new school year.

If this is the case and their comms have been confusing, she's probably had 30 parents all asking where their books are.

Indeed.

It seems hard to unpick from what you've described. It sounds like she might have an unfair prejudice against your DS, but she may also just be stressed. I do wonder if he's been playing up in class a bit, the way she's responding to him (not that it excuses it).

In terms of advice about what to do, I'd say give it another week without messaging and see what happens.

At least if she doesn't give him a book, or shouts at him for not having a book having forgotten she's not given him one yet, you'll have something definite to focus your concern on.

So he did leave the line. That's why she raised her voice to him She was trying to hand children to their respective parents and didn't need someone in her face asking questions. I expect they had been told before they left the classroom to stay in the line. He didn't. He and you need to get over him being spoken to sharply. It happens.

Overstretched! Oh come on. It’s her job. It’s what she gets paid for.

To shout at a small boy when they’re are all new to school is a bitch thing to do. NOT a good teacher. No patience.

She’s just had 6 weeks off and only has 6 weeks to go to her next holiday.

And yes she does have these holidays as my dsis is a teacher and she doesn’t work through the hols as some folk seem to think 😂

Still no book but didn't get the chance to speak to the teacher after school. A Pastoral Manager did contact me today as his teacher had a discussion with her and she's going to give me a call to see what is making him unsettled and emotional as I have mentioned he lets it all out when he gets home. They think it's possible that he may be masking at school

https://www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/articles/z863cxs
It's actually quite common, if you read above. Hopefully he's just tired.

You have done nothing wrong OP.
Your child should have the book. Continue to message the teacher until you get it. It is part of her job to do this.
Also she definitely should not have shouted at him for no reason. That could really affect the confidence of a shy child who plucked up the courage to speak to their teacher. I am shocked to hear how she reacted.

Imagine there were 5 people eating food in a restaurant. The waiter took their orders but only brought food for 4 of the people. The 5th person asked politely about their food but the waiter started shouting at the person. Is this acceptable? No. The waiter might be busy but he still needs to bring everybody's food and be polite. That's their job.
It's the same for teachers. They have to do their jobs and be respectful to parents and children.

Never let anybody make you feel you are being a nuisance advocating for your child.

The teacher asked the children to come to her and tell her when they see a parent. This is what the other children did. Only OPs son was shouted at when he did it.

Cut her some slack.
She shouldn't have shouted but she's human.
Concentrate on supporting your child and let the class - and your kid - bed in before adding to the stress.

I'm sad reading your post as this is the reality of having your child at school. Mine are now older and I know when the new teachers say 'please always speak to us' they don't actually mean it. They want to hear from you as little as possible, they are not interested in knowing how much your child may be struggling in the mornings, that their lunch pack is missing, or whether s/he has finished reading their book.

Yes, yes, so many children... Parents must be unreasonable.

Like many jobs, teaching is a job that you only really discover if you want to do it/are any good at it when you actually do it, not during the training.
And trust me, there's a lot more than ' a bit of pressure' in teaching!

Blah blah blah…. One week into school and you’re already on at the poor teacher who has to sort out 30 children, 30 reading books, 30 lost jumpers etc etc give that teacher a break!!!!