For wanting to photoshop a photo of a friend

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Had a lovely holiday with some friends, I was the designated photographer so I sent all of the photos to everyone afterwards and told them to send the ones back they want uploaded to social media. All was fine however one friend sent back a picture and on closer inspection I would feel more comfortable photoshopping part of it. I don't want to upset my friend so I was thinking of just doing it without telling her but then I think if she looks at it compared to the original and she notices then she will be offended. Would it be unreasonable to just edit it without telling her?

You want to photoshop your friend because you think she should be uncomfortable with how she looks when she isn't? Am I reading that right?

You want to photoshop your friend’s image to makeYOU more comfortable? You are bang out of order. Upload it and move on.

What are you wanting to change?

No sorry I worded it poorly. I’m wanting to photoshop it because I don’t like something about the original picture. But I don’t want my friend to be upset that I photoshopped some of her

Is her nipple on show or something like that?

Designated photographer?! What?! Didn't everyone just take their own or did you have a DSLR?

What is worrying you about this particular photo then?

Don’t do this, OP. My dad photoshopped my Y11 prom photos without asking me (to brighten my skin and get rid of a couple of spots) and it still rankles me now, aged 30.

Something along those lines

Well, what do you want to Photoshop out?

Your friend’s chubby arm - not okay. A bit of spinach in her teeth - fine.

Is it the picture as a whole that you don’t like? Like the lighting or something in the background? Or is it something to do with her specifically?

Would you be photoshopping her, or yourself, or the scenery?

Editing to remove redeye, or to take out a palm tree that seems to be growing out of her head, fine. Editing yourself, also ok. Editing her body, not really ok.

I am a hobby photographer so I have good quality cameras and can take good photos and I enjoy it so everyone leaves the photography up to me :).

I will not be sharing the photo on this forum because of privacy

If it’s on her body then what’s wrong with just messaging, hey X I’d love to post this but just realised half your nip is out! Shall I remove it from the photo? Or you happy for me to just post. Have a great day!

Something to do with her

Editing her clothes to cover her body up more isn’t really on.

If she had a wardrobe malfunction presumably she wouldn’t be sharing the photo far and wide, so I assume you just think she looks a bit slutty in whatever she’s wearing?

If her tit is out just reply and say did you realise your tit is out are you sure you want me to post it.

Jesus, this is like pulling teeth

Nobody’s asking you to share the photo. It’s just a bit difficult to say whether what you want to edit is acceptable or not if you won’t say what it is 🤦🏼‍♀️

Are you worried that reflects on you as a photographer? Because that would be ridiculous. If it's because you think she looks like she should be uncomfortable but she clearly isn't that's unreasonable too.

It depends.

If you want to do it because she’s accidentally exposing herself, or she’s got a big bogey hanging out of her nose, then fair enough. If you really do have her best interests at heart and it’s a dreadful photo, you could be excused for accidentally deleting it.

But if you just want to improve her general appearance then absolutely not. What is going on in your head?

Just bloody tell us what the issue is.

No one can say really without knowing what kind of change you're talking about

Is it something that would embarrass her?

Dripfeed 🙄

What's wrong with her in the picture?

No no not at all. There’s some noticeable hairs visible from an area that a bikini usually covers. The thing is I’m not sure if my friend noticed and she doesn’t mind or she didn’t notice. If it’s latter then I could get away with photoshopping it however if it’s the former she might be offended that I asked to edit it out.

But surely she picked the photo so she’s happy with how she looks?

Can you not let them put their own photos on social media like most people do, or is this not allowed?